Marriage & Divorce - 12 October 2006

I have been working it out for almost 6 yrs. I wanted him because he was good looking and it made me feel better about myself and because the sex was better than I'd ever experienced. He never hit it off with my kids and was border-line abusive but kept vowing to work on getting better and he has a little on his temper but still not good. he used the kids as a reason to cheat more than once so I cheated to get even and still somehow we vowed to work it out and be a good family. He still lies about dumb things, is never home when he says, can't be counted on and never fallows through what he says. He wants to drink and smoke daily and I am a social drinker only these days. every time I try to leave him he says he'll do all these changes but never does, i am depressed and getting fatter everyday and yet I cant stand the thought of him being with anyone else. He has moved our family over 20 times in 5 yrs and is horrible at paying bills but I have no income without him. HELP!! answers??

2006-10-12 06:08:32 · 19 answers · asked by Brandy A 2

when two people get divorced, is it usually a mutual decision, or does one person usually make the divorce happen? Is it usually the man or the woman? for what reason did you get divorced? I have always wondered that.

2006-10-12 06:06:12 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

my best friend has just bought a dyson vacume as his wifes anniversary present, what makes it worse he did a deal and got an iron half price which he's planning to give to her as her christmas present... a right charmer or what... whats your worst present of your partner?...............

2006-10-12 05:57:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does anyone have any ideas for marriage counseling when your health insurance doesnt cover it? We have Blue Cross ins. and they dont cover marriage counseling. I have an appt with my priest, but it honestly bothers me to discuss my marriage to a man who has never been married or isn't allow to marry. Has anyone used a priests help for this issue and been happy with the results? Or are there other avenues to pursue? I suspect infidelity on my husbands part, and we have talked, and i do think he made a mistake and we have agreed to try to fix us, its just that i dont have the skills to forgive and forget and i want to try. I know most people would say leave now. but when you have 2 small kids and 10 years together and you still love and WANT to forgive and forget, its easier said than done. I am financially able to make it on my own and have the capabilities to leave, but for the sake of my marriage, I want to try to fix it and give my husband ONE more chance.

2006-10-12 05:56:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I 'm confused at how easy it was to forgive her for cheating. I have not and do not believe that she will do it again, it was really easy to say I forgive you. Anyone else find it easy to forgive spouses that have wronged you alittle or a lot ?

2006-10-12 05:54:35 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's been over one week since my birthday and my husband of 4 years has not bought me anything. He said he will in his card, but has not and has not even spoke about it. I am very hurt and do not know if I should just forget it or bring up to him? I really don't feel I should bring it up to him, he should know on his own, he is a grown man.

2006-10-12 05:49:19 · 9 answers · asked by GQ69 2

2006-10-12 05:47:10 · 14 answers · asked by MIKELIL 1

I have a friend who is married but he says he calls chat lines talk to girls but just flirts but never has intentions on meeting up with the woman he talks to although he does get the number and calls them sometime but he says it just for conversation. I dont beleive him even though he has no reason to lie to me. Do you think a man can talk to woman on the phone and not meet up with them?

2006-10-12 05:44:27 · 22 answers · asked by Life is what it is! :))))))))) 3

I am a white man who has been happily married for 4 years. I decided to suprise my wife by doing some housework, so I washed all the clothes, folded them, and put them away. In the process, I found a large black dildo in my wife's dresser drawer. I have not confronted her yet because I want to calm down and think. Does this mean that I am not satisfying her? Does the fact that it is black mean that she is bored or hungry for something different? Can you help me undertstand? I don't want sympathy...just raw honesty.

2006-10-12 05:25:11 · 40 answers · asked by JJ J 1

Yesterday I over heard my wife talking on the phone to a friend about our marriage.She didnt know i could hear her. She was telling a girlfriend that she dosent know if she is happy with our marrage. She thinks she wants to divorce. We have 2 young boys 2 & 3. I have been helping her as much as possable with the house and the boys. I'm self employed about 10-12 hours a day. I help cook dinner, clean dishes and give the kids baths befor bed time. She stays home with them to care for them. She has changed towards me emotionally and physically. a year ago joined the gym and lost about 25 lbs. Im in the best shape of my life. I really dont know what to do. She does not know i heard her on the phone. Should i tell her I heard her on the phone? What shoudl i do? I so confused?

2006-10-12 05:23:59 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-12 05:17:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last night, my husband and I both checked our e-mails at midnight before going to bed. Turned out, we both had our long-anticipated World of Warcraft expansion beta codes sent to us! Well, I had to go to bed cuz I had to get up early next morning. I asked him to please refrain from logging into beta and playing without me. Well, he snuck out of bed, went through the Dark Portal, and was up all night exploring the Outland! I feel it just isn't right - I was the one to introduce him to this game a year and a half ago, and we've been playing together ever since. IS THIS CHEATING???

(Oh, yeah, and he got to level 60 before I did... I think this is cheating, too!!)

Should I leave??? (I could leave the server we're playing on, and transfer my character to a different server!)

2006-10-12 05:16:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

... It is not spelled "divorse".
Not only do you people have spell check but it is written in the category (Marriage & Divorce).
Let's get it right next time. OK.

2006-10-12 05:16:07 · 31 answers · asked by BORED AT WORK 5

My husband and I have been married 6 years and we are in our early 30s - I want to start a family but he thinks he is too young. Is he?

2006-10-12 05:12:29 · 14 answers · asked by misscynic 2

Does absence make the heart grow fonder, or out of sight, out of mind?

2006-10-12 05:11:32 · 19 answers · asked by Sweetheart 2

Well I just recently got married and I am loving every mintue. Now I know I can't change myself unless I want to, but I am a very emoitional person. Lately I have been really attached to my husband to the point were I will start crying just thinking about having to go to work and what not. I know I am not pregnant I have checked! I was wondering if you had this type of thing happen to you and how you went about adjusting this issue. I don't want to not be attached I just feel I am a little overly attached. Any recommendations are apperciated! Thanks!

2006-10-12 05:08:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has all of these girls from work that he is now friends with. we are haveing problems in our marrage because he isnt ready for family and thier is this one girl that he talks to all of the time and I told him I didnt like it and he said that their is no way he is doing any thing with her but why wont he let me hear them talk and also why wont he let me get to know her.

2006-10-12 05:08:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

such as trying to analyze her and understand her, or would women like the man who DON"T look at the small details of her personality? or ignoring the small details of her behavior and personality.

2006-10-12 04:56:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-12 04:52:17 · 17 answers · asked by gen2 3

what is the most sexiest thing that a husband can do during sex or making love. from a woman point of view.

2006-10-12 04:50:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, my husband has this girlfriend, yet, "there just friends". Do i look like i was born yesterday....anyway...i emailed her a nasty email from his yahoo account, and he got his hands on it. Even though i deleted it after I sent it. He says he has a computer genius friend that got it back for him, i say she forwarded it to his work account. He says she dont know his work email.....yah right! I say its impossible to get back deleted emails from free web-based email accounts, he thinks i'm stupid and told me "his friend did it". What do you guys think? Did his friend get those emails back for him, or is the b*tch forwarding my emails to his work account? And then more than likely STILL communicating with him via his work email?

2006-10-12 04:45:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

They keep fighting calling eachother names, then when one turns their back the other one talks trash. These are my parents i don't want to hear them say this.... I try and talk to them but they don't listen? Wut do i do?

2006-10-12 04:44:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband phone had a number that he called and talked a long time, a couple of times. Should I call the number? If its a women, should I ask her questions or just wait until other odd things happen?

2006-10-12 04:43:32 · 56 answers · asked by Key Key 2

or husband and wife are not like minded what is there? only quarrel?

2006-10-12 04:41:38 · 9 answers · asked by usha r 1

We're going in Nov. to get married and if anyone has any suggestions on where to get married and some cool things to do I would appreciate it. I've already checked out several sites on the net. I would like some personal opinions. thanks

2006-10-12 04:40:46 · 8 answers · asked by vero06 1

First of all let me start with the fact that we do not have children, just yet. We are working on having kids and currently we both work full-time office jobs. We finally realized the other day that we want me (the wife) to start to stay at home. There are many reasons behind this but I won't go into it now.

I will be working on getting my cake business up and running so that I may provide a second income. We really want this to happen soon because we know that we have been pushing it off for too long. So I am asking for suggestions or tips from others who have experienced this before.

To give you a glimpse of our financial situation: My husband’s finances will cover our bills (if we sell one of our cars) with $50 to spare at the end of the month. In the bills I'm including groceries, gas, etc.

I do plan on working a couple temp jobs, like 5-10 /month to bring in extra cash until the cake business really picks up.

I would really appreciate to hear from everyone! :o)

2006-10-12 04:34:56 · 22 answers · asked by Julie 3

We have been married for 4+ years; we have one child together and three stepchildren between us. For the most part we get along, however, our relationship is very surface level… almost like roommates. He is a very hard worker in order to support his family… putting in an average of 60+ hours a week. His hours at work are usually 9am until 9pm or later making family time nearly impossible. Weekends are packed with all the things that he is not able to do during the week due to his work schedule: golfing is a huge pastime, fishing, work on his truck… the other spare minutes are spent drinking beer or sleeping. His relationship with the kids consists of telling them what to do or goodnight.
I also work a fulltime position that may not be as strenuous as his, however, is still very challenging. I am also the main partner in charge of the house – cleaning, maintaining, groceries, cooking, taxi for the kids, paying all the bills, maintaining a budget and financial planning. I attend all school related functions for our children by myself. Most weekends I am alone with the kids while he is in his own world.
For some time now I have tried to open a line of communication like we once had. Wanting to talk with him about plans, the kids, my feelings etc. Wanting to spend quality time with him talking and sharing – yes it sounds corny but isn’t he supposed to be my best friend?
His brother also lives with us and has for two years now- another huge strain on our relationship. The brother does not work nor does he contribute in anyway to the family – financially or physically. I am at wits end and have been promised for a year now that this would be rectified. He is still there and nothing has ever been discussed with him.
Recently my spouse and I were in an argument about all of the above and his response to me was – why can’t we be married and me just not communicate with you? I explained that marriage doesn’t work that way and he states its just because its not ‘my way’.
I am so frustrated because I do love this man, so do my children. But at the same time I hate feeling so alone in a relationship… what do I do???

2006-10-12 04:34:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

would feel too guilty to divorce and are afraid to kill yourself since you will go to hell if you do?

2006-10-12 04:31:20 · 12 answers · asked by jeremy k 1

i love his family and he loves mine. His family loves me, and mine loves him! Plus our families get along GREAT! I LOVE HIM! oh yea.... im only 17

2006-10-12 04:30:24 · 22 answers · asked by Jessi S 1

My stepkids liked me for about 5 years when they were young. Then father took us to court and lost. Last 2 years he has spent trying to convince them how terrible I am. According to him if we buy them something nice we are trying to buy them. If we don't buy them what they want we are punishing them for choosing him over me. 16 yr girl used to love me, won't even speak to me now. Never really got close to boy. 12 year stepdaughter adores me. I just love her, that's all. I used to always support the kids. I would ask them if they had called him lately. I would ask if they wanted extra time with him, etc... Not any more. Wife wants me to go out of my way to try and win them back. I am tired of the game. She is trying to force me on them. They are the ones that pushed me away. I am refusing and she is very angry that I don't do what I am told. She won't go to them and ask them to be nice to me. I am supposed to make all the effort and I refuse. Can't I just avoid them.

2006-10-12 04:30:02 · 10 answers · asked by TK 2