I left him in November of last year for verbal abuse, having more intimate relationships with his fake girlfriends online than with me... and for just being unhappy.
I had a friend that I started seeing several months later. We are together now, and very happy... albeit, we have taken it very slow.
Of course my ex is freaking out about this... calls me at work, threatens to never let me see the kids, threatened to have him investigated (nothing to find).
I am going to just speak to a lawyer and find out what my legal rights are, but before I do that, I'm wondering if anyone else had this same experience and what you did.
I have 3 kids 7, 5 and 4.
They are doing much better since the our seperation since they aren't in an environment where their dad freaks out. I'm the type the gets quiet.
I know I made the right choices. I am just wondering what to do about his continued harrassments.
2006-10-11 10:01:49 · 10 answers · asked by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I filed the divorce, we mediated and its final on 1/8/07.
2006-10-11 10:17:25 · update #1
Get a lawyer. Your personal life is no longer any of his business as long as it is not having a negative affect on the kids. It sounds to me like the only one who's a bad influence is him.
2006-10-11 10:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by nikki 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are doing everything right...you are going to see a lawyer...he will be the best one to advise you. Lawyers are very expensive, so just be careful because they may lead you in all sorts of directions that will cost you an arm and a leg. When I was in a similar situation to you I went to see a chamber magistrate at my local court. I ended up getting a restraining order out against my ex and it didnt cost me a cent. The restraining order didnt do any good because he didnt care about being sent to jail, and not a lot of offenders who break a restraining order go to jail anyway...so, in a lot of cases it is just a piece of paper. I had to take my kids and move because the harrassment became so bad. I couldnt tell anyone who knew him and me what my address was because I was too afraid he would find out. I got a silent telephone number and made sure my kids school knew not to let him come to the school to pick them up. For 12 months or more I took them and picked them up. I wouldnt let them catch public transport because I was afraid he may intercept them. I dont know if your situation is as drastic as this one, but if it is, I wish you all the luck in the world. A restraining order works well if the person is afraid of the Law, if he isnt, then its not going to prove a lot.
2006-10-11 10:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through something like that.
I dated a guy, dumped him, got with someone else, he saw me with him and freaked out.
He tried to commit suicide, failed, stalked me (nonstop phone calls, literally 100+ during the span of 2 days), and threatened my life. He threatened my life via AIM so I printed it out and went to the police. I was a minor then so my parents had to come down to the station in order for me to file a police report for aggravated harassment. I got a restraining order after that.
2006-10-11 10:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and file a restraining order against him. He will not be able to ahve any contact with you unless it's about your children. If he violates the restraining order they will put him in jail, and he'll realize you aren't playinghis childish games.
2006-10-11 10:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after the divorce the harrassment will stop. Ask your lawyer what can legally be done about it.
2006-10-11 11:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a restraining order served on him and if he violates it report him so he can sit in jail. It is hard to harass you from jail; the choice is his.
2006-10-11 10:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order.
2006-10-11 10:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by purplesax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already said it! Now all you have to is follow through with talking with a lawyer!
2006-10-11 10:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have one of your friends Kick his cry baby A--
2006-10-11 11:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the police
2006-10-11 10:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋