i am 26 yrs old girl insulin dependent, very pretty,?
problem is that i have one proposal. totally arrange i only saw him once , what should i do. he is 36 yrs old male, and he does not know that i am diabetic?
what would i do?
kindly suggest me
will my family inform his family that i am diabetic or not?
Additional Details
20 minutes ago
its an totally arrange marriage .
17 minutes ago
i thought if my family inform his family then they regret
16 minutes ago
its totally arrange marriage there is no love
2006-10-06 18:03:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage arrangement? Where are you from, may I ask? Anyway, I am from Asia and I think it's where you are from too.
Straight to the point. I think if you are serious about getting married to this guy, then you must let him know before things are confirmed. You need to talk to him, if your parents haven't told him yet.
The last thing you need is an unhappy family due to your dependence on insulin. Be honest and open about it. It's not your fault and if he is ready your guy, then he will be okay with it.
2006-10-06 18:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear First thing is : the boy's family and the boy must be informed. It is very very necessary. Otherwise can create a lot of problems for u later on.......and u being diabetic can not Handel mental tensions and other sorts of problems....for your own sake and his sake u must inform them....you can NOT hide this medical thing from him or his family for ever....
Since u said its an arranged marriage i am getting a pretty good idea where you come from so i am sure you will also understand that marriages are made up in heaven , you can not do anything about it....If this man is in your KISMAT no one can stop the marriage ...so trust in GOD and let them know.....
In your society / the culture u come from / the family set up u come from : It will be considered a very big lie if u didn't.inform them of this....he & his family might never ever pardon you and your parents for hiding such a thing.
It happens , parents must have gone frightned at that time and didnt inform them and now must be regretting I can understand that..well before they find out the situation from any other source they should let them know....and clear the matter.....
I again say ask ur parents to trust in GOD and do the right thing ....and relive urself from this day/night worry.....
whatever will happen will happen for your benefit for your good....
would u let me know what happend pl.
good luck....One more thing.....In aranged marriages LOVE come later ..and this love is for ever.....& ever....there is no doubt about it at all....
2006-10-07 01:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by mature_male_online 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I bet most will be against the thought of arranged marriages but having worked with ALOT of people from foreign countries I understand more how these work.
First off ask your family if they have already told him and his family about your diabetes. If not then you should make sure they do. My daughter is diabetic as well and obviously due to complications or reactions you may have when together he should know as soon as possible.
I don't think they would disapprove of the arrangement simply because of diabetes but they may need more information on the condition. If they aren't familiar they may assume or think you will be unable to have children or may not have a long full life together. Make sure they get up to date medical information from professional resources so they understand this will not impact your relationship or ability to have a normal life or children.
I worked with a wonderful guy from India who had dated american women and even almost married one, but they were smart enough to realize that differences in background and religion would occur when children entered the relationship and ultimately parted ways and were friends instead. He finally asked his parents to arrange something and they found the love of his life. His statement to me was memorable and profound- my mother and father know me best and because of this were able to find a woman they knew I would fall in love with. His family selected a few girls whom he met and got to know before he found 'the one' out of the small group he felt was 'right'.
You never know you may indeed met and find your parents too chose the perfect man for you as well. If you don't feel right about marriage after meeting then talk to your parents about a possible change in plans and the chance to have them choose others until you are happy.
2006-10-07 01:16:59 · answer #3 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should tell this man . Not good to start out with lies . and never good to lie. He won't be able to trust you.
You said if you tell him you worry he may not marry you. But you also said its a arranged marriage and there is no love. So nothing to lose.
But in the future when you do meet the right man. Rule of thumb always be honest . It will come back to bite you later. Also not being fair to him. This is something important he needs to know.
2006-10-07 01:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you marry someone without love .we are in 2006 not 1800 why would you even consider a arranged marriage.Dont do it you wil regret it mariage is not a game and being diabetic should not hold you back in anything dont be ashamed of yourself.
2006-10-07 01:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by EPTX 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
be transparent and let everybody know the truth...as a saying goes...truth shall set u free...
youll have more to gain than to lose if youll be honest and brave enough ..
good luck and ill pray for u...
2006-10-07 01:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by jadfritz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
aww hun :( that's not fair to have an arranged marriage. but i would ask your parents if they told him and if not get them to tell him..
2006-10-07 01:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They need to know.
2006-10-07 01:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THERE IS NO LOVE , DON'T GET MARRIED
2006-10-07 02:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋