wife is a cheater?

Question

i found out a day ago that my wife was sending someone nude photos of herself. weve been married 4 23 years i no idea at all. i have never cheated on my wife or had any intenions. i been tearing my brians out trying 2 find out why! she says because i was not paying her enough attention this is whats happens. i give my all 2 her & try 2 payattention 2 her all the time but its just no use.

Answer 1

sending nude pictures aint a big deal, get excited about it,

need to spend some time body loving her ,, get involved in the computer thing, can bring you closer,,

Answer 2

I've only been married for 6 yrs. And truthfully she should have just been honest to begin with. There is no real reason for cheating. Maybe the only way ur gonna get to the bottom of this is some counceing. But I'd seriously consider a divorse. Ya dont really know how long shes been doing that or even more and who all with before u caught her. She cant love u too much to do those things to you like that. You shouldve have to woory about your mate being faithful. None of it is fair to you. Wise up and do whats right. In the end you'll know you've made the right decision

Answer 3

Hey:
Sending photos is ok but when it involves nude photos then there is something wrong somewhere.
Maybe your wife needs more money or excitement in her life,maybe she wanna be a porn star! I donot know the answers.All I can advice you is for you to both seek counselling on this delicate issue.
Man, you got too much years expended in this marriage doont give up without a fight.Remember its hard to build a home but easier to break it down.Your marriage vows said " for better or worse" consider this the worse and stick with her , get her help and see what happens.
So I say Pray and go do counselling !
Good luck!
Love Sanam
Ps : I am thinking becoz she is around her 40s she must creave excitement and young love in her life! people on the internet exploit young and aged women and men , so maybe your wife was lured into this stuff! You gotta help her and let her see you will be by her side.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, and I can't imagine how horribly you must be hurting. You guys need help, as in marriage counseling. Find a therapist you can both work with, or maybe even a minister at your church, if you attend one. Remember that an affair is a symptom of something more wrong within the relationship. Try to find out what's wrong (she's probably given you a hint--feeling ignored by you) and then fix it. If she says she's felt like you haven't paid her any attention, then start courting her again. Just like you did before you guys were married. Put her at the top of your priority list, not 4th or 5th. And be patient, you didn't get your marriage into this state overnight, it's not going to be fixed overnight either. Best of luck to you both.

Answer 5

I think she only cheating u.
Acc to her that u not paying her enough attention, then she have to send someone nude photos. It is absolutely ridiculous, you are a man you have to do thousands of jobs in a day to earn money for her and ur children then it may possible that for a instant u can't give her so much time, but then too she have to try to entertain u not to find some one else.

Answer 6

All of what she says is just a petty excuse to justify her actions. The cold fact is, she doesn't find you attractive any more. Some where down the line she made a decision and kept to it. Now the only thing you can do is let go and give her what she wants. It will be her in the long run that regrets every thing she has done. Don't waste your time racking your brain about it, it will only make it worse. Accept it, deal with it, move on with out it...

Answer 7

23 years...

First of all, you definitely have a strong core connection between the both of you.

Sending pictures of herself to someone is a choice.
She's making the choice to give what she's shared with you all these years to someone else.
There is pain and shock and many, many more emotions running through you no doubt.

But it does NOT mean the end of the marriage.

As with anything kept for 20 plus years, sometimes you just need to dust it off once in a while to bring back the shine.

Answer 8

I have been divorced for 8 years now after being married for 20 and in all that time I can not tell you why my ex cheated. I treated her like a Queen. With time you will heal, but no answer she gives you will make sense. She has already left your marriage ( technically ) and no matter what you try now, she will feel what she is doing is right. If she won't consider counseling, let it go because you deserve better. I am not going to lie, it's going to hurt like hell. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Everyone deserves a second chance, so if she shows remorse, you should forgive her. Stop thinking that you show her your best attention. If she SAYS you DON'T, try to really show her how much you love her. Try to make it work. 23 years is a long time to be with someone. You have to find a way to renew things. Don't give up. A marriage that long is a beautiful thing. Very rare these days. Think really hard about the way things have been lately and try to think of ways to make it new.

Answer 10

This is tough. I know your first inclination is to drop her like a hot potato, but please proceed slowly. You married each other for "better or worse". This falls in the worse category for sure. Your marriage can be saved, but it is going to take a lot of work from both of you. If you allow divorce to be an option, it will probably end up being the final result. Decide together to work this out and don't even entertain the idea of separating. You have been hurt terribly, but over time you can learn to trust her again and you can get through this. I will be praying for you guys. I don't know you, but God does. He will know who I'm talking about.

Answer 11

You deserve better.

She's trying to blame you for her actions which is absurd not to mention totally unfair.

If you can forgive her, she's a lucky woman, but if you can't, you need to salvage your self-respect and get out and allow yourself to be in a position to meet friends and a potential new wife or life partner.

God bless your heart! The Internet is the means for a lot of people who would never have cheated before to do so now... and sending nudie pictures of yourself to someone IS cheating.