That line should be used on the series Marry with children. I laughed when I read it. Sorry your wife does not have a sense of humor. It sounds like she may have had a severe case of PMS to storm out of the house. How long ago was your 5th anniversary?
2006-10-06 19:00:13
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answered by geri11066 2
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To your wife, your joke may have belittled the marriage commitment which the anniversary celebrates....this in turn may have made her feel that you do not value her or honor the sanctity of your union.
Anniversaries are a big deal to women and the 5th is the first big milestone.
A wise husband recognizes that an anniversary is really a prime opportunity to show gratitude to his wife for choosing him above all others and for giving all of herself for all of her life, only to him.
Remember that anger is a secondary emotion, usually to woundedness or fear.
Your wife is likely still mad because she is hurt and needs to know that you understand why your comment was clumsy and caused her pain. You made light of something that is precious to her and the implication was insulting and juvenile.
You can turn this around into a positive and bonding experience by speaking from your heart.
2006-10-06 19:41:18
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answered by zuzu 1
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Two truths about men and women- We both think differently and we both think our spouse 'understands' our communication style when in fact the reality is men and women communicate very differently. Women are subtle and men are literal. A woman mentions what she needs or hints and a guy needs to be told if she needs something and women need to realize men don't read minds or hold a grudge long.
You meant it as a joke but she obviously took it personally.
She was probably wanting you to react to her suggestion with romantic aspirations of the two of you alone together for this trip and show excitement and start planning something special.
As a guy you made the slamdunk comment your guy friends expect and love about you, but noted her statement and probably planned on figuring out a good spot for a trip later.
When you saw her reaction you defended yourself- next time try the defuse tactic for your verbal foot in mouth moment and follow it up with 'In a beautiful Italian villiage' or 'Naked, since we haven't tried the countertops yet?'
Sorry your in the dog house over a joke. It's a very real fact guys and women communicate differently. Start with admitting that and ask her to accept that you will make jokes or comment without realizing she may be hurt by the words. Ask her to tell you when she expected a different reaction from you and why your words hurt or angered her. This way you can clarify the meaning and intentions. Be sure to try to do this when it happens so things don't get bottled up. The street goes both ways so try and listen and watch closer to when she may be hinting at something and don't ignore the clues just ask her directly if you suspect she wants or needs something from you.
Anniversaries are something women tend to view as romantic opportunities to get closer and do special things out of the ordinary.
Guys conversely rarely see the difference between celebrating an anniversary and the first day of football season each year. It comes you 'celebrate' you go to work the next day. It helps if you both realize the sexes just react to things differently by design.
2006-10-06 19:04:41
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answered by Answerkeeper 4
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well buddy you better think fast and make it up to her for your 5 year anniversary. Admit that your wrong and think of a way to really make this anniversary the one she'll never forget. TAke her somewhere romantic, aomething really good like to a fancy dinner, you should buy hera dress then put it on her bed and leave a note telling her to put the dress on and get ready because you are taking her out. then go to a fancy restaurant and then dancing. DOn't tell her you got a dress and let everything be a surprise.
2006-10-06 18:56:18
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answered by mickey_ds 2
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The reason she is so mad and this is something I learned from my wife. Women are fragile and she is taking your anniversary very seriously and you made a joke about it and it hurt her feelings. If you want to tell her that you shouldn't have made that joke because it was an important event it might work better than the sorry thing
2006-10-06 18:53:12
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answered by macnern 1
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Start with 1carat studs - per ear!
That was mean spirited. And hurtful. She probably is reading an underlying message in your response - is she right? Are you trying to say she can't cook? Doesn't cook enough?
If my hubby told me that, he'd be spending our anniversary by himself as I would make sure 1) I had to work late or 2) last minute out of town trip for work!
2006-10-06 20:30:48
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answered by Hula girl 2
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Why don't you go into the kitchen and cook her a nice meal to say you're sorry? Then plan a nice getaway for you anniversary and take her somewhere nice that she has never been before. You should want to make her feel loved and appreciated.
2006-10-06 18:47:07
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answered by torn 3
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If you haven't.....you should make love to her in the kitchen. saying thats what you meant by going to the kitchen. Or you can patch it up by decorating the kitchen like a retreat and give her a nice dinner there. If all else fails, I'm thinking you need to shell out some big present and get-a-way vacation to make her forget about it.
Women, they are so sensitative. but you need them.
2006-10-06 18:49:03
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answered by Anonymous
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There are some things you do not, I repeat DO NOT, joke about with women. Here are some of them: weight, how clothing looks on her, gifts, birthdays and anniversaries. You have some serious planning to do, and a lot of @ss kissing to do if you want to get laid again anytime soon. Good luck.
2006-10-06 18:46:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Sounds like you should be serving up some humble pie. Make her wish come true, It doesn't have to cost a lot. Wake her up early before the sun comes up and take her to a place to simply watch it come up, them thank her for the last 5 years and sharing the sunrise with you. That is what my mom wishes for everyday and to have one more sunrise with my dad. That was for them very special something money could not buy.
2006-10-06 18:53:00
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answered by ava_weis 2
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