he binge drinks and has HIgh Blood pressure and Diabeties I am a nurse so i know the actions that lie behind this but what can I do to stop getting hurt in the long run. Not only that the days that this happen it comes home around 1am or 2am and yes I know for sure that he is not cheating.
2006-10-12 02:33:45 · 8 answers · asked by nunaberry98 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you are a nurse and I am sure you have told him the damage that lies ahead for him. Men usually believe there is nothing they can't handle until something bad happens. It sound like you need to get him in AA. It is going to be the hardest thing for him to admit he has a problem, suggest going with him to the meetings. Then he needs to get the high blood pressure and diabetes's under control. If you love him stick it out, but if he can't help himself first then consider a separation for awhile that may wake him up. Good Luck to you.
2006-10-12 02:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's probably too late at this point to avoid getting hurt, but you can try to minimize the damage by getting proactive.
This problem is bigger than you, so you want other people involved. I would contact a local support group for spouses of people with drinking problems. (An offshoot of Al-Anon.) It can be really hard to ask for help for something like this, but the alternative is usually worse.
Try the link below. There's a national toll-free number and they can hook you up with a local group. They can also connect you with real resources to help you deal with the emotional part of this and also practical resources for real change.
2006-10-12 02:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!
You must have a magic 8 ball to know ''for sure'' he's not cheating! His decision making skills are bleak at best, who's to say he's not making ''other'' bad decisions that could physically jeopardize your life, and well being. He can't and won't stop drinking for you.....he's making that painfully clear. He can and will stop drinking for himself, and maybe it will take almost losing his life for the fog to clear.
There's only so much you can do for a person that is determined to self destruct, your fighting a battle that's not meant for you to fight. At best you can continue to verbally encourage him to make better decision, ultimately what you should be doing is praying for his life. Praying for his salvation, his action are 1. hindering his blessing, 2. blocking him from what his Heavenly Father has predestined for him. Did you know a mans blessings are answered based on how he treats his wife? Yes,it's true! It's in the Bible.
You may not be religious, but the best thing you can do is let go, and let God. You are not equipped to fight this battle. I'm not saying abandon your roll in his life as wife, I'm saying you will crumble trying to fight what God meant for you NOT to fight. Like I previously mentioned pray, pray, and pray.
2006-10-12 02:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked him why he binge drinks? There has to be a reason for besides sh it's and giggles....try getting to the root of the problem that is making him drink. And why are you concerned only about yourself being hurt? what about him? his feelings his needs......he's killing himself! you know it,he knows it now it's time to get a plan together for both of you! shame on you for being so shelfish.
2006-10-12 02:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be a nurse with him just be his wife and tell him how bad it is hurting you. if he chooses not to stop then you shouldnt hang around. if it is one night a week then dont get too upset it might just be a phase. if it is more then let everything out. let him know that its drinking or you and that you will be there to help him stop.
2006-10-12 02:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need Al Anon ... focus on you, you cant change him. and if the relationship ends? it might be a blessing.
2006-10-12 02:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by Skorpian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you already know this answer get good attorney!
2006-10-12 02:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AlAnon is what you need they will be a good support for you.
2006-10-12 02:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋