Does anyone have any ideas for marriage counseling when your health insurance doesnt cover it? We have Blue Cross ins. and they dont cover marriage counseling. I have an appt with my priest, but it honestly bothers me to discuss my marriage to a man who has never been married or isn't allow to marry. Has anyone used a priests help for this issue and been happy with the results? Or are there other avenues to pursue? I suspect infidelity on my husbands part, and we have talked, and i do think he made a mistake and we have agreed to try to fix us, its just that i dont have the skills to forgive and forget and i want to try. I know most people would say leave now. but when you have 2 small kids and 10 years together and you still love and WANT to forgive and forget, its easier said than done. I am financially able to make it on my own and have the capabilities to leave, but for the sake of my marriage, I want to try to fix it and give my husband ONE more chance.
2006-10-12 05:56:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please just answer the question and dont judge me on my choice to try to fix it. we all have choices to make and this is mine. sorry if some of you might not agree.
2006-10-12 05:57:06 · update #1
Well, i see your point with the priest. But if you really want to save your marraige and want counseling (which is a great idea) then your gonna have to pay for it. Theres no other way.
2006-10-12 05:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 20:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you about marriage counseling with a priest. No offense to priests but, they've never actually BEEN married so how are they supposed to help?
Have you thought about seeking help from outside your denomination? (Lutheran pastors are allowed to marry, so they might be able to help you.)
If this is not something you're willing to try, look up marriage counselors in your area and just check to see what they charge and if this is something you can afford.
If not, then perhaps they have a list of support groups that may help you. It's not private counseling, but sometimes it's better to know you're not the only couple with problems.
Good luck, I know it isn't easy but no marriage is perfect. It's better to give it everything you've got before throwing in the towel.
2006-10-12 06:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[W]e went through that last year, same thing 10 years 2 kids now 3. Insurance didn't cover it except for the first 3x. We just had to grin a bear the cost. We felt that the money was worth it as we did get our marriage back on track and we have a better one that we had before. Sounds like everything is the same if you read my first question that I asked on this Yahoo Answers. I would seek a marriage/family counseling and give it a try. You learn a lot more about yourself and your partner if you are both willing and wanting to work at it longer. Contact me if you want to talk further and maybe I could even get you in touch with my wife to see it from her side.
2006-10-12 06:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by [B] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't waste your time/money or energy on marriage coun$eling. The only one that benefits is the marriage Counselor. They don't have the magic formula for forgiving or forgetting. You have the key to your solution right in your question. You and your husband have to both want to fix it. I'll bet you a buck he doesn't think he did anything wrong and you are just overacting and will just get over it. May I add if you give your husband this one chance there really is no reason to give him chance number 3, 4 and 5. How much are really expecting him to change? People really never change very much, unless there is a big wake up call. Is your husband on board with seeing the Priest? I would be surprised if he was. Good Luck and welcome to married life after 10 years.
2006-10-12 06:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't judge anyone for trying to work on a marriage, at least your not giving up. The pastor at our church councils married couples, he is baptist and been married like 100 years or something. The reason you go to a priest, rabbi or pastor, is because they should show you things in the Bible that help with family and marriage. It's not because they have been married a long time. So just because he has never been married doesn't mean he doesn't know what he is talking about. If the things he says are coming directly from the Bible you have nothing to worry about. I think it is actually a better choice.
If I were having marital problems my pastor would be the first person I called.
2006-10-12 06:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The priest is probably the best route for your current situation. Although he's never been married himself, he will still try to help you save your marriage. It won't hurt to talk to him, but if that doesn't work out, call around to a few different counselors/psychologists and explain the situation. Maybe one of them has a slow week and can see you two for a discounted rate a few times.
Good for you to give him a second chance, sometimes you don't realize how much you love someone until you almost lose them.
2006-10-12 06:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So...what are these "skills" you're referring to when you need to forgive and forget. Look...you may be able to forgive but you'll never forget. trust was breached. That takes a goddamn long, long time to bring back to where it was.
carry on as you used to. You aren't being mistrustful. You just have an idea as to what to watch for in the future and detect any warning signs.
Also...forget the priest...waste of time. As far as counselling goes....work it on your own. What a counselor will tell you you could have figured out for yourselves.
2006-10-12 06:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too stayed until I tried every avenue opened to me and my marriage. I do not regret that decision. But I would have regretted it and had second thoughts about it if I had not tried everything. I do not know about you but my marriage and my children were worth the fight. Counseling, church, prayer, a support system, mutual agreements, accountability, investigators, following, everything and anything. It was my marriage and by God I was gonna fight for it.
2006-10-12 06:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, good for you on making a decision that is YOURS!
Second, you may want to look in your area for women centers. These places offer counseling at a discounted rate (ie. 8 sessions for $100.00) and they are with licensed therapists. They also offer support groups for women and couples.
2006-10-12 06:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋