My husband does this all the time (although I was oblivious of it the first few years of our marriage). He says it is no big deal but it makes me feel really insecure and as though I am somehow lacking for him to be doing this. I have told him this but he keeps telling me it is harmless and I'm being silly
2006-10-11 15:19:00 · 21 answers · asked by misscynic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of us have the same problem...it's either the flirting or the big long look at the girl with the boobs.........I'm sure it's something in their "Jeans".........................
2006-10-11 15:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a big deal to go flirting other women. I imagine this is so because of some egoimaniac thing that leads into thinking that just because we managed to land a contract now we know the secret and can afford some subcontracting out there. Male ego enhacing, I'd call it. I hoe you're husband will sober up.
2006-10-11 15:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it has something to do with the fact that we no longer "flirt' with one another after we get married!
The something they feel BEFORE they meet us at the alter has shifted after the big I DO...and men having big egos, need to be re-affirmed that they still have IT , the something that first , or they think, FIRST got OUR attention.
Some women I know do the same thing, and it drives some husbands to the jealous end and some think it is cute that the wives still have that MAGIC!
Make it a big deal... and it might become one!
Try flirting with him yourself and see what happens!
2006-10-11 15:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let him know it bothers you and he keeps doing it then there is the harm and therefore his flirting is not harmless. He is probably saying he does not mean anything by it. I'm sure it boosts his ego for a pretty girl to talk to him. I sure get a boost when I notice some guy notice me. If you are really bothered by his flirting I would not let it go I would keep talking to him about it until you reach an agreement about his flirting.
2006-10-11 15:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by melinda s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I 'flirt' with girls for the same reason I chum with guys. Attention. Some say it's for the ego. Yes. He has an unsatisfied need for attention. Making people laugh satisfies that need. Being the life of the party satisfies that need. Whether it be with guys or girls.
But watch him. If he ignores you to 'flirt' with other girls or he signals a particular girl out or worse yet, he touches another girl. It's time to step in.
Here is a case in point. I was at a bar three weeks ago with my wife and a guy friend from work. He was with a friend who was a girl and she brought her sister. I happened to be talking to both women... yes they laughed. Here is the point... my wife gave me the 'look'. I backed off and looked straight at her and said, "If you are not having a good time then lets go. Lets go do something else together. Right now... lets leave." I wasn't trying to be a jerk. I was serious. And... what I wanted to do was remove myself from an environment that would cause me to share my attention with others instead of giving all my attention to my wife. After all, I am out to have a good time with my wife, not to entertain my friends, friends.
The rest of night that we spent together. A short time at the bar and the rest of the evening drinking wine watching reruns on TV.
Yeah! It feels good to make people laugh... but the one I want to make laugh the most is my best friend, my wife.
2006-10-11 15:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because there is something you do not fill. now do take it the wrong way, you might be the best thing in his life and be the best wife, mother(if you have children) and everything you do in the relationship. but there is something that he is interested in when he sees these women. NO, i am not saying he is doing anything. it might just be flirting and that is it. so just start looking at the type of women he is flirting with and compare what they all have in common and then ask the questions that you might come up with about what you observed.
2006-10-11 15:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jake F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the one who is insecure. He needs an ego booster to make sure 'he's still got it' Men are weird like that. They need external validation or their, for lack of a better word, masculinity.
2006-10-11 15:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an ego boost, men and women alike like to know they are still attractive to other people.
It doesn't mean he's going to do anything with them.
maybe ask him out of respect for you to at least lay off the flirting while you are out with him.
2006-10-11 15:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still want to know that even though he's married other women thinks he's desirable.
2006-10-11 15:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is not taking you that serious when you told him what you feel when he is flirting with women...some married man do that to test if they have still the sex appeal to attract women who are mostly single..
2006-10-11 15:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by harukashin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋