My husband and I got in a huge fight and I said I wanted a divorce. As soon as the words came out of my mouth I tried to take it back. I honestly didn't mean it. He became so angry and told me just leave him alone. He had to go out of town for work and I've called and called and he won't answer the phone. I don't know what to do. He is the kind of guy who needs time to get over things. I am just worried sick that I have destroyed my marriage. I know nothing I say or do right now is going to make him talk to me. I don't want to loose my husband and I am so scared that I have pushed him away. I guess what I am asking have any married couples thrown those words out and gotten past it? How long can you not talk to your husband or wife? I just want to know things are going to be okay but he won't talk to me. Any thoughts on this would be helpful.
2006-10-12 02:41:14 · 14 answers · asked by faith 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen I have said those words myself but really didn't mean then. My husband was mad at me for a while but he did forgive me for saying it now not saying that your husband will do the same but what you should do is if he return your call please tell him that you didn't mean to say it was just the heat of the moment. If you need to go to counseling do so. Never give up on what is meant to be. PRAYER changes things!
2006-10-12 02:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by nunaberry98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural feeling. I've said, left and even kicked him out. You need to get the root cause of your problem. Marriage is harder to work at than trying to get rich quick. No books, or outline on what to do, what to say, how to feel when this or that occur. Just go with the flow. He will be ok. He knows that you were very upset and he hit a nerve. It could have been alto worse, he couldd have hauled off and hit you out of anger. It's was only words with out meaning. Just give him space, let him calm down and realize what he said or did wrong. He will call you, they always do
2006-10-12 02:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to give him some time. I have never said those exact words, but other pretty hurtful things, and I called him after he left, he didn't answer- same deal. You need to wait it out, he will call you when he is ready. Sooner or later he has to talk to you-no other way around that. Believe me, he will call you, probably before the end of the day. He is probably feeling pretty miserable right now too. Hang in there.
2006-10-12 02:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have..several times. But never ment it once. I hate to say this but I think I'm the domanant one in my relationship with my husband. Several times he's tried to walk out of the room or house but I'm a very strong woman I stand in front of this man 330lb 5'11. And push him back and say "NO" youre not leaving..or if I do let him so I tell him "if you walk out that door youre not comming back in" I dont know what your relationship is like But I know I"m a BI*CH...I dont think you've ruined your relationship just maybe put a dent in it..Talk to your husband "WHEN YOU CAN" let him know that you didin't mean what you said but that he made you angry for whatever reason! GOOD LUCK..and this is somthing I tell my Hubby all the time.. "THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!!"
2006-10-12 02:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THOUGH I'VE THOUGHT IT SEVERAL TIMES, I HAVEN'T SAID IT YET. BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN I WON'T SLIP UP TONIGHT YOU KNOW. EVERYBODY, AT ONE POINT OR ANOTHER, HAS SAID SOMETHING TO SOMEONE THAT THEY DIDN'T MEAN AND REGRETTED IT IMMEDIATELY. ALL YOU CAN DO NOW IS GIVE HIM TIME TO COME AROUND TO YOU. MY HUSBAND IS THE SAME TYPE OF GUY--NEEDS TIME TO GET OVER THINGS--AND EVENTUALLY HE WILL. AND WHEN HE DOES, YOU'LL KNOW WHAT TO DO. JUST GIVE HIM SOME SPACE RIGHT NOW.
BUT DO REMEMBER THIS, A SEED HAS BEEN PLANTED. WHETHER INTENDED OR NOT, IT'S THERE. FORGIVING IS ONE THING -- BUT FORGETTING IS SOMETHING ELSE. BEST OF LUCK!
2006-10-12 03:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say alot of things in anger that they don't really mean. Like you said, he's the type of person that needs time to get over things. It'll be ok, he'll cool off and call you. When he gets home, you'll know what to do to show him you didn't really mean it. Don't worry, he will come home.
2006-10-12 02:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done it on a couple of occasions...I really didnt mean it either. So I realized that I must not say such things if I dont mean them. Though now we rarely fight, when we do argue, I certainly dont drop that bomb anymore, but yes, Its relatively normal, You guys should be able to work this out. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-12 02:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reap what you sow. You may have already ruined this one, and I cannot honestly say you will get another chance with someone else. Learn to keep your mouth shut and be obedient to your man or I forsee a very lonely depressing future for you..more so than the one you already have
2006-10-12 02:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just try talking to him and making him understand that u just said it coz u were angry .u really didnt mean it.do things to pls him.buy him a card.aplogise.thats all u can do.
i m sure he will understand.coz u love each other.
all the best
2006-10-12 02:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by anuja b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. That's what family is for, to vent on. Just be there naked with a bow on when he gets home and have terrific make-up sex, say you're sorry and all will be forgiven. Go get 'em!
2006-10-12 02:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by babalu2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋