Marriage & Divorce - 11 October 2006

I left him in November of last year for verbal abuse, having more intimate relationships with his fake girlfriends online than with me... and for just being unhappy.

I had a friend that I started seeing several months later. We are together now, and very happy... albeit, we have taken it very slow.

Of course my ex is freaking out about this... calls me at work, threatens to never let me see the kids, threatened to have him investigated (nothing to find).

I am going to just speak to a lawyer and find out what my legal rights are, but before I do that, I'm wondering if anyone else had this same experience and what you did.

I have 3 kids 7, 5 and 4.

They are doing much better since the our seperation since they aren't in an environment where their dad freaks out. I'm the type the gets quiet.

I know I made the right choices. I am just wondering what to do about his continued harrassments.

2006-10-11 10:01:49 · 10 answers · asked by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2

I asked earlier, but I think i gave to much info or somthing because the answers I got made no since. . . . So I will make this as simple as possible. . .

1. If you don't have feelings for your wife anymore, should you leave her for someone else who you are in love with, or should you stay with your wife and hope that you will have feelings for her again one day?

2. Which would you choose? A) haveing a life with someone you didn't really love and not being either happy or sad. B) taking a chance and winding up either VERY happy or VERY miserable?

3. Try to be with the one you love, or Try to love the one you're with?

P.S. to all of the nice christians who answered my previous question with "Divorce is an abomination" or "Marrage is a sacred union" . . . Get over it, I am my wife's 2nd husband. Answer with that crap again and I'll report you. I don't want a religeous view.

2006-10-11 09:57:32 · 11 answers · asked by Certifried! 1

My husband and I have been married for 18yrs with weekend. I have made arrangements for the kids to go to my parents and have been planning a nice romanic evening for the two of us. (he knew i was planning this!) food, candles, music, etc.... Then him and his friends, along with my sister decided that we were all going to go out to the bar with weekend and have some fun---not just a bar, but a topless one at that. My husband knows that this is not my thing and he also knows how important this weekend is to me. I have talked to him about it, but he says I just need to live a little and thank we can have dinner another time and celebrate our anniversary. I am hurt and disappointed at the same time. How would you feel about this?

2006-10-11 09:57:30 · 38 answers · asked by katydid 2

i have a mother in law from hell she lives with us she gets drunk and no one does anything my husband dosent do anything

2006-10-11 09:53:45 · 10 answers · asked by nicola s 1

Is it better to wait until after college or is it better to follow your heart and get married young? Please answer with what age you got married and the stuggles or successes you encountered. Thanks!

2006-10-11 09:46:38 · 28 answers · asked by damnnatzis 2

to go to the all night flea market? I want to go at 2 or 3am, but she says no way. What's her problem? It would be fun.

2006-10-11 09:40:46 · 30 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

I said i would go to a wedding of someone I hardly know - this means I give up my Saturday with my husband to spend a whole day with a group of people I do not know. What can I say to get out of the wedding, bearing in mind they have paid for my seat/food etc.

2006-10-11 09:39:16 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-10-11 09:38:22 · 5 answers · asked by Aidge 3

We have been married 12 years and this is the first time she bought something that big without informing me first! I am not really concerned about the money part because we can afford it but it has been about the lack of respect on letting me know what she is planning... I Bought a Jet sKi this summer (12K) I told her I wanted it and she said no...I told her I never spend money on me and that I was geting it!! This may be a retaliation for that... and she bitched all the time about how much gas was this summer and how much it was costing....But when it comes to her money is no object......Do you think it is a lack of respect not to let me know something??? Or a retaliation for getting the jet ski??

2006-10-11 09:29:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-11 09:27:32 · 11 answers · asked by Colin R 1

my boyfriend was married to his ex for 7months then they split up, does she have any rights to his forces pension..? also can you apply for a divource straight away or do you have to wait a year from the marriage date as he was told at the time..?

2006-10-11 09:24:44 · 11 answers · asked by meow22 4

Im getting married on Dec 9th and I cant find a place to get married I live in lexington NC.. and I wanst really wanting to get married in a church.. but Im starting to think thats the only thing I can do .. place give me some help ..thanks

2006-10-11 09:21:27 · 6 answers · asked by nobodysangel2469 2

2006-10-11 09:20:34 · 6 answers · asked by elaine t 1

I was married 20 years, my new husband gets along great with my ex, however, do we all go out to dinner for my anniversary?

2006-10-11 09:12:49 · 16 answers · asked by Hwy2?? 2

My husband and I have been together 3 years. At first, his mother really liked me and so did his sisters, but his step-dad has NEVER liked me. Over time, his mom stopped liking me too because when my arrogant step-father in law would get in my face I'd stand my ground. My husband and I moved out of state due to his job and now that we live out of state, his sisters act like they resent me because their brother has a life and a family of his own now. When they call they barely speak to me, when they DO speak to me it's to be rude and I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do, but I want to try to salvage a GOOD relationship with my in-laws for the sake of my children and my husband. I tried apologizing to my mother in law for anything I might have done to anger her and she all but blew me off. What now?

2006-10-11 09:10:30 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6

if you had an expensive wedding do you think it was worth all that $. also you have to have been married over 1 or 2 years

2006-10-11 09:08:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 44 and my boyfriend is 48. I have 3 boys and a daughter: ages 19, 15, 12 and 9. He has 3 boys also: ages 18, 15 and 11. Our youngest kids get along great, but our 15 year olds won't give each other the time of day. His 15 yr. old son is very worldly--he drinks, smokes, cusses and is constantly giving his father a hard time. My 15 year old is a strict Christian who does not do any of the above things. He goes to church 3 times a week and has very high morals. I really hope for a future with this wonderful man, but I am afraid that there is no way to happily blend our 2 families. I also am not sure that I want my kids exposed to some of the things his 15 yr. old does. I love and get along great with his 2 other sons, but I think that both of our 15 year olds boys resent the fact that we are getting so close. They both are very loyal to our ex-spouses. Is there a way to live happily ever after and still have happy children? Any advice is much appreciated!

2006-10-11 09:08:37 · 15 answers · asked by Rae 1

I'm a basically happy, positive person. My husband, on the other hand, seems to be always in a pissed-off mood, ready to get angry at me or our kids for something, anything--oftentimes something irrational. Seems like he doesn't respect me very much, which he will admit. He has even admitted that he feels angry at me much of the time. He knows this is wrong, but isn't doing anything to "fix" it, and in the meantime, I'm quickly getting sick of being around such an angry, unhappy person. I really don't want our sons to grow into angry men! It seems very hard for me to function in daily life when even if I try to have a good day, he is unhappy, cranky and angry. What am I supposed to do about that? We've only been married for four years and I know he's disillusioned about not having the same feelings for me that he once did. I really don't know what to do about this, either. We've talked SO MANY times about this in the past, and he always talks about changing, but doesn't...

2006-10-11 08:53:22 · 21 answers · asked by littlenicky 2

Could you or have you married someone who snores something awful? I dont think I could do it--you go through life never getting a decent night sleep.

2006-10-11 08:49:37 · 20 answers · asked by Mrs.♥ Krasinski 4

I met a woman online that is very submissive and promiscuous and I like that type alot. Should I go for it?

2006-10-11 08:48:55 · 50 answers · asked by kellermanintx 1

i found out a day ago that my wife was sending someone nude photos of herself. weve been married 4 23 years i no idea at all. i have never cheated on my wife or had any intenions. i been tearing my brians out trying 2 find out why! she says because i was not paying her enough attention this is whats happens. i give my all 2 her & try 2 payattention 2 her all the time but its just no use.

2006-10-11 08:46:50 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

i jumped into my relationship fast 'cause i thought this guy really liked me, within 6 months i moved out of my parents and convinced him to move in with me, since that time so much has happened, i got pregnant and he said he would leave if i didn't have an abortion and, i am fairly sure he cheated on me, although i have no proof, he undermined me to his family ext. i know when i met him that he wasnt that smart but i was really insure and thought i could never do any better. On the same note, I love him now, we have been together 3+ year, and living to gether, but tonight he said i Fu**ing hate you (under his breath as he walked away from an argument. I am so confused, plus i am still a student and he works full time, and if i leave him i will have to move back home for $$$ reasons, but my school is an our away from me now, if i move back home it will be 2.. Please give some advice. thanks

2006-10-11 08:46:28 · 5 answers · asked by CHAD W 1

2006-10-11 08:44:23 · 7 answers · asked by myruin 1

I heard they are trying to legalize Gay Marrige?!?!?!?!? Is it true Do you think they should WHY or WHY NOT???

2006-10-11 08:38:24 · 1 answers · asked by ~♥~Tiffany~♥~ 4

2006-10-11 08:37:22 · 16 answers · asked by Radtech1996 4

i just got married and im lost on how to change my last name....i looked on the S.S. website as well as the DMV website. they require proof of the marriage showing the name change but when we applied for the marriage license you dont put your new last name...also we just returned the signed copy so i wont get a certificate for about another 1-2 months.....what do i do? am i supposed to wait??

2006-10-11 08:33:43 · 8 answers · asked by jcd2006 1

Im pretty positive I love my husband but he often annoys me when he eats or shows bad manners and he is CONSTANTLY wnating sex and I do not get into it we dont have much time alone and are under alot of stress with full time jobs and two toddlers he expects me to stay up with him until 2 and I have to be up at 5 in the morning for work and if I dont he still wakes me up around 3 for sex because it "helps him sleep" he dosent really help with the kids he wont bathe or teach them he says thats the moms job we just got married after being togther 4 years he tells me what to do with my money what to eat what I can wear and if I shower and dress "nice" he make accusations if I m off that day I guess he expects I wear lounge clothes all day I even had to go to Physical Therapy for a small period of time and he was so jelouse and thought me and the PT had a thing he didnt like someone "rubbing" on his wife....where do I go from here is their help for my marriage?

2006-10-11 08:33:14 · 16 answers · asked by Ashley 1

Its been 2 years that my husband is been divorced from his ex wife, but we still receiven her mails. She have her own mail address i don't know why she is using our mail address, for some reason i think she's doing it because she still want have contact with him, but my husband hater after she did to him. She send him to jail last year because he take her car from her because she was not paying her car and that was affecting his credit report even his name is in her car title. My husband doesn't want to know nothing about her, but its bother me that she is using our address.

2006-10-11 08:33:01 · 6 answers · asked by baby 1

My husband and I have been married for 5 months, and we're also 9 months pregnant. I found out two days ago that he cheated. It was only once, approximately three weeks prior, and now the girl was claiming she was pregnant, and it was his. We now know she's not pregnant at all, which is a relief. I've decided to forgive him; I love him more than words can say. I need to know how to learn to trust him again, and how to help him forgive himself.

2006-10-11 08:28:38 · 35 answers · asked by a.n.a 2

Im looking for a wedding dress, i only have a small budget of £300 so loking for somewhere chaepish or somewhere with a good sale on, apart from ebay. Im in uk but will consider buying from another country. Anyone know any online stores please? thanks.

2006-10-11 08:28:37 · 2 answers · asked by rach_b_2003 1