2006-10-12 01:47:41 · 18 answers · asked by lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
key words here.."I like someone else" that's it you said it all....time to be the big man now and tell your wife..suck it up,you wife needs/has the right to know. Time to pack your stuff get yourself alittle apartment,and let your wife start the healing process......Enjoy your new life with "the lady you like" and let your wife move on.....but remember your life just got alot harder too........
2006-10-12 03:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is not unusual to be attracted to someone other than your spouse. Secondly, you have a choice here. This is not a novel or movie where they just have no choice but to follow their desires. You DO have a choice remember that. You need to seek counseling alone and with your spouse. Your marriage may be unsatisfactory if you're heading this way. You should also stay away from this other person while working to increase your love and affection towards your spouse. Marriage is something that requires commitment, that doesn't mean you bail when it gets hard. It also requires constant investment in your relationship. Regardless of what may be going on with your spouse, you have a responsibility to try to work it out without cheating or even flirting with this other guy. I wish you and your husband the best. I hope you are able to see that this would not bring you happiness in the long run.
2006-10-12 02:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you have been married, or how old you are, or if male or female. Yes, it all matters. But, to give a general answer. If you are newly married, (3 years or less) it is not unusual to begin to look around,and wonder what you are missing out on. If you have been married a while (5 to 10 years), a lot of things happen to make life different, Job changes, health problems, children. 15 years or more bring a whole set of new problems. In any case, not being willing to recognize what has caused your feelings to change is the same as lying to yourself. List all the reasons you married, then list what you are dissatisfied with (in your marriage). Then list what you like about the other person (it is bound to be shallow, because you don't know the real person) nice looking, fun to be with, funny, etc. Then list what you think you are. Then one more list indicating what you like about your spouse. Now you have some solid facts to make a decision by. Being honest requires admitting wrong in yourself. But, the final decision is yours.
2006-10-12 02:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer this questins for you but I understand completely where your comming from, My only advice to you is to follow your heart. I am in a relationship and I am in love with someone else. it's not easy. Only you can make you happy. Living is lie is exausting and it hard i know for expericence. But remember you heart will never stear you in the wrong direction. It take a better person to realize the relationship you are in is not working and you need to walk away then to stay because it is easier. Good luck. I will be glad to be of any help if you need some advise. May be I can help. E-mail me at stefanie7629@yahoo.com
2006-10-12 02:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by chick29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your spouse and if you have kids bury it deep inside and never let it out. We all think that the grass is greener, but honestly it isn't. Give yourself some time to really think about it. Imagine life without your spouse or kids. Imagine life with the other person. I mean real, every day life. Because when it all comes down to it...life is not romantic and wonderful. Would this new person give you everything you want out of life? Why not put your energy into trying to make your life with your spouse better?
Give yourself some time and don't rush into anything. Time will make things a lot clearer.
2006-10-12 01:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a consciences effort to like someone else. Use that same energy and focus on your wife.
She had the both the inward and outward beauty that attracted you to her. She still posses these things. Your choice to have wondering eyes is causing this sinful desire.
As for lying to yourself, you have been already. Your wife has been faithful in her heart to you. You haven't.
As a wise man once said "Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy life..." (Eccl 9:9)
2006-10-12 02:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by TenJac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay what you really need to do is stay true to yourself and your husband. If your relationship is going down south, you and your husband should try to work it out. And for that other guy, you should just give it a rest because there are going to be many men that you will find attractive!
2006-10-12 01:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tomato 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your screen name 'lonely' says it all. You are attracted to someone besides your spouse because you're feelnig an emptiness inside. If I were you, I'd distance myself from the other person, throw yourself into your marriage and career because if you don't, you could make a major mistake.
2006-10-12 01:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is selfish. Finish what you started before moving on. Getting caught cheating and it will only make the divorce more messy.
2006-10-12 02:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to be attracted to someone else even if you are married, BUT you don't have to act on it...It's a passing feeling... nothing more...If you are being abused, that's a different issue, if not, keep your pants (or panties) on and don't do something you may regret...
2006-10-12 01:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋