Marriage & Divorce - 11 October 2006

I have been married seven years to my high school sweetheart and we have a wonderful child. A child that I would give my life and happiness for . I honestly believe thats what I'm doing!! Over the past few years I've noticed my relationship with my husband going down hill and with in the past few months it seems to have snowballed. I've caught him in several lies one right after the other and he doesn't seem to care. Even if the lies hurt me . We use to have a great friendship but now we seem to be less and less of friends. Then to top it all off we have no sex life! I worry that we are growing apart b\c we've grew up together we married right out of high school. I was his first girlfriend, and we were each others first (everything). But my biggest fear is my daughters feelings! What should I do??

2006-10-11 16:48:31 · 17 answers · asked by julia_rey 1

I have been married to my verbally/emotionally abusive husband for 12 years. We're both 34 with 2 young children ages 6 and 4. Our marriage has been extremely abusive and he is horrible when he is enraged. We have been separated off and on several times but now he is back at home and has finally agreed to go to marriage counseling and everything. He claims that he wants to change and he loves me. He has said all of this before but continues to lie about things, (he has a p.o. box that he thinks i don't know about, his porn collection, etc.) Mind you his father and brother have both cursed me out and he doesn't take up for me and says that I deserve it. I have been going to counseling for myself and I have gotten stronger. I always thought that what I wanted was for him to change so that I could be happy. I've realized in his many absences that I am happy without him also. I just feel like I'm pretending because I still don't trust him and find it very difficult to forgive and forget.

2006-10-11 16:46:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 33 years old, was sexually molested by my uncles from 6-10. Feel hopelessly in love with a married man at 25, had an affair for 5 years. Ended that relationship by getting married and now am frustrated with my husband and very unhappy and void of emotion in my marriage and its not cause i think of my previous relationship.

2006-10-11 16:44:36 · 14 answers · asked by always angry 1

2006-10-11 16:37:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-11 16:36:43 · 2 answers · asked by mijesus66 1

2006-10-11 16:35:35 · 4 answers · asked by mijesus66 1

ok some people say men think of sex most of the time. ok how about women. what are the most important three things that women think about on their mind?

2006-10-11 16:34:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

with an ex will work out better than the first time. Or do you believe, if it didn't work the first time it will not work out the second time.

2006-10-11 16:25:27 · 26 answers · asked by lifescircle 5

I am a 26 year old man on the verge of breakup with my fiance of 3+ years. I love her with all my heart, but she thinks we are growing apart. She says we do not communicate well, and I have to agree that this is a big problem for us. We have short conversations everyday, with usually nothing but small talk. We have different interests and perhaps we don't have anything important to talk about, other than trying to think of topics. I really want to salvage what we have here. I appreciate any thoughts, especially from those who have been through this.

2006-10-11 16:22:51 · 26 answers · asked by Ben 1

My man has been married for 17 years and is now separated. We have been dating for 19 months and it has been a long distance relationship. He asked me to move in with him 2 months ago and I said yes.

He has been spending a lot of time at "the house" making repairs and spending time with his daughter. He has been feeling kind of sad lately and wonders if he should go home. He says that "she will never give me a divorce."

When I ask how he feels about me, he says it's complicated and he cares about me. He says that he sometimes feels as though the passion is gone, but "I'm not trying to talk you out of moving up here." I told him that either I move up and try or I figure out something else, move on and never look back. He got upset when I said that but he didn't make a decision either way.

When we are together, I see it in his eyes and his actions that he does care for me. But when we talk now, he acts as though he wants me to end it. What is going on? What to do?

2006-10-11 16:22:49 · 21 answers · asked by torn 3

If someone regularly views pornographic materials, downloads and saves sex chat links, and has secret email accounts, can they honestly be trusted, will they not eventually become cheaters?

2006-10-11 16:22:27 · 2 answers · asked by Miss F 1

2006-10-11 16:20:50 · 14 answers · asked by Bottle_Spout 1

I've been having a relationship with a 54-year-old married man and I’m 20-years-old! This has been going on since September 3, 2005. I want to leave him but I can't because I don't want to hurt him. Why am I in love with the wrong person? He has been married for 21 years now and has 2 children. A girl who is18 and has autism and a boy who is 20 and is a slow learner. He says he wants to leave his wife and be with me but I doubt that he will EVER get a divorced from her. I have suggested marriage counseling but the wife said that they can work it out on their own. I did a tarot card reading about two weeks ago and the cards told me to leave him or something bad will happen. The sex is great with him! I am friends with the 20-year-old boy. This is his second marriage. We sneak around a lot and find odd places to make love. People have seen us together but they haven’t put two and two together yet. I feel horrible about being his mistress and I don’t want to come in between their marriage. Every time I’m around him, I forget about everything else. He treats me like a princess! I will hate it whenever his wife and children will find out about us or if he gets me pregnant! We never wear protection whenever we have sex.

2006-10-11 16:18:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Honestly, how often do married people have relations in a month's time? And how does that effect the relationship? We are at only 2-3 per month. I have a gorgeous wife and we enjoy each other but it seems as if we are both so busy that we simply run out of time then you have to throw in the kids at home factor. What are your thoughts?

2006-10-11 16:02:34 · 28 answers · asked by Notta 2

My hsuband confessed after getting caught having an affair. I do love him and want my marriage to work. 5 mos has gone by and my feelings for him are slowly fading. I am doing more for me and the kids and not really noticing when he isnt' around. He walked in tonight, I was in the basement, and for the 1st time really wasn't excited to see him. He said "is this how I get treated from my wife who hasn't seen me all day?" I want my marriage to work b/c we have invested so much, and I really don't want to start completely over with an entirely new set of problems. I do love him but it's not the same as before the affair. I'm not depressed or sad, I'm just not inlove and content with him like I was before. Is this normal?

2006-10-11 16:01:01 · 22 answers · asked by sassy lady 4

i was meant to get 2 kittens and i wanted names for them...the names i picked were max and paddy....well it turns out that i am getting 3 kittens now...all from the same litter...now i need to choose 3 names and have no clue what to call them....one is ginger the other 2 are tabby...all males...we did suggest (curley larry and mo) but thought that we should call them something unique...not names like tabby or fluffy or kitty etc etc....any suggestions will be taken into consideration...so what should i name my 3 kittens? they are 7 weeks old and at that stage where they go nuts....very amusing to watch

2006-10-11 15:57:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Good idea "gun", helpfull shot myself afterwards. This is a fine communication tool. Oh and for the worried ones my name id and all is fake so im untraceable. See you on the news

2006-10-11 15:56:48 · 10 answers · asked by Chris R 1

i'm married since 2 months, after my wedding i heard many lies which my husband has always hidden to me,now i lost all my trust n luv which i've for him. n i do think a gud relationship is based on trust n luv, this y i want to leave him. but i dont know if i'll be able to 4get this n start a new life as i've loved him so much n he was my first lover. thanks for your advise n hope you may help me.

2006-10-11 15:51:39 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-11 15:51:14 · 10 answers · asked by jearev 1

Do you think once you have lost respect for someone that's it. You never respect them again. Or do you think they can regain it like trust?

2006-10-11 15:49:23 · 7 answers · asked by D 3

I am Catholic and I'm not sure where I stand on the subject

2006-10-11 15:47:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married almost a year ago and it has been absolute craziness since. About two months ago I found out that two months before our wedding my husband cheated on me with on of his coworkers AT WORK?! We have been together for three years and I don't understand how you could ruin that long of a relationship over something stupid like that! My husband recently said that he needs his space ( although I only see him during dinner and bedtime) and that I should just get over it. Also, he has continously flirted with other females but wants all my trust. I have never cheated on him, in fact, he was my first when we got married! He doesn't trust me and I feel taken for granite all the time. I don't feel that he is in love with me or interested, being that we are newlyweds and he acts as though he is irritated with me. I feel torn because I don't want my marriage to be a failure but at the same time i don't want to be miserable. What would you do in this situation.

2006-10-11 15:33:15 · 16 answers · asked by lg 1

2006-10-11 15:28:46 · 1 answers · asked by Mike 1

My husbands feelings have changed for me, he says he cant love me like I deserve to be loved and that he doesnt feel love for me the way I do him. He says he knows I will never be happy because of the way he is always hurting me and wants me to be happy. I feel like this is so unfair, I chose to love him and I dont want anyone else. He says he will stay because I wouldnt go, and he doesnt want to leave me helpless (with no license no job to provide) that he cares for me, Im his best friend and he doesnt want to hurt me. But how can this not hurt. How am I going to live with this waiting for him to leave me forever. Because I know he will someday. If not soon. He says he doesnt want to leave until I can provide for our kids. I still love him, How do I get through another day, Im having a complete breakdown. It hurts that I have loved him for six years and he doesnt share those feelings. I feel like Im dying on the inside. It feels like I am grieving. How do I get survive this mess.

2006-10-11 15:27:22 · 26 answers · asked by beautifullybroken 2

I write them for my husband about weekly- just to say I love you, a silly joke, some encouragement, bible verses etc...
Just wondering how men feel about this kind of thing...
My husband says he likes them, but he may be saying that to be nice??

2006-10-11 15:24:40 · 15 answers · asked by rottymom02 5

My husband does this all the time (although I was oblivious of it the first few years of our marriage). He says it is no big deal but it makes me feel really insecure and as though I am somehow lacking for him to be doing this. I have told him this but he keeps telling me it is harmless and I'm being silly

2006-10-11 15:19:00 · 21 answers · asked by misscynic 2

2006-10-11 15:16:05 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm getting married to a guy who is about 110kg maybe less and about 6foot.. i am 50kg 5'3
what is it going to be like in bed? am i always going to be on top? is it possible?

2006-10-11 15:15:04 · 21 answers · asked by Taylor 3

and did you the night before your wedding?

2006-10-11 15:11:53 · 14 answers · asked by bella 2

I have been married for 10 years. Wife is in San Francisco. The last contact was on February 2006. We have been separeted since September 2004. I want to divorce. I am in Canada now. How can this be done?

2006-10-11 15:10:53 · 9 answers · asked by Kaan Y 2