Husbands Cell Phone?

Question

My husband phone had a number that he called and talked a long time, a couple of times. Should I call the number? If its a women, should I ask her questions or just wait until other odd things happen?

Answer 1

First ask yourself this.....in your heart of hearts.....do you believe that he is cheating? Whatever this first gut instinct is, that is your answer. For you to ask this question, I think that you must have that feeling.

If that ISN'T the case, and you are just insecure for whatever the reason.......checking the cell phone isn't cool. You should have more trust for him, and more self respect for yourself. If you have reason to believe he's cheating, OTHER than the phone, then address it, and get it out in the open.

But if you want to play Sherlock Holmes-ette, then you better be prepared for what you will find, and be prepared to DO something about it. Because think......if you DO find out something is going on, what are you prepared to DO about it? What? Cry? Scream? Fight? Nag? LEAVE? DIVORCE???
How far are you willing to go???

And when you DO know what ACTION you will take, you better be prepared to STAND by it. Otherwise you set up a pattern of being all talk and no follow through and you won't be respected because you haven't displayed that respect is what you demand.

Decide what you will do if the situation is what you suspect. Speak with your husband about it, and do it calmly, letting him know that you need COMPLETE honesty. Whatever his answer is, take him at his word, until you discover otherwise. If he lies to your face......no need in getting your blood pressure raised by looking for stuff.......it'll come out WITHOUT you searching for it. It always does.....but my point is that you better be ready to DO something about it, otherwise be quiet about it. Letting him know you know isn't gonna do a darn thing if there isn't a consequence involved.

Also......never be foolish enough to CALL a woman. You will get your feelings hurt just for having the AUDACITY to do it. I know that when I was single, when the woman involved with which ever man I gave the cell number too, would call me.....
I wouldn't lie to her, but I'd tell her every gory detail about how he pursued me, how she meant nothing cause I didn't even know about her, and how much of a pest her man was for calling me all the time.

See, I didn't give a darn about HIM OR HER. So, I would really be smug and abrasive. Depending on HOW she addressed me on the phone, I may even ADD stuff to the story just to make sure she'd cry about it. So......don't go looking for stuff. If stuff is there, it'll come out. And if you "KNOW" something, then trust your first mind....you KNOW. You don't need proof. IF something is wrong, that gut feeling is your proof, cause you KNOW something is off.
BUT don't get all huffy puffy like you are gonna do something about it, if you know deep down, that you aren't going anywhere.
Keep your mouth shut if you aren't gonna put action WITH your words.

This tip is coming from the stand point of the single woman who was pursued by married men and men in relationships.....
AS WELL AS (after I got married) the wife of a man who was less than honest.

I DID something about the breach of trust. I told my husband that ANY act of infidelity, or cheating would result in divorce. I suspected things, and asked about it. Ofcourse he denied it. So, I left it at that. I knew, and I told him that in time, all things done in the dark would be brought to the light, so there was no need in me conducting any investigations.
Well, three and a half years later, the proof 'fell into my lap', and in the latter part of August, I filed for divorce. And I'm following through with that. He had been warned, I asked him when I suspected, and now I'm done. He has begged, cried, cussed, threatened, and groveled. But it's still over.

If the man you married doesn't respect you....then number one, you married the wrong man. And number two.....you should atleast respect YOURSELF enough not to continue to allow yourself to be with someone who thinks so little of you.

Answer 2

Call the number using a different phone...maybe a public phone, see who answers. Act like you are a telemarketer or something...if it is a home phone, you might not be talking to the person your husband spoke with...but if it is a cell phone then you can be sure that the person on the other line is the one he spoke to. Who knows, it could be a colleague or a relative. Anyway, if you can act as a telemarketer and at least get a name (an address would be great, too, in case you want to see who the person is)...be cautious, and don't blame your husband until you are totally sure that something not right is going on. If he says he is going out, or going to be late, propose meeting up (example: "I will meet you outside the office" or "Can I come with you") and see his reaction. If, after a couple of times, he keeps making an excuse or really insists on you not being with him...something is up.

Answer 3

Call the number blocked by using (*67) before the number. If its a woman then you have the right to know, why they are on the phone. Tell her exactly like this, "Hi, Im - -, I found your phone number in my husband - -'s phone. I want to know who you are and why you are talking to my husband. Because that is my husband I deserve to know what is really going on here." You never know if he told her he was single or divorce or what he told her. You have to get all the facts from her before you approach him. Don't get loud with her only if she starts getting loud and talking ****. Depending on her attitude, you should ask her if she'd meet up with you at a coffee shop or something, to get all the facts. If you tell your husband before getting the facts, he'll flip the script on you b/c you don't know any of the information of what really happened. What you can also do is go to 411.com and put in the reverse phone lookup the phone number and get a name and address to that number. However, now in days everyone uses cell phones, so if it is a cell phone than you won't be able track it. Finally, if it is a woman what are you planning to do with your husband? are you going to leave him? try to make it work? b/c if you are going to try to make it work, then there is no use even pursuing anything. All its going to do is bring unneccessary tension to your relationship. All you found was the problem, no solution.

Answer 4

Ask your husband about it. Let him tell you the truth. It could just be a business call. If that's the case you don't want to get your husband in trouble by calling the number. If he has done this in the past, then you should worry. But if not then give him a chance to explain the weird calls.

Answer 5

Nah....Cummon Lady give him a break. If your husband has given you any reason to be suspicious before, just talk to him and ofcourse he is going to deny it. there are ways you can find out who the # belongs to other than calling the #.

Also, why are u looking at ur husband cell phone records.....thats the start of the end of your relationship. I'm sorry to say that but unless you do some serious damage control.....within urself and then with your husband........your are already on the road to destroying your relationship.

Hope things gets better for you.

Answer 6

If that's all you have, leave it be. But more important, has he cheated on you before? He must have or at least you have a suspicion that he has. Why else would you be checking his phone calls? Seems to be an issue of mistrust, & that is the most important thing in a marriage. The calls could have been for work. You didn't give many specifics. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Write down the number, then ask your husband about it. If he is vague or unwilling to answer, or if you don't believe whatever he tells you, then give it a call. There may be a very good reason behind these calls, and you should give your husband the chance to tell you about it first... If it turns out to be a business or business contact you'd feel bad for calling and possibly embarrassing your husband.

Answer 8

There is a web site you called Reverse Look-up where you can put in the number and find out who owns the cell phone. You may try just asking him as well.

Answer 9

That is how I caught my ex husband cheating. I called him on a Saturday when he was out and the line was busy. Then I checked the cell bills and noticed he called this number a lot.

Answer 10

Don't ask questions if you don't want to hear the answer. Only do it if you are prepared to deal with the possibility that he is being unfaithful. You can also run the number through www.reversephonedirectory.com If it's a published land line you can look up the address. Or just ask him. Good luck, uncertainty sucks.