Honestly, how often do married people have relations in a month's time? And how does that effect the relationship? We are at only 2-3 per month. I have a gorgeous wife and we enjoy each other but it seems as if we are both so busy that we simply run out of time then you have to throw in the kids at home factor. What are your thoughts?
2006-10-11 16:02:34 · 28 answers · asked by Notta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you aren't going to like this.... because maybe your getting ripped off.... but we get busy almost every night. And I'm not talking wham, bam, thank you ma'am.... we take time with each other and have a great time. We average about 23 days out of the month! The only thing we are lacking is sleep. But hey, you only live once.
I realize we probably are NOT the norm. But we've been like this since we met.... and that was 22 years ago.
2006-10-11 16:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by HootieFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be honest, we have been married for 13 years, he works full-time, I work less than part-time from home and I babysit before and after school, we also have 4 sons ages 2 - 12. We probably have sex on average twice a month. He would love to more and complains alot but I am just plain tired and in my list of priorities, sleep is at the top right now. If that works for both of you then that's okay. I'm sure if your wife knew you referred to her as "gorgeous" you'd be gettin' some tonight!!
2006-10-11 23:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by JennieLouie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, not to have relations, but to enjoy life with your partner also. Life and marriage isnt about sex, SURPRISE, thats obviously how the world feels. Im engaged and waiting to have sex with my fiance when we get married. We have an amazing relationship, even though we're extremely busy, both with full time school, and both with work, living in separate houses. If it is actually affecting your relationship then talk about it and decide what is best for your circumstances. Other than that, make it romantic when you do get the chance. She probably wont expect it!
2006-10-11 23:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often makes the two of you happy is the right number. It can be difficult to manage to find enough time with jobs and kids, so it's important to enjoy what you do have time for. Cuddle on the couch, exchange passionate kisses in the kitchen - whatever it takes to keep the home fires burning.
With a baby sometimes it's a real challenge for my hubby and I to find time, so we grab quickies whenever we can, and enjoy the "real thing" the few times a month we find the time.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-11 23:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cracea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Active and regular sexual relations between married people helps a lot in enhancing their emotional bond and makes life more meaningful and enjoyable to them. But there are many married couples who for various reasons do not have active sexual relations and yet they are happy. They are contended with a lot of other things in life and do not give much importance to sex or they engage in it 'once in a blue moon ' and still feel o.k. about it. I think it is not how many times a month but how much they enjoy their lives together that matters most.
2006-10-11 23:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm generally "unhappy" with my husband for various reasons, we still have relations 4-6 times per week. We both have careers plus two children. We're both very sexual creatures so we find a way to get it in! LOL Sometimes that is the only thing that we do together. I'm just too damn competitive to not give it to him like a porn star.
2006-10-11 23:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by moxie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was married it was only a couple times a month, when I found someone who actually cared about me it was more like 5 times a week. Everyone is different but anyone should be able to find time.
2006-10-11 23:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say we average 10 times a month. Some weeks go well, others not so much. Like you said, with busy schedules and kids, it's hard to find time, even if it doesn't take very long!!! LOL!! We just have learned to enjoy the times we do have.
2006-10-11 23:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by Flip 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a typical, normal and healthy relationship to me! I don't believe those people who say they've been married for ten years and still do it every other day. They either don't have children or anything else going on if that's the case! As long as you don't stop communicating with each other, I would say, be thankful and happy. Ain't life grand?
2006-10-11 23:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by fearslady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your prioritys straight. plan ahead. if i had a sexy wife, even tho she works late, i'd make up for it on weekends. twice a week is supposed to be average for a younger couple married for awhile but once a week is more realistic i think. surely you could find time alone each week. theres always some excuse isn't there. too tired. don't feel like it. kids might hear. a spat.
2006-10-11 23:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋