We've lived together for five years and have had two children together. She wants to get married and I'm hesitant. Thus my question.
2006-10-06 18:39:43 · 14 answers · asked by jeremistocking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are advantages in terms of parenting and the law. Health care benefits for your wife and your children... also the term husband and wife or Father and Mother will add to the sense of security that your children will feel as they get older. It also may be old fashioned, but it means something to make that public declaration of not just your love for one another, but the commitment that you have made to each other as well. Your "girlfriend" may be growing tired of having to explain her living situation to others... the whole "We're not exactly married" thing may be getting old. I say that it is time to step up to the plate and do what you should do. This woman has given you two wonderful children out of wedlock- clean up the mess before the kids have to explain things too. Being married is great, I draw so much strength from the choice that my wife and I have made to be together... It is not about a piece of paper, it is about making a choice, being proud of it, and showing it off every time someone sees that ring on your finger. Good Luck.
2006-10-06 18:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Marriage gives a solid base for a relationship. Living together is great if you don't want any commitment to anyone. If a question keeps creeping up in the back of your mind about someday having another life, then stay together all you want but don't marry. Marriage says I love you and want to be with you permenantly. It's also good for insurance reasons and health responsiblities. Like If one of you were in a serious accident sometimes only the spouse can say plug or unplug that life cord. It's also a more stable life for the children. It may seem like a trivial thing but it's really giganic in some terms.
2006-10-06 18:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Casper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god ! Sorry for this reaction but 5years you are together and have 2children . .its high time you marry !
Marriage has a lot of benifits provided you act responsible..Committment ,security,one ness,you know you have a family,your own people,help in old age ,they will be there for you..
Well it depends on the way you see it .. for me marriage is a process to get happiness and you both seem to be for a long time together that just indicates its meant to be !
Do let me know if this could help you !
All the best !
2006-10-06 18:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment of faithfulnes, trust and love. It also provides a sense of comfort and security that we will have someone who will be by your side through thick and thin and will always have a friend whom you canconfide in and depend on. The reason why there are so many divorces is becausepeople get married to quickly without getting to know their partners very well.
2016-03-28 00:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids will have a sense of security that they may not have now. Your wife will have the same. Words like "we will be together forever" will be played out in the ultimate way. Your partner will feel secure in the relationship. Marriage is the "action" that backs up the words. If you have a belief in God, marriage is a commitment that God will bless.
2006-10-06 18:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by GiGi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have children and you are hesitant.
Why are you hesitant? Do you think there is something better?
Buddy, those kids are your marriage. Do the responsible thing and make her an Honest Woman already..
I know most men think: "why buy the milk, when I can have the cow.."
You now have little calves..marry her already!!
2006-10-06 18:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by TexasKitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a formal commitment to each other. It sounds like you have already made an informal commitment. Maybe she wants to get married for the kids. You should talk to her about her position and let her know what's holding you back.
2006-10-06 18:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married offers more security and seems to be a bigger committment than just living together. If things don't work out for you, you could just move out rather than have to get a divorce. If you have lived together this long, and have kids together, why not get married?
2006-10-06 18:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legally, your wife is correct. You must be responsible to be called father of the family by giving your name to your wife and children. Spiritually, you need a blessing of your relationships from God. You will not think it twice, if you loved your children.
2006-10-06 18:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by The young Merlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is an acknowledgement that the state and state religion controls your life. Marriage is a made-up establishment that has no precedent in nature.
Swans mate for life, but they don't require an expensive document on the wall to verify it.
2006-10-06 18:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋