when he is always tired or he says he have a headache?
2006-10-12 02:16:00 · 12 answers · asked by holla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start with a massage of his neck and head and mayeb that will lead to more. Sometimes, its just getting started that is the hard part. Or offer to go down on him...that always works for me and my man.
2006-10-12 02:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being tired or having a headache? You don't recognize the two oldest, lamest of excuse stiff-arms in the book?
Men rarely turn down sex. It happens, but it's rare. Unless he lifts 1,000-pound boulders with his bare hands for a living, it ain't work making him tired. It's probably the workout he's getting in another woman's bed. But be sure to eliminate all real reasons why he is so tired. Have you undergone any physical or hormonal changes lately that might be affecting his view of your relationship (whether they are or not is irrelevant)? Is he working 20 hours a day - really? Does he need to see a doctor? Has he had a checkup recently? If he just blames it all on some nebulous work thing, it's probably not true. What does his car's mileage odometer say about his daily distance habits?
Once you work with him (not behind his back) to rule out these enormous demands on his time and thinking power, it's how you word your next question to him that counts. If his work is a corporate desk job he's had for some time that has relatively average stress and is event-stable, don't ask *if* he is having an affair. He'll just say "No. You're crazy." Ask him, "how long have you been seeing her? I just want to hear you say it, and I deserve to know since despite what you think it involves me, too." Keep asking that until he admits it, because he will deny it for quite some time. Cheaters have a tough time owning up to their double life.
It could be something physical, but out of concern for him you should work with him to identify and resolve any real issues, but barring those, he's already cheating on you.
2006-10-12 09:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to get him to fall BACK in love with you first. No offense, but when a man or woman pulls that headache or tired crap on you, it usually means that they are not looking forward to a sexual encounter. Try mixing things up a little bit to make things new and fresh in the bedroom. I am certain that your husband still loves you in his heart, but the sex has probably become something of a predictable ritual and no longer is interesting to him. Now is the test of how well you know your husband, girl, you need to ask yourself what it is you need to do to get things new and interesting in your sex life. Peace
2006-10-12 09:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by rasputin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more married people who ask questions like this on here, the happier I am that I'm single.
OK here it is straight up without the BS or fluff stuff to make you feel good:
What do you mean how to get your husband to make love to you? If he loved you this would not be a problem. If he cared about you and your needs, this would not be a problem.
I think it is likely that he is either a very unusual man who does not like sex or is having an affair.
2006-10-12 09:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by lady_reed_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow talk about role reversal t is usually the men that have this problem. I have no easy answer for this one. Perhaps plan some one on one time on the weekend or on his days off. Try some sexy lingerie soft music candles. But mostly u need to let him know that you are craving more form him and need him to respond even if itis just 1 day a week on his day off.
2006-10-12 09:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man to tired for sex? Wow what kind of work does he do, and maybe he should consider cutting back on the hours.
2006-10-12 09:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pretend like you don't want him........... and your too busy or tired, rub him down there on accident........ and then say OH SORRY< that was an accident..........I'm not in the mood.........
or, wake him up at 4AM when all men are READY. but they don't know it..... and then ,,,, while he is still sleeping.........if he says go away......tell him that it's wrong to waste a big one.
and then get rid of all his porn.........tell him to say some for you.
2006-10-12 09:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by kiss me under the mistletoe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pull his pants down and start giving him oral, leading up to sex. If THAT doesn't work, you better hire a private investigator because he may be cheating.
2006-10-12 09:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Watch some porn with him..
Is there any sexual act or fantasy that you have not
offered him yet ?
2006-10-12 09:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheater.......no red-blooded man is ever too tired or has a head ache and would pass up sex....
2006-10-12 09:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bailey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋