Marriage & Divorce - 6 October 2006

i am married and have 3 kids im 20 the guy im married to iv been with for 4 years my oldest child's father is in a relation ship with another women but is not married me and him get a long great we dont fight like me and my husband do he has told me the only reason he says with her is because he does not want to break up another family like he did with us but he wants me to be friends with ben.. but i dont want to i do have feelings for him and things with me and my husband are not the greatest now what should i do please some one help me should i stay with my husband and try to make things work out longer or should i tell my sons father that i dont want to be friends with ben.. if i leave my husband for him then he better leave his girlfriend i was much happier with him

2006-10-06 19:30:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have kids, so I don't cheat, wouldn't be a good exa for them ya know.. but Daumm, I mean like what's up with women man? b4 we got married with children, we use to watch porn together, she'd even check out the women with me, it was all good! We use to get in a quickie here n there! you know how it is. Now? I have DRY BALLS! Not good fellas! My computer is the only love I get, thank god I'm a Tech! Ha! Funny, but not right now. I'm walking around frustrated as Hell (sexually of course)! See, when yall women out there find a good man that don't cheat on ya or beat the crap outa ya, you wanna hold the ill nana! That ain't gon happen! She's gonna turn me back into the old me (highschool dayz!) ya know! So, I was just looking for some advice b4 I get busy. We've been together 7 almost 8 years now, have 4 kids 13,13, 4,and 1. yeah, I know what the women are thinking, that's the problem! NOT! It's more a mental problem with her. She was in the nuthouse 4, 3days.BEEN 3 WEEKS! WHAT! DRYBALLS!

2006-10-06 19:29:17 · 8 answers · asked by stephenmathies 2

OK just for the run down of tings let me tell ya! I have been married for 11 yrs. When we 1st got married things were really up and down. we fought like cats and dogs...he would call me names and we would litterly fight. I ventured off and cheated on him and left him for a period of 1 year. during that year he also had girl friends. He fell and had an accident and that made me realize that I wanted to be with him because I loved him. now. we have been back together for 4 1/2 yrs but the problem is, anything I do Its all wrong. Im loosing weight and walking with a friend every night (a girl) and he accuses me of cheating,acting different, and he always says we have no marriage. He says im acting different but Im really not. I just want MY TIME. any thing that I do, like I said, IS WRONG. he calles me names and throws fits throwing things and such Its always my fault. He just always assumes thing and most of the time there not true....what should I do? I lay in the bed @ night and wonder

2006-10-06 19:10:12 · 13 answers · asked by HUM... ??? 1

How do I stop this without putting my daughter in the center. If this woman was a school teacher, pier or just a stranger on the street I would stop this behaviour yet as my daughters step mother I am unable do anything.

Please help

2006-10-06 19:06:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

watching the movie fatal attraction and am wondering are there as many affairs today as there were in the 70's seems i used to know lots of people cheating back then but no one today. is it still going on like it was?

2006-10-06 19:02:38 · 10 answers · asked by freedd 2

My daughter and her father are bullied by this women, this is straight from my daughters mouth although she as asked my to say nothing as it will only make the time she spends at their house more uncomfortable than it already is. Some of the things this woman has said to my daughter are:

“Your father and I only fight over you, you will be the reason for our divorce”
“You’re selfish and you only think of yourself”
“If you don’t sort things out don’t bother coming back”

And that is not half of it I only have one thousand characters.

None of these comments are said in front of my ex yet I believe he is aware of some of it. Last night I had to speak to her, I rarely call their house as it is usually not necessary. Both my ex and my daughter were for no reason curt and short with there answers while the wife was in the background coaching my daughter on what to say. The phone call was abruptly ended when my daughter was told to get off the phone.
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2006-10-06 19:01:57 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am ALWAYS trying to find new ways to make my husband smile all suggestion are welcome!

2006-10-06 18:57:44 · 14 answers · asked by mrskj007 2

That I Am Not The Only One Who Has Conflicts In Her Life. I Want To Thank All Of You. You Guys Have Helped Me Tremendously. And Now I Have Come To Understand That Having My Questions Answered And By Me Answering Other Peoples Questions Has/Is A Great Way To Relieve Aggravations, Pressures,& Stress.
Do Any Of You Agree?
Thank You Again.

2006-10-06 18:51:10 · 19 answers · asked by bigred 4

last when you are making love. I have only had one partner and just wondering what the normal is.

2006-10-06 18:48:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

For our 5th anniversary I asked her what she wanted to do and she said, "I want to go somewhere I've never been before" and I said, " How about the kitchen?" I was kidding but she stormed out of the house. I apologized but she is still mad.

2006-10-06 18:44:39 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

that told his wife one day, you are not a wife, this is not a marriage and I didn't married you to take care of you. you make your own money take care of yourself and don't depend on me for nothing.

2006-10-06 18:44:25 · 13 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1

We've lived together for five years and have had two children together. She wants to get married and I'm hesitant. Thus my question.

2006-10-06 18:39:43 · 14 answers · asked by jeremistocking 1

And hey! Those are her good points. Should I divorce her?

2006-10-06 18:38:27 · 18 answers · asked by ? 3

I've been apart of her life since she was 6, she is now 14. The ex wife and I don't get along. From day one I have never pressured my stepdaughter in loving me and so forth, I let her at her own pace accept me as being apart of her life. we slowly became very close over time. I have always been there to help when she needed it.Well, the problem lies with the ex, she can not stand me being in her daughters life. She constantly tells me I'm not her mother, and my response back is, "no, I'm not, you are her mother" So I have NEVER tried to take that place. because it is not mine to take. After many conversations with the ex, she still don't get it. I'm not taking her place, nor do I want to. I feel my stepdaughter should have her mother. I am just on the sidelines if needed. I am a parent figure in her life, but no bad has come to her. I can't figure out why the ex won't accept me in the role I'm playing. I love her daughter, respect her and treat her good. I'm not some mean nasty woman!

2006-10-06 18:23:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Husband can only last about 7 - 8 minutes in bed, we have about 30 minutes of foreplay before making love.

Is this about normal?

2006-10-06 18:22:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-06 18:22:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

and "my heart isn't in this". We have old issues but the main thing is, he cheated 9 yrs. ago, and that's when my feelings changed. Guess stayed with him out of fear---has a bad temper. well, now that I'm older, I feel I don't need this crap!
what's worse is, I can't even have an occasional night out with other friends without getting flak and yelled at when I come home. my kids see this and 1 of them doesnt have a good relat. with him. He acts more like a child!
Many have said over time that "I can do better". I don't have faith in me that I can!

2006-10-06 18:19:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

A few nights ago my wife told me that she wanted to "take a break" in our marriage in order to see if we liked it better.

I was blind-sided. A month ago I thought we were the most solid couple I knew.

We have 2 kids. We fight a little - less than most couples and never below the belt. We didn't have a blowout fight, there was no big event - nothing.

If it were you... what would win you back?

2006-10-06 18:17:28 · 14 answers · asked by felonius_monkey 3

I picked up my personal belongings but she would'nt let me have my dog. Should I get a court order to get my dog back?

2006-10-06 18:13:58 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3

and a very busy woman. However, you meet a man with children who also lives with him. He is a very good father, and you know he would be a great step-father for your children. You fall head over hill for him. He tells you he has always wanted to become a house-dad. Knowing you don't have time to do the things around the house that you want to do, would you let him?

2006-10-06 18:07:00 · 19 answers · asked by lifescircle 5

i am 26 yrs old girl insulin dependent, very pretty,?
problem is that i have one proposal. totally arrange i only saw him once , what should i do. he is 36 yrs old male, and he does not know that i am diabetic?

what would i do?
kindly suggest me

will my family inform his family that i am diabetic or not?

Additional Details

20 minutes ago
its an totally arrange marriage .

17 minutes ago
i thought if my family inform his family then they regret

16 minutes ago
its totally arrange marriage there is no love

2006-10-06 18:03:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I filed for divorce because she was cheating on me. She still has the boyfriend. I told her maybe and she definetly cannot bring her homewrecker boyfriend with her. Halloween just happens to be during my legal visitation time when the kids are with me. She obviously feels comfortable enough to come over to my house (which used to be our house). But I will never want to go visit her when she has the kids because i know she will have homewrecker boy there. So what's fair?

2006-10-06 18:02:02 · 23 answers · asked by coffeisforclosers 2

I believe that the relationship is dangerous to the marriage in the long run as there is always the chance that the two will become attracted to each other. What do you think?

2006-10-06 17:52:25 · 36 answers · asked by genesis_toy_and_hobby 1

im just asking im 29 and shes 27 because we use to have sex alot and now it like 2 times a month

2006-10-06 17:50:28 · 31 answers · asked by james t 1

i am 23 and married to soldier who is in Iraq. We three beautiful kids together and i have my step son who i love and adore.You would think that we are the perfect family.Not at all.

Before my husband went to Iraq he started turning off his phone when he came home from work . Then i started snooping.I found a steamy email that his sons mother sent him. Thanksgiving i was going through his phone and her text her telling her"yes i am still in love with you".When i confronted her she said that they are just friends. And both of them say that i am over reacting....ect.I know he is coming home and i need to supportive.He apologized for what happend tells me he loves me and things are going to work out.But this not the first time i have busted him or is it the first time he appologized.I am trying so hard to forget about it.i am so confused, i want to love him and show him how much i care.But at the same time i am scared to show him any affection? I just need some advice please.

2006-10-06 17:48:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have found history pages with him logged into sex dating sites in the crak of dawn when i asleep.part of my wants to search all his emails,but how do i obtain the passowrds

2006-10-06 17:40:32 · 19 answers · asked by Preschool diva 2

hi, i need help. i've been married for about 8 months now and i started to realize my husband's been looking at porn on the internet behind my back, whenever i'm not at home.

when we were dating, i was curious at his computer's history and it showed he went to adult websites. i didn't know what to do so i left it and forgot about it. couple days ago (about 3 years now), i looked at his computer's history again and i noticed that he had a lot of adult websites listed. i didn't mean to be nosy, but i don't know what to do.

he always told me he never looked at porn and he's never gone to a strip club and never will, but should i believe that anymore? should i confront him? if so, how? i can't help to wonder if there's something wrong with me.. if i'm not satisfying him... i don't know... we're still newlyweds, i don't know what to do. we still have sex and i think i still please him.. so what now? please help me.

2006-10-06 17:38:12 · 47 answers · asked by ftlc_unhappy 1

2006-10-06 17:26:09 · 20 answers · asked by mia_tx2005 1

why do men think it is cause they are not attracting?
Is this a game or a line to con the woman to have sex?

I simply am not interested in sex due to trust issues and/or stress and not wanting to really be in a relationship. So what makes this wrong for me not to want sex? I am honest about it. But it turns out to be a guilt trip about how the other person feels....un atractive....but he is atractive....I just am not interested most of the time.

2006-10-06 17:22:42 · 20 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7

2006-10-06 17:18:08 · 14 answers · asked by It's Been Cool 2