with an ex will work out better than the first time. Or do you believe, if it didn't work the first time it will not work out the second time.
2006-10-11 16:25:27 · 26 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends...why did the two of you break up in the first place? Have you dealt with the issue(s) that caused the breakup? Have you both matured/learned/grown from the experience, and are you both better able to handle the struggles that are part and parcel of a relationship? If nothing has changed, other than the passage of time, a second time around won't be any different than the first time. However, if you've both grown emotionally and mentally during this time, and the love is there...real and deep, then the second time around just might be magic!
2006-10-11 16:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by hrprrbn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to the individuals. Sometimes you all need to be seperated to find out why you love each other and how special you all are to one another. People don't miss what they have until it's gone. Now, if time has passed and she is still the same then keep it moving without her. Everyone grow and matrure, just like plants and any living being, it's a part of lie. Some mature faster than other, some stay stumps, if that is the situation, then NO it will not work, but if you can she that she has matured, then yepper, give it a second chance, you only live once.
2006-10-11 16:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. I mean, if you both come into it the second time around fully aware of the problems and are willing to try to work on making sure that doesn't happen again, I think anything can happen. IOW, go into it realistically, not blinded by love again, and I think you've got a chance. I think most people get caught up in remembering the good times and in missing the person, b/c let's face it, what break-up is EVER easy, right? But they go back to the person not even remembering the problems they had. Go in with your eyes open, though and you might have a chance.
2006-10-11 16:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally haven't done it, but my uncle married his first wife again. They both remarried after they got divorced, and then those marriages didn't work out. 18 years after their first marriage to each other ended, they got married again. They have been married for 10 years now, and had a baby the second time around. So if anything I just said made sense, then I guess you could assume that every situation is different. It's all in God's hands, and if it feels right, then go for it. Maybe the marriage shouldn't have ended in the first place.
2006-10-11 16:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things you need to look at are how long have you been separated and your age. You also need to look at what it was that didn't work the first time around and if it's changed. Before you try a second time around a lot of talking needs to be done so you both understand what the other wants and how you both feel and also what you both feel went wrong the first time.
2006-10-11 16:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by tinywolf2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it did not work the first time, it will not work the second.
2006-10-11 16:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by mcgrawm7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That all depends on the reasons for the seperation, if it is because of unfaithfulness it will always come up again, unless you are like truly forgiving.
It also depends on how much the two have grown apart from one another, sometimes couples get along better when seperated, somehow feeling less threatened, I never understood that one but I have read it is so with some couples.
Only you can judge for sure, because you are the one who had to live with the other.
2006-10-11 16:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There would have to be an incredible amount of maturing from both parties for something like that to work. That, and a willingness to let go of the past, and it just might work. But there needs to be real love for each other as well. If you're just getting back together as a matter of convenience, then it probably won't work. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-10-11 16:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married the same man twice...it was a very painfull 20 years and now it is a messy divorce. The anger and hatred you had in the past is very hard to let go of, even if you really try. We had councillors that felt this would make us stronger, but instead it just made us angrier. As hard as you say the past is the past, it still creeps in. There is a reason an ex is an ex...my advice is to let them stay that way.
2006-10-11 16:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... I believe if it didn't work the first time it will not work out the second time. You will always feel weird being with them. You will always have the past with you instead of moving on from the past
2006-10-11 16:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋