I believe that the relationship is dangerous to the marriage in the long run as there is always the chance that the two will become attracted to each other. What do you think?
2006-10-06 17:52:25 · 36 answers · asked by genesis_toy_and_hobby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree, it has happened way too many times that I know of where people who are supposedly just friends end up confiding in each other more than they do their own spouse and that's where the trouble begins. It usually ends with them cheating on their spouse. It's just not worth the risk.
2006-10-06 17:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ferosia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW a married man can be friends with a single woman, I'm single and my best friend is a married man. His wife and I get along very well too. He and I have been best friends since high school...over 30 years now. We dated a bit when we were younger but nothing came of it. The only way a friendship could be "dangerous" to a marriage is if the spouse was as insecure to become jealous of the friendship.
2006-10-06 20:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think no, for the same reason you mentioned. Chances are that some attraction will arise, and some people would argue that there is always a little bit of attraction in order for either to even pursue a friendship. Why take the risk?
However, I am not referring to work buddies or a husband who is friendly with his wife's girlfriends. I am also not referring to friendships that existed before the marriage, though those should be watched sometimes.
It is the type of friendship where the two get together one-on-one and confide in each other that is problematic.
2006-10-06 17:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how long they have been friends. It they've been friends since kindergarten, there's probably a pretty slim chance anything is ever going to happen. But if the two have only been friends for a short period of time, especially if the two people met after the man was married, I think it would be a very dangerous relationship.
2006-10-06 17:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by dani_anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's is no problem if these two both understand where they stand. If they will going into a deep relationship, that's another reason they should look about and think it a thousand times before committing therself for falling inlove further because it might endanger the married man's relationship to his family. If for a temporary fling purpose and no string attach will be envolved that this girl wants is to have further experience how wonderful company of this married man, that their friendship is for fun only, there is no problem if they both use extra precautions that will not be pregnated the girl to avoid future problem.
2006-10-06 18:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved. My husband and I both have single opposite sex friends some are friends of both of us others not and yes we talk to and sometimes go places with singles of the opposite sex without each other.
BUT we trust each other and our marriage and openly discuss and talk about these people.
There is two issues you need to address first your possible distrust of your spouses actions or intentions and possible motives of this other person. It could very well be your spouse is simply a 'friend' to this woman but you may detect she possibly could want more.
Examine your feelings and reactions and decide if they are trust based toward your husband or if in fact you feel this woman is a possible threat your spouse doesn't see yet. If she is open and friendly toward you then my guess is she is a non threat, but if she or he avoids discussing thier interactions then yes you may indeed be right to feel uncomfortable.
This is something you should openly discuss with your spouse and honestly admit your feelings to each other on- hopefully you can figure out the best approach and root of the issues so yu can grow your relationship stronger.
2006-10-06 18:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on a lot of things....like whether they were friends before he got married, whether she also has a friendship with the wife, etc. I am single, and my best friend is a man. But he and I were friends for 15 years before he met his wife, and the three of us hung out together for a long time before they got married. In our case I think it's ok, but in different circumstances I think it might not be such a good idea.
I think this situation will probably become a lot more common, now that so many people are waiting until they're older to get married, and have lot of friends of both genders established before meeting their spouse. Also, there are more male/female friendships than their used to be in past years.
2006-10-06 17:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. I wouldn't approve of it though. I know many may find nothing wrong with it, but for me I wouldn't feel very comfortable. It's almost like how we began hanging around married people after we were married, more in common. There isn't much for a married man and a single woman to have in common, and I think it is actually an invitation for DANGER.
2006-10-06 17:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are right....You start out as friends, but as time goes by the friendship tends to get closer and closer. The more comfortable you are around a person that you enjoy being around will soon turn into something special...But of course, you don't mean for it to happen, yet it happens......Then you wonder why did this happen...How did we get to this point? If you want to be friends always include the spouse to prevent anything from happening....
2006-10-06 18:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if his wife was Ok with him having an onnocent female friend which would be a mieracle, I doubt it would take long before he ends up cheating on her and the relationship goes bye bye
2006-10-06 17:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋