Why do i feel emotionless?

Question

I'm 33 years old, was sexually molested by my uncles from 6-10. Feel hopelessly in love with a married man at 25, had an affair for 5 years. Ended that relationship by getting married and now am frustrated with my husband and very unhappy and void of emotion in my marriage and its not cause i think of my previous relationship.

Answer 1

It sounds like you have a lot of issues to deal with & some serious ones at that. Only when you can resolve this terrible thing that was done to you can you possibly begin to feel again.

Answer 2

I've felt that way a lot of times before. In my case, I think it had a lot to do with the fact that I wasn't behaving as an active participant in my own life. I just let everything happen around me and never stood up for myself or put any effort into bettering myself. While your childhood and relationship history could have a lot to do with your current mood, it's probably more in the way that you view those events. If you see yourself as a victim and feel powerless, you need to do change your point of view. A good thing to do is to make a short list of things that you would like to change about your life, or things that you fear. Then go out and face those fears and try to make those changes. Acting in the face of anxiety will more than likely make you feel something. Then just keep on track with that, and keep making changes, improving yourself and your self-esteem. Just become an active participant in your life.

Answer 3

Any person who has been sexually molested tends to not know how to feel alot of times. It's like we lose touch with most of our emotions except maybe anger and hurt. These are the easiest to feel. I'm 34 and have been through the same situation and counseling does help if you can find a good one. Good luck.

Answer 4

Who this is pretty deep, 1st of all you need to speak to someone about your past to get over that mental and physical abuse..Secondly, you may have went to your hopelessly in love relationship to mask the pain of your past, you are unhappy for a reason but it can be fixed with time and a little effort on your behalf...

Answer 5

I think you feel that way because being molested has taken some of the joy out of you and making you feel uncomfortable. I suggest you go to a guidence counsler and take up some new hobbies like fishing,swimming,tennis,golfing,running/jogging,pilates,yoga, pottery class/art class Martial arts/self defense etc. Just anything to help you get back on track that is fun and full of joy.

Answer 6

Hello! I really feel for you.

You are depressed. I can tell because I feel the same way, it is like nothing will give me joy, and nothing will make me happy. There is just this empty space in my soul.

I talked to my doctor and he says it is depression. I have had it my whole life, ever since I was a child.

I urge you to please talk to your therapist and see what can be done. Don't let it go any further.

I promise you there is a wonderful world full of feelings outside the cloud!

Don't waste your life by not addressing this problem.

Good luck

Answer 7

Two words, therapy. Lol, sorry making jokes when you have a serious problem. No, seriously, therapy will help a lot. You have to get over the issues from your past. Therapy generally is the only way to do so.

Answer 8

You are devoid of emotion because you are not in love with your husband, or he is not the right man for you. I know because I've been there. Try therapy, but the only relief for me was to get out.

P.S. After getting out, I never felt better in my life.

Answer 9

please seek help through therapy, you've been hurt so you feel unemotional, maybe your hiding any emotion to avoid being hurt, face your demons,file charges on the uncle's who molested you. you don't feel safe, and have a low self worth because of what happened to you. you feel shame, but know that it had nothing to do with you, you were just a child, and no one protected you, so you didn't feel loved. you need therapy to get through this, and you need to seek justice in a court of law for the injustice done to you.

Answer 10

You will always feel this way unless you go into therapy. Plus you need to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. Bless your heart. I wish you the best.