Marriage & Divorce - 12 October 2006

My husband and I got in a huge fight and I said I wanted a divorce. As soon as the words came out of my mouth I tried to take it back. I honestly didn't mean it. He became so angry and told me just leave him alone. He had to go out of town for work and I've called and called and he won't answer the phone. I don't know what to do. He is the kind of guy who needs time to get over things. I am just worried sick that I have destroyed my marriage. I know nothing I say or do right now is going to make him talk to me. I don't want to loose my husband and I am so scared that I have pushed him away. I guess what I am asking have any married couples thrown those words out and gotten past it? How long can you not talk to your husband or wife? I just want to know things are going to be okay but he won't talk to me. Any thoughts on this would be helpful.

2006-10-12 02:41:14 · 14 answers · asked by faith 5

he binge drinks and has HIgh Blood pressure and Diabeties I am a nurse so i know the actions that lie behind this but what can I do to stop getting hurt in the long run. Not only that the days that this happen it comes home around 1am or 2am and yes I know for sure that he is not cheating.

2006-10-12 02:33:45 · 8 answers · asked by nunaberry98 2

Ok an ex friend of mine has threatened to report that I am with a man which makes me very happy, but yet I am still married because my husband refuses to give me a divorce, I have been having a difficult time trying to find a good way to get my divorce but not having any luck. could anyone please help me?

2006-10-12 02:27:13 · 4 answers · asked by Boo G 2

oh people please help! there is an operation for virginitiy or not,becos my marriage is going to take place the coming months and i'm not a virgin,any person have an idear.

2006-10-12 02:17:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

its not that he drinks everyday, maybe 1-2 times a week but when he does he gets really wrecked and is abusive. he argue's about stupid things and is generally a horrible person... he is the exact opposite whan he sober and we have a wonderfull marriage but i just never know if he is going to turn up from work drunk or what mood he will be in? i cant deal with the abuse and i feel really depressed but i also feel that i cant live without him...
we have spoken about this problem and he admits that he should'nt drink but once he starts he just cant stop... what should i do???

2006-10-12 02:17:38 · 40 answers · asked by lp261084 2

when he is always tired or he says he have a headache?

2006-10-12 02:16:00 · 12 answers · asked by holla 2

I am curious to know what men and women think of cyber flirting and cyber sex??? Would you consider that behavior to be cheating on your current relationship? If you do it and think it is fine, what would you think if you found your partner was doing it as well??? How do you feel about the idea of your partner chatting with a person of the opposite sex online...even if there is no sexual overtones to the relationship?? Would you want to know if your partner was involved in an online friendship (again, nothing sexual) with a member of the opposite sex??

2006-10-12 02:14:53 · 21 answers · asked by Annie 6

It is hard on my new relationship. It has caused alot of problems and fighting. For three years, my boyfriend has given it his all in trying to get the kids approval. They are l8, 20, and l2. On top of it all, the kids snub me a little and talk to my parents about what a geek he is. This is very hurtful to him and makes me mad. Will it ever change? Will I ever be able to share a meal with my 3 kids and the man I love at Christmas or ever? What can I do to fix this? It makes life miserable when we all can't be together.

2006-10-12 02:12:03 · 19 answers · asked by lucy p 2

I am very alone in my marriage. My wife is clearly unhappy (check most recent question to get details on that). I want to make her happy again and crave this marriage and desire me. But my problem is, I find it difficult to give and give and give with nothing in return. I also find it difficult to hide my pain and my hurt. I want to smile and laugh with her, I want to act like everything is ok and normal, but how do I go about doing that on a consistent basis. It seems like I can do it for a short period of time but when nothing changes or I am not receiving her love or desire in return, I either become angry or sad. I just don't know how to act in this situation. i don't want to seperate, we have a daughter and i just won't leave my family. But it's very tough trying to find the best way to handle this situation. Sometimes I'm afraid if I show too much happiness, she'll think I'm ok with where things are. But if I show I'm hurt, she will be turned away from even more. Help

2006-10-12 02:11:48 · 7 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1

I'm a single boy, I'd like to get marriaged.But I don't know about marriage. Which one is the good for you (Marriage or Single) and why? Can you give me your good ideas. Thanks

2006-10-12 02:07:45 · 13 answers · asked by PhotoARTist 3

How are you going to stop her if she wants to?

2006-10-12 02:04:37 · 25 answers · asked by Perseus 3

If they made marriages as expensive as divorces i dont think we would see half as many people taking the "plunge" so quickly then running into problems. Do you?

2006-10-12 01:57:15 · 6 answers · asked by falling_down23 2

and I came across a locked strong box, i decided to open it since I had never seen it before and didn't know she had one.well it took me a good 45 mins get get it open,There were nude pictures of my wife with serveral different men and dozens of letters and copies of e-mails and 15 discs of movies of her doing horrible things and thousands of dollars as well, I was shocked needless to say. As I read the letters and I came to realize that she had lost her job some months ago and was now a semi expensive whore.
She had been enjoying this lifestyle, I went to her computer checked her yahoo archives and there was so many conversations from other men that she had meet and was going to meet for sex and it looked like she was enjoying her self to boot
I then confronted her when she got home from work,She broke down and told me everything. I was about to tell her to get the hell out then she showed me the bank account statement that she had set up. continued ran out of room

2006-10-12 01:56:23 · 38 answers · asked by Wondering If ? 1

2006-10-12 01:56:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 9 years, we've been together since graduating HS (she is 2 years younger than me). We have two children now. We had our first kid at a very young age.

She has an eating disorder and also has told me she was molested by a trusted family member at a young age (I've know for awhile).

I have anger/control issues and seem to take them all out of the family verbally. I have been the opposite of what she needs.

The last few years she has been finding her emotional support with old friends (online and in person).

Recently she went to Vegas on some questionable grounds. She started birth control 30 days before going. We got into a fight when she got back regarding all the trips she wants to go on and now she needs space and wants to leave. I have convinced her to stay for now. She says wants space and want to go on another trip to get away.

I must know if she cheated on me. I understand if she did, but how do I ask without chasing her away forever?

2006-10-12 01:55:57 · 10 answers · asked by nice guy 1

i found out yesterday that my wife took a pic of herslef topless on a dare with her cell phone and then a "old" male friend of hers sent her a pic of his cock. heres what gets me i had asked here many times to do things like this for me and she always said "NO" but here she is doing this on a dare for an old friend. I'm turned on but also want to know if i should believe her there is nothing going on. please any help would be appreciated

2006-10-12 01:53:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want her to be satisfied completly, and I am not well endowed. She cums several times when I go down on her, but it's not often she cums when we umpf....Do you think this is a good idea......Meet a perfict stranger in another town, someone who we will never see again? Has anyone tried this??

2006-10-12 01:52:00 · 23 answers · asked by 6ft5inallman 2

2006-10-12 01:47:41 · 18 answers · asked by lonely 1

My wife and I have been married for six months, living together for almost five years and we have a four year old daughter. We've had alot of ups and downs over the years. The wedding was great and so was the honeymoon but as soon as we came back to our normal lives I noticed my wife becoming very distant. She stopped saying I love you, unless I said it first. She stopped calling and emailing throughout the day. We haven't had sex in six months. Recently she has stopped sharing the details of her life with me. She's at home every night and on the weekends, so it's difficult for me to rationalize an affair happening. She has mentioned that she is unhappy and while one week she says she is done, the next week she says she is unsure. I feel very alone. I miss her very much and she knows this, but nothing seems to change. It feels like we are just buying time until we are in a position to divorce. We still sleep in the same bed together, I can put my arms around her and she...

2006-10-12 01:42:11 · 20 answers · asked by imagineus2night 1

We are currently living with his parents as we are trying to save for a house and I really appreciate them taking us in. HOEVER, I don't really appreciate being 2nd fiddle to his mother. It's not her fault, trust me....its his. He wont just listen to my advise or concerns without running the entire thing by his mother. I'm not sure what to do or say to him. I feel like his mother is going to ruin us, only its totally not her fault....help! it's really getting to me now.

2006-10-12 01:32:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend of 13 years told me last nite that if I don't start having sex with him when he wants it (4-5 times a week), he was going to walk out on me and our 3 kids. I'm not working, I have no vehicle, the house I rented when we split up last time, he bought and I would not stay here because he would be coming here non-stop, I told him if he walks out on us again it is for the last time, I'm NOT playing games with my kids heads or hearts, I'm just soo tired by the end of day after taking care of the kids, I just don't have the engery to have sex with him. Is there any kind of pill to "up" the sexual drive for a women? I know there's stuff out there for men.

2006-10-12 01:30:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is going away on a scrap booking weekend and will return on Sunday. I have been told this week that the company I work for is closing and might be assimilated by the silent partner's business based on if I go with the company. This move would require that I work more hours for less pay and work in the shop again.
Obviously I need to discuss this with my wife, because my bosses want an answer on Tuesday.
Should I tell her before she goes or should I wait until she gets back and unfortunately spring this on her?

2006-10-12 01:28:21 · 23 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

When I'm happy, I like upbeat music...but when I'm ticked, I want something angry, just to help me work it out. Any suggestions?

2006-10-12 01:06:00 · 13 answers · asked by Cynthia 3

2006-10-12 00:53:42 · 24 answers · asked by jyejas35 2

2006-10-12 00:49:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I looked at the cell phone bill & seen that he is getting calls from a blocked # & he saw me looking at it & said you checking up on me again? That is the way I caught him having a friendship with a girl that was 18 & he is in his 30's. I don't say anything to him about it but I know from expereince with him he is very sneaky.He also hasn't really cared for having sex lately.He acts like I'm not even at home when he is at home. Alot of distance between us & I have a bad gut feeling something is going on.

2006-10-12 00:35:41 · 21 answers · asked by "karma" 4