2006-10-06 17:26:09 · 20 answers · asked by mia_tx2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Huh?! Should you go where?!
2006-10-06 17:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by PD GAL 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband needs to think about why he married you in the first place, not about what his family may think about what education you have or what money you have. Love and respect for each other is the basis of a good relationship, not education and money. Also you can have limited education because of circumstances and still be smart and become a success. Do not lose confidence in yourself because of what he thinks, he is wrong, if he in his mind really is embarrased about you, let him go and find himself an educated, rich lady and see if she gives him the love and respect you do, keep possitive, tell yourself you are a beautiful human being that deserves a man who loves and respects you, he is the one in the wrong, even for telling you this.
2006-10-07 00:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important question is are you embarrassed of your status? Do you desire to make the necessary changes to obtain education for your own peace of mind? How do you feel about the opportunities available to you now without an education? Hubby is probably scared that furthering your education would cause you to open your mind and wonder what you're doing with a guy who doesn't appreciate you for who, what and where you are in life. Take charge, believe in yourself, and do what you need to do in order to get ahead. Don't be overly concerned with what others think as long as you're following your heart and doing what's best for you. Be encouraged.....
2006-10-07 00:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw you asked another question in spanish perhaps?
My guess is what many don't realize is that in other cultures and countries a spouse's family or eductation can play a major role in the families acceptance of a new bride or husband.
I'm sorry your husband is nervous about your background and his families reaction or possible treatment of you. It shows he obviously cares for you and does not want their disapproval to become an issue for your relationship.
I would suggest he start talking to his family about you- if he is afriad of telling them he is married already he should begin by not revealing that fact until he feels he knows or is certain of their reaction to the possiblity of your relationship.
Hopefully his family will see how much you both love each other and money nor education will be a factor. If they are indeed displeased with him try to show them how much in love you both are and try offerring that you will seek an education for a career. You can also try talking about children even if you two are not planning for them right away, sometimes grandchildren or the prospect of them can overcome a families initial disapproval.
Don't give up on them accepting you sometimes children worry overly much about what a family expects when in fact all they truly want is for thier son to find love and be happy.
2006-10-07 00:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why he have to be embarrassed?? You two are married because of love not how much money of level of education you have! You should ask him why he feels the way he feels. If he truly loves you, money and education does not matter. If he doesn't understand, he doesn't deserve to be married!
2006-10-07 00:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by sunflower222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like his family are very superficial people and your husband doesn't have the spine to stand up for u. What does marriage have to do with education or money assuming he married u for love?
2006-10-07 00:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you should leave his *** because he shouldn't do that to you. you are his wife. he need to respect you and not treat you like ****. i would put my foot down. he need to be a man and not saying stupid stuff like that. maybe you have your reasons why you didn't get an education. if he really love you he should stop to think about his vows for better or worst. when he marry you he knew you didn't have an education or money. so what is the big deal so what if you don't. so i would say to you keep up your head and don't ever let no one put you down OK.
2006-10-07 00:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like he's downing you. If it was an issue of embarrasment then why did you guys get married? What about for better or for worse? That shouldn't be a damn issue anyways. As long as you are treating him right than to hell with that. You guys should be done with that stage.. you guys are married now.. that should've been nipped in the bud when you guys were engaged. If he can't love you for your imperfections, than I would rethink why he married me in the first place.
2006-10-07 00:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife has had no formal schooling and doesn't have alot of money. I married her because I love her and that is the most important thing. The best thing you can do is BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! You are just as capable as he!
2006-10-07 00:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by keemster05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a chance. You don't need anyone judging you. It would be a good idea to get rid of your husband & find someone whose proud of you for being you.
2006-10-07 00:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would be ashamed of this jerk! If he is not proud of you the way you are, tell him to take a hike! Why did he marry you in the first place?
2006-10-07 00:29:32 · answer #11 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋