I asked earlier, but I think i gave to much info or somthing because the answers I got made no since. . . . So I will make this as simple as possible. . .
1. If you don't have feelings for your wife anymore, should you leave her for someone else who you are in love with, or should you stay with your wife and hope that you will have feelings for her again one day?
2. Which would you choose? A) haveing a life with someone you didn't really love and not being either happy or sad. B) taking a chance and winding up either VERY happy or VERY miserable?
3. Try to be with the one you love, or Try to love the one you're with?
P.S. to all of the nice christians who answered my previous question with "Divorce is an abomination" or "Marrage is a sacred union" . . . Get over it, I am my wife's 2nd husband. Answer with that crap again and I'll report you. I don't want a religeous view.
2006-10-11 09:57:32 · 11 answers · asked by Certifried! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should stay with your wife, You may just be feeling enfatuation for the other woman.
2006-10-11 10:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
1) define LOVE, because love is not what we see on movies perfect happy 100% of the time, those are just feelings
Love is effort, give the other, see for the other person,etc; and by the time you do that you became happy
2) Comunicate thats everything, but really communicate all your feelings tell your wife what exactly do you feel be honest !!! and listen what she has to say, cause I dont think u are the only unhappy in this relationship
3) evaluate your options, specially if this is your second marriage
Why do you think it will be different whith the next one, I think all problems have a solution, not always easy but "the things that cost us more, are the most worth to do"
3)Be brave go on and assume your commitments, or maybe you just wnt to hear the easy solution "Ok then leave your wife an shrink from your problems "
Good luck in life
2006-10-11 10:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by gaorme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no feelings for your wife, then get a divorce and be with the one that you love. There is no sense in being miserable all the time. We all have to take chances, in order to find happiness.
2006-10-11 11:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something had to have been good at one point, you asked her to get married, right?
So, when you get divorced, and then on to the next wife, and then her true colors appear, and you are no longer happy with the 2nd one, then what, are you going to leave her and go to the next, and the next, and then the next again?
What does committment mean to you? You must think you are not at fault in your lousy marriage. It's all her fault?
No one is ever going to be good enough for you, and you are self-righteous, self-centered, egotistical and in-love with yourself.
2006-10-11 10:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Donnalah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simplist answer is you don't have to be with someone you don't love for any Reason!! Take a chance and if you fail lesson learned.
2006-10-11 10:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by marnold7714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't stay because it is almost impossible to get those feelings back. go be happy. no one can guarantee you will be happy with the other one either ; but you allready know you aren't happy with your wife. so do what your heart tells you.
2006-10-11 10:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by sherry p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why stay with someone you do not even love. If you fell out of love with her, then you really did not love her to begin with.
2006-10-11 10:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to go with the one I love....
2006-10-11 10:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go with the one u love
2006-10-11 10:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by *rebel gurl* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already have your answer....why stay stuck? She'll move on eventually.
2006-10-11 12:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by mrspatpat79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋