My Fiance is in Japan because he's in the army and thats where he was stationed...He has only been gone not even two weeks and its so hard already. He's not going to be home until June when we are getting married.... does anyone know anything that helps it not be so hard to be away from him?
He was gone for three months and came home for 12 days...I thought that might make it a little easier at first but i think it only made it harder...
2006-11-15 11:20:06 · 22 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absense makes the heart grow fonder but it can also feel very lonely. I would try writing back and forth if possible. And find a hobby to occupy your time.
2006-11-15 11:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully and being a woman you probably don't want this answer, but you should find someone or someones to play around with until he gets back . If you do this don't tell him or feel guilty it won't serve any purpose other then to ruin your relationship. He's a man I promise you he is doing the same thing . It's kinda an written rule amongst men in the military . I mean there is a reason they say " when the cats away the mice will play " . So have fun ! Either that or get some really time consuming hobbies , volunteer somewhere , spend lots of time with friends and family .
2006-11-15 19:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by the_red_emperor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate long distance relationships... but at least he's coming home in June for good.
You have to keep yourself very very busy from morning until you crash into bed at night. Work, go to school, take up new hobbies, do charity work, make friends to go out with... but make sure you don't talk about your fiance to your friends, because they will soon get sick of that conversation.... is there any possible way you could save money and pay him a surprise visit to Japan in a couple of months?? Anyway, stay busy and improve yourself while the two of you are apart.
2006-11-15 19:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat sister. My husband of 4 years is currently deployed in Iraq for the second time :-( And I find that keeping busy helps me keep my mind off of things. You might want to join a gym or find a new hobby. If you are going to marry a military man you are going to have to get use to not having him around all the time. The one thing I can tell you is that once he comes back home you'll notice that your relationship is much more stronger.
2006-11-15 19:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send pictures or even better, video of yourselves to each other. Write letters, talk on the phone as much as possible, text, Instant Message, try to viist...
It will be difficult - you love each other and you are separated for a long period of time. Try not to focus on the long-term and concentrate on today so the time apart doesn't seem so overwhelming.
Spend your time planning your wedding - take your mind off of missing him. Prepare your house for your soon-to-be-husband to come home, spend time with family & friends now...once you're married and he comes home after being gone, you'll probably be spending a lot of time with him and not your friends & family. It's tough, but worth it if it makes you happy.
Be proud of what he is doing and support him the best you can until he comes home.
Congratulations on your marriage! Wish you the best in getting through to June without him. (:
2006-11-15 19:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww sweety i know exactly where you are right now. i actually dated a guy that was in sesapo japan in the navy.. okay this is all i can suggest, be honest with how you feel, when your angry and want to cry do it, if he calls you, have phone sex and just let him know that you are still his and waiting for his return.. try doing something for yourself and him while he's gone, i don't know i was like 20 pounds over weight for my height so while he was gone i worked out alot and tried to start eating right.. i wrote him everytime i missed him and let him know that i am proud of him and that i do miss him.. but i didn't like telling him how much i was hurting because it just made him more upset and a little iffy about trusting me because he knew how much of a sex fiend i was.. so i would say take this time for yourself and have fun with your friends and just try to be there for him in the ways he needs and i'm sure things will be fine.. let him know what really means alot to you and i'm sure that he will do everything he can to try to make it a little easier on you...good luck and let him know that we are all proud of him.....
2006-11-15 19:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Melissa, hand written letters are still the number one relief for this agony from both ends. When separated from loved ones, writing is the best. I was with the Army for 24 years and letters were the thing that made our days. We had video dairies, cell phones with photos and Internet with video. All these are nice, but the written word was "it" and "all that".
2006-11-15 19:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will hurt but that pain will only intensify if you do nothing but dwell on it. You need to take this time to be productive. Learn a skill, paint a picture, throw a small dinner party between some of your friends. Write him letters and send small gifts and in the meantime plan one hell of a wedding!
2006-11-15 19:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bloody Wing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother just got out of the army. It was really hard for him and his wife. Wrighting him in an email and stuff helps out alot. remeber all the good times that you have and look forward to the future it will be over before you know it and you'll be in thier arms.If you have kids dvd recorders help out alot for christmas and everything even if you don't have kids right now its nice to know that there still loved and people are waiting for them to be home.
2006-11-15 19:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew better...
But I'll say keep has busy as possible. Go out with friends, work like crazy, take night classes. The Idea is to fill the void with activities.
Like I said I wish I had a beter Idea.
Good luck to you and yours
2006-11-15 19:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jeronimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋