i found out yesterday that my wife took a pic of herslef topless on a dare with her cell phone and then a "old" male friend of hers sent her a pic of his cock. heres what gets me i had asked here many times to do things like this for me and she always said "NO" but here she is doing this on a dare for an old friend. I'm turned on but also want to know if i should believe her there is nothing going on. please any help would be appreciated
2006-10-12 01:53:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My first question would be if she had been out with her girlfriends and maybe had a drink or two?? I know from experience that women will get a bit wild when they are out with friends, having fun and feeling free!
If this is the first and only time she has ever done this, and has been adamantly refusing to do so for you, then give her the benefit of the doubt that this was a spur of the moment, one time thing. If you find out it happens again, then it is time for some face to face talks to see what is going on and why she is pursuing admiration from other men. If she is looking to other men for positive feedback and flirtation, there is something in your marriage that needs to be addressed, so jump in and address it,,,either on your own or with a counselor.
As for wanting sexy pics of your wife. A lot of women feel extremely self conscious about being photographed in a more intimate way, even by their own partners. It comes down to the whole body image thing...we never lost the 10 pounds from the last baby, we haven't been to the gym in ages, we're getting older and nature is letting us know. Let your wife know you found the idea of those photos very arousing and sexy. Let her know you'd like to have some of your own. If she is willing to let you take them, take her out to the mall to shop for some sexy bras, panties, lingerie. Order in a wonderful meal (NO PIZZA), have a bottle of her favorite wine and a box of her favorite chocolates. Make sure the kids are gone for the night (even go to a hotel if u need to). Take the time to shave and get dressed up yourself (most women hate the fact men want us all dolled up and sexy but then walk out in sweats and a t-shirt). Enjoy the meal and the wine. Ask her to model the pieces you bought together. ASK if you can take pics of her in the new things...and let her decide how she wants to pose and where. If she agrees and starts to enjoy herself, she will let you know where she wants to go with the pics...and my bet is you will get the ones you would like!
If she is game, but afraid that she will look old in home photos, ask if she would like a session with a local boudior photographer. These people specialize in sexy photos, but work with the subject to find what makes them feel sexy and how to bring it out. You may want a topless pic, but if your wife isn't comfortable with that, the photographer may drape her in a form fitting satin sheet ..very sexy! Plus, many of these studios have hair and makeup people right there, so she can be pampered at the same time.
In any case, once you get the pics...on your own digital or as hard copies (if you take your own, print copies at home...many stores have stict guidelines on printing nude and semi-nude photos), sit down together and look at them. Choos a nice album or special box to keep them in and decided together on where the safest place to store them will be, DO NOT show these pics to your friends. These are for you and you alone...keep it an intimate secret. Who knows, if all goes well this could become an annual event!
2006-10-12 02:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well myself i don't think this should be going on and your reaction to being turned on by this means you don't care a whole lot so I don't understand what you want to know..
If it was my husband doing this i would be pissed as hell to know that they were exchanging pictures with out clothes to and old male or female friend..
she is your wife.. Dare or not.. it shouldn't be going on.. just leads to more crap that you are going to have to deal with..
some people are weird on what they do in a marriage and then wonder why they don't last for ever like they are supose to..
both of you need to get a life..
2006-10-12 02:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all, it dont matter if she is doing it for an old friend, she has really no right to do that. you dont know what that old friend might be thinking. him sending that picture was way over the limt. at that point you should think about what is really going on. Are you and your wife happy with each other. maybe she might want more complements from other people, because she might not think you give her enough. try more complements and maybe things might change with the situation of her and her old friend
2006-10-12 01:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not there is anything going on is not relevant. The bottom line is that the behavior is extremely unacceptable both according to society's standards and it extremely disrespectful towards the feelings of one's spouse. There is no excuse for such behavior in what should be a caring marital relationship.
2006-10-12 01:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up...She's wrong! While it's not considered cheating, she chose to marry and she exposed herself to someone other than her husband...it's wrong.
So if she drinks @ a birthday party and plays spin the bottle and gets to go in the closet with someone...it doesn't necessarily have to be (sexual)...is that okay?
Why doesn't she do things like that with YOU?? That's a good question for her...
Good Luck...
2006-10-12 02:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about you but I would first go kick the guy's *** that sent her tat picture. Then sit your wife down and let her have it. That is noway for a wife to act. I would problay leave my wife if she did this. Good luck
2006-10-12 02:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by what to do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kinda fishy to me...but you really can't go blaming someone og something unless you have some proof...why don't you send her some racy pics of yourself and then she might do the same and ya'll might stir up some new flames...good luck
2006-10-12 01:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by sweet75482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a picture of divorce papers with a cell phone and send it to her.
2006-10-12 01:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u serious? she betrayed u in a way or another!! u r so cold!! i mean how could u stay calm! she's ur wife!! ur both in trouble! she did something terrible n ur still asking how should u feel?! i think u have to be in a real mess! u should be talkin to urself! its a HUGE problem! try to solve it man!!
2006-10-12 02:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by shoosh_b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something isn't going on now, it will happen soon. It is not innocent. Find out what is going on and get control of the situation.
2006-10-12 01:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋