We have been married 12 years and this is the first time she bought something that big without informing me first! I am not really concerned about the money part because we can afford it but it has been about the lack of respect on letting me know what she is planning... I Bought a Jet sKi this summer (12K) I told her I wanted it and she said no...I told her I never spend money on me and that I was geting it!! This may be a retaliation for that... and she bitched all the time about how much gas was this summer and how much it was costing....But when it comes to her money is no object......Do you think it is a lack of respect not to let me know something??? Or a retaliation for getting the jet ski??
2006-10-11 09:29:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe its retaliation for the jet ski. She told you no, but you went out and bought it anyway, so that gives her free reign to buy anything she wants without consulting you. Doesnt matter that you never buy anything for yourself, you still went out and bought it even when she didnt want you to. Personally she sounds a little controlling because if you havent gotten anything you want in 12 years but she can buy anything she wants...the relationship seems a bit unbalanced. I think it is not just a lack of respect not to let you know something, I think she has a total lack of respect for you. I dont think she has any right to tell you that you cant have something you want and if you can afford it, then there shouldnt be a problem. No-one should hold the reigns in any relationship, but it seems she thinks she does. If you both provide equally towards your finances then it seems fair you sit down and talk about things you both want to buy, but it doesnt give either of you the right to tell the other party they cannot have something if it can be afforded. If you are the main breadwinner, then maybe you need to give her a budget she can work within. You need to take back some control.
2006-10-11 10:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question that needs to be adressed is why your wife went out and bought the piece of art. Is it something that you like? is it a piece that will appreciate in value? Is it something that fits in with the overall decor of your home?...If you can answer Yes to any of the above questions...Then the reson for buying the painting has nothing to do with the jet ski. Perhaps you feel a bit guilty for making a purchase against your wifes wishes. Does she like to Jet Ski? Is the Jet Ski designed for more than one rider? Is Jet Skiing something you and your wife can do together...If you can answer No to any of these questions. Then maybe you should trade in the jet ski, apologize to your wife and them get a toy you can use together. maybe a larger boat....
2006-10-11 16:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by dpon62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say payback is a *****. You were a selfish pr1ck and now you are whining about no respect. Jeez!! In 10 years the price of the artwork may double and the the jet ski will be worn out gone and forgotten. Unless you are nicer to your wife you may be like the jet ski. Now apologize and help her figure out where to put the art.
2006-10-11 16:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all have some tension issues to deal with. You need to sit down and table your finances in a way that will be acceptable to both parties. Maybe each of you need to have a separate account in addition to the joint that you share. These separate accounts will be for the little (big) things that you want. That way each of you can put aside money and avoid these conflicts. You can say well its the money from my account that way it doesn't hurt your feelings or the household's pockets.
You are obviously a well off person but the picture was expensive unless its like Picasso or something.
2006-10-11 16:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a little of both. If you are the sole breadwinner, she should let you know. If you both work, then it's a bit of grey, you could argue she has a right to spend since she makes part of the money. However in any good relationship there should be communication, so at the least she should have said somthing first. I hope its a nice piece of art.
2006-10-11 16:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Darien 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest,too buy the jet ski and gas for a jet ski is cheap fill up is nothing compared to a car. i would put the smack down lay your pimp hand down. But 6500 on some art is worthless. unless it makes you orgasm looking at it its not worth buying.
2006-10-11 16:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut her some slack whos knows in five years what it could be worth surely your jet ski will go down in value while they will go up
2006-10-11 16:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by raudidave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your wife on crack? Who would spend $6,500 on art? If you were a millionaire, then the art could be justified. But, jeesh..
2006-10-11 16:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who disrespeted her.All she done was get some good old fashion retaliation.It may of been wrong of her but you was wrong first.
2006-10-11 16:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sell the damn art work and use the money for gas!
2006-10-11 17:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋