after my divorce i contacted my high school love.had not had contact with him in many yrs and did not know what to expect.he told me he was married w/child but after talking to him he told me he had thought about me often and was very unhappy in his marrage.one thing lead to anouther and we had sex(not planed just happened) and he left his wife for me.he spent many nights crying to me about how mean his wife was but stayed for thier son.we have been together for about 5 mos. and things seemed like a dream.he would spend hours just looking at me and saying things like "i can't believe its you","you are the most beutiful person in the world","i love u baby" and would brag about me to everyone we met.well i just found out he has been sleeping with someone at work!i also know he told her he would never leave me for her so its just sex hes after.when i asked him about it he denied it and i did not push it.if a man really loves his gf why would he cheat on her even if it was just sex not lov
2006-11-15 11:36:21 · 17 answers · asked by jimmymack09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. If he cheated on his wife for you. He will cheat on you with someone else.
2006-11-15 11:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by ~Leading Lady~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please, please think long and hard about what I'm about to say. . . a person that is unfaithful once only may change, more than once, NOOOOO! I can tell you from years of experience and a trifecta of cheaters that it is not going to change. First of all, two people are in a marriage and if he is quick to blame everything on the ex to justify cheating. . . . Your turn will come for him to leave you. Sex is rarely about just sex, it involves self-esteem, power, thrill-seeking you name it. Furthermore, never believe what the other chick tells you. More than once I or a friend of mine lied to the other woman on behalf of the man so as not to "lose" him. They feed everyone a line, she'll get the house, money, car. I even had one guy tell me he hadn't left his wife because she had cancer and she needed to stay positive. She was healthy as a horse. Please, girl, just get out now. Make a clean break. Move on. And lord no matter what don't have a child with this man, because then the pain just compounds. Love yourself first, then someone worthy will love you.
2006-11-15 11:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by ape2016 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that after a divorce, a lot of people go through a sl*tty phase. They don't know what the want, they don't know who they are. It's possible that he needs time to be alone and figure this stuff out. Try taking a break for a while, I know you don't want to hear that, but few people can have successful relationships RIGHT after a divorce. Give you both some time to get over past relationships. Keep the friendship so that when he's ready he can come to you. It worries me that he's not taking you seriously, but if you want a monogomous relationship, you need to give him some time to regroup. Good luck!
2006-11-15 11:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be rude or hurt you in any way, but this guy left his wife for you, and now he's cheating on you too! he fed you a line and you fell for it hook, line, and sinker. you should have had enough respect for his wife and yourself not to have done this in the first place, but you've done it and you have to live with the consequences. a bad reputation being the least of the problems.
I'm sure this guys wife isn't the monster he made her out to be in front of you. she could probably tell you a lot about him that you don't want to know.
anyway, kick this loser out and don't listen to another word he has to say. he's just getting started on doing to you just exactly what he did to his wife!
2006-11-15 11:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't have your permission to sleep around what makes you think you are any different than his wife. He even has a child with his ex. Shame on you and him. If a man really did love his girlfriend why would he leave his wife for her and then sleep around.......because he doesn't love anything but himself.
2006-11-15 11:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reality of this is no matter how lovingly someone looks into your eyes and says all the pretty words you cannot live your life like that.
I suggest you take some control over your life and leave this person for someone who doesn't have so much baggage.
2006-11-15 11:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How can you put up with all your boyfriend's sordidness?
Did you ever speak with his wife and get her side of the story, or did you just jump in and break up his marriage?
He obviously has no character and any future with him will be full of cheating.
2006-11-15 11:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your getting just what you deserve, just like he left his previous wife for you, you can expect him to leave you for his new g/f he cheating on you with or someone else. So enjoy being the cheating on g/f. I don't feel sorry for you.
2006-11-15 11:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men just can't help themselves. In most cases its low self esteem and they want to be wanted. As much as you love this guy don't stay with him.
2006-11-15 11:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Alyss K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like you always think that these men will change, but they dont. Dont you be surprised when he leaves you for antoher woman. He probably got tired of her and will soon tire of you. Be smart, stay away from men like this.
2006-11-15 11:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋