My wife is going away on a scrap booking weekend and will return on Sunday. I have been told this week that the company I work for is closing and might be assimilated by the silent partner's business based on if I go with the company. This move would require that I work more hours for less pay and work in the shop again.
Obviously I need to discuss this with my wife, because my bosses want an answer on Tuesday.
Should I tell her before she goes or should I wait until she gets back and unfortunately spring this on her?
2006-10-12 01:28:21 · 23 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait until she gets back..
Let her enjoy her weekend..
2006-10-12 01:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what I'd do. If you wait it won't change anything will it? Is this a decision that she needs to be involved in making? I think that it may be best to tell her before the weekend. I'm not sure how much of a cut in pay you're talking here however if there's a silver lining here you still are employed.
I would think there will be some people who'll be tossed to the curb. You still have a job and I suspect that there may be another possibilty for advancement in the future.
So....it may not be tasteful to the both of you. Especially you with additional hours, less pay and a change in your work environment but you're still with the same place and same people.
Tell her. It's your job to point out the good points to her so she at least won't have the weekend ruined.
2006-10-12 02:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question which materially affects your household.
It needs to be dealt with ASAP. She will be more upset with you for not telling her.
Its much like knowing you are being laid off after the holidays. You can give her the chance to not make the extra expenditure while on the trip. Presumably all the travel and the like are already paid for but she does not need to buy a lot of stuff while away.
None of this is in your control. Take the job and then go looking for better. No one needs to be on the street.
2006-10-12 02:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say before. I know you don't want to spoil her weekend, but Sunday when she gets home will not give her much time to think about it all before your Tuesday deadline.
If you tell her afterward, she may be upset you did not tell her sooner. Maybe talk to her tonight so you two have a chance to talk a little before she goes, and give you both time to weigh the situation out.
2006-10-12 01:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell her before she goes to make yourself feel better by sharing the burden, or tell her when she comes back so she can enjoy what may be her last weekend of fun for a while until you can get a new job or establish a tighter budget. I guess it depends on whose feelings are more important to you right now - yours or her.
2006-10-12 01:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go and enjoy herself for the time being. Don't look at your job as permanent; send out a resume and see if you can move upward in your field. Dependable help is hard to find these days moreso than ever before.
2006-10-12 02:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her NOW!! You have to have an answer in a short amount of time. Sprining it on her after she gets back on Sunday will only add to your stress and get her andry as hell that you waited to dump it on her as she came in the door. Talk it out now...let her know she can use the time away to think if she needs to...and then arrange to sit down on Monday after work to hash out a final decsision.
2006-10-12 01:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that. Was fired from a company just days before Christmas. Got a pretty good seperation package, so I didn't say anything until after the holidays. My wife was really upset, claiming I lied to her about my job. I just didn't want to ruin the holiday.
Tell her before she goes...........................
2006-10-12 01:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her enjoy her weekend away and just tell her when she gets home. Explain to her that you didn't want to burden her with this problem only because you love her and knew how much this weekend meant to her. I am sure she will appreciate your honesty and the fact that you wanted her to be happy.
2006-10-12 05:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have time, wait until she comes back...you don't want to ruin her trip, but on the other hand - it's going to be hard to keep that to yourself. Maybe just tell her - the weekend will give her time away to think through things...
2006-10-12 02:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her before she goes away for the weekend that way it gives you both time to weigh the pros and cons of this unfortunate situation. i know i would like to know if i was in the situation
2006-10-12 01:35:43 · answer #11 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋