A few nights ago my wife told me that she wanted to "take a break" in our marriage in order to see if we liked it better.
I was blind-sided. A month ago I thought we were the most solid couple I knew.
We have 2 kids. We fight a little - less than most couples and never below the belt. We didn't have a blowout fight, there was no big event - nothing.
If it were you... what would win you back?
2006-10-06 18:17:28 · 14 answers · asked by felonius_monkey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Refuse to leave but give her space to pursue personal interests. Take up the slack with whatever responsibilities she has.
Try doing special things without being asked but don't be a doormat. If she doesn't respect you as a man she won't be interested in you.
Be patient this may pass quickly if you don't turn it into a battle of wills.
2006-10-06 18:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A wife and mother does not decided it is time for a break unless there is something else going on. Not to sound harsh but could there be another person involved? Mid Life crisis? Depression? She may be testing the waters to see either how much you will try to save the Marriage or if she can emotionally be with out you . How can you "win back" someone that you have no idea why you lost to begin with? Basically you don't Sorry do not mean to come across harsh but there is more to her decision than she is letting on.
2006-10-07 01:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dezi M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that prior to requesting "the break" your wife has seriously considered the circumstances. Most likely she was unhappy for long time before your marriage have reached a breaking point.
How old are the kids?
Do you love your wife? - Tell her!
It is always sad to see a family breaking. I feel for the kids.
If according to your wife the marriage is "irretrievably broken down" it is not much you can do to win her back. Perhaps you are missing few pieces of the puzzle.
Wishing you well.
2006-10-07 01:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break usually means you got some problems obviously.
before you accept this, you might want an explanation. If you really want her back, tell her. Don't try to win her back. People have children sometimes and are not so good in a relationship together. But try to find out why she feels she needs space and don't be shock that she wants to be with another guy. Sometimes feelings change. Of course, breakups hurt. Bottom line: if you want her back, be honest and tell her and if that doesnt work, just be there for your children...maybe you both are better off as friends....think about it ...good luck....
2006-10-07 01:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in every relatinship communication is key! So aske her what exactly is bothering her. Look closely because if she wants to take a break maybe things haven´t been ok for a while and you just sisn´t see thing were going down hill. So ask her what is that is really bothering her and try to fix things up, send her roses, take her out to dinner , get her a cute piece of jewelry and tell her you love her and remind her of the things that makes you love her . Good luck!!
2006-10-07 01:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by Katiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in marriage or any other rlation a time comes when we feel that the things are not rolling right. or at times the monotony of the relation whether its smooth or furious gives a feel of distraction to the people involved in it .
all ur wife need is a refreshment in her relation . do something unusaul which is not expected of you . but ofcourse which u thing pleases her . give her some more space and be around her immotionally .
break the monoty and lead a new happy life
2006-10-07 01:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very manipulative and I can't help wondering if she's looking for permission to see other people.
Until you have some good, healing, open dialogue with her to find out the source of this "need", I don't think you're going to be able to go forward.
Shoot, what if one of you "likes it better" and the other doesn't? Marriage shouldn't be like buying shoes... if she's not in it for life, then it sounds like nothing is going to win her back. I'm sorry for you and your children. I hope you'll be able to work through this and save your marriage.
Good luck!
2006-10-07 01:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start communicating. Find out what happened. No use trying to guess why as it seems u have lost touch with your wife long before this happened.
2006-10-07 01:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may already be looking at someone..she sounds unfulfilled.
There may be unfinished business in her life, personal challenges that she was never allowed to pursue.
Give her space, but question her motives and she needs to be honest.
2006-10-07 01:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by TexasKitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best answer here...yea giv here atleast a week if u see things not changin or gettin worst see how she lik the relationship but then anythin else see if she wants a divorce
2006-10-07 01:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by queencasper13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋