She thinks we should get one less expensive, (I purchased it at $1300, not too high or low), and prefers one that is one solid color; in other words, a similar ring with identical diamonds, but white diamonds instead of yellow and white, and yellow gold instead of white gold. I feel like she is rejecting the ring I got her for something different, am I being foolish?
2006-11-15 10:39:06 · 17 answers · asked by politechaos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let it bother you, just let her choose the ring she likes, she will be wearing it for the rest of her life. And if she wants one that is less expensive thats great , she is trying to save you money.
2006-11-15 11:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are funny about their engagement rings. My husband and I shopped for mine, I didn't really want the 2 parter ring, so my engagement ring ended up being my wedding ring. But when I found the one that made my heart sing, my fiance jumped to buy it. If he had picked it out, I would have been happy, but he knew i liked what I liked and showed me in so many ways he cared what I thought, by taking me with him to shop. I think if you are having issues about the ring, there may be some things you want to take a good hard look at. Sounds like your girl is thinking ahead, wanting a less expensive ring (I did the same) and being practical. But if you think she should like the one you picked, I would sit her down and talk about it. These are the best days of any relationship and if they suck now, it doesn't usually get better. And honey, if no one has told you yet, communication is the most important thing you can have in getting through ANY difficulty. Think about that! Good luck!
2006-11-15 10:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not being foolish, but if she wears only yellow gold and the ring is white gold, then I think you should have given your purchase a little more thought. I think you may have bought a ring that you liked, and didn't consider if she would like it. Be gracious and go with her to pick out one that's right for her.....
2006-11-15 11:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by P-Nut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should count your blessings that she is not wanting something too expensive. Her frugality will be a positive thing in years to come! Also, SHE is the one who will have to wear that ring for the rest of her life, not you! Let her have something on her finger for all eternity that she likes. Just because she wants a slightly different ring should not make you feel that she's rejecting YOU or anything. It would have been wise for you to go TOGETHER to pick out the ring in the first place.....
2006-11-15 11:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by picassoesque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is the ring she is going to have to live with for the rest of her life. I hate yellow diamonds, why get it except on a pendant? White gold probably doesn't look good on her skin and she doesn't feel happy. I told my husband straight up I wanted a one carat diamond solitaire with a gold band, simple as that. She is definitely rejecting it, and for a good reason, plus the proposal probably sucked like all of them naturally do, and she probably wants you to re propose with the different ring. Do something great, we women love romantic stuff, not dinner, just an intimate moment
2006-11-15 10:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I think you're very sweet. Although she should just appreciate the ring you bought for her, it sounds like she just wants the one she wants. Because she's gonna wear it forever, she might as well like it.
To be honest, it sounds like a kooky ring, with yellow diamonds and whatnot. I would try and let her get what she wants and just smile and nod on this one.
2006-11-15 10:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. When I got engaged I loved the ring my boyfriend got me, but there were some things I wanted to change. He reacted the same way you did. He sat down and told me how he felt about it, and I learned that he put alot of thought into picking out the ring he did. So what we did was when it came time to get the wedding band, I picked mine out the way I wanted it.
Try telling her your reasons for getting the ring you did, and that you put alot of thought into it. If she still wants to change it suggest that she maybe just switch the band?
2006-11-15 10:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Gina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it really isn't that big of a deal to exchange the ring. You know you really want her to like the rings that she commits to wearing everyday...right?
As long as it is not an heirloom passed down to you from previous generations..I don't see it as that big of a deal!
I'm sure you put a lot of thought into this purchase and that is great...don't take it as an insult...she's not rejecting you!!
2006-11-15 10:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So? She likes a different ring, AND wants to save money in the process. Don't be so sensitive, and count your blessings.
My husband would never dream of buying any jewelry for me. We went shopping for a ring together, and I chose the precise one I wanted. Doing anything else would be unthinkable. Perhaps your fiancé is practical and particular; there's nothing wrong with it - simply adjust your tactics accordingly, and take her jewelry shopping next time you want to get her a piece of jewelry. Congrats!
2006-11-15 10:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel so bad. my husband got the most perfect ring for me. exactly what i would have picked and i have never ever even told him of any preference i have had.
well...if she is trying to go for something more simple, maybe she feels you spent to much money on her? some women feel slightly guilty about having so much money on one finger. sit down with her and talk to her. tell her you will upgrade on your ten year aniversary. and as for feeling foolish, it always sucks when you didn't get the reaction you expected. it's how you react that really makes a difference.
2006-11-15 10:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋