2006-10-06 18:22:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't, all divorces hurt, it's just the simple truth.
2006-10-06 18:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she's "in love" with you, then there really is no way to gently break this to her. It'll take time and consistent reassurance that you still love her as a friend/person and want the best for her. She may even lash out at you. This is something you need to be prepared for. I would suggest going to marriage counseling first. You have children involved, and even though staying together for the sake of the children is never really the best idea, marriage counseling could help her see that the relationship just isn't working for you. I would also suggest that you not get married again. Marriage is not necessary just because you fall in love and want to be with someone. You can be in love and live together without having it be a legal arrangement. Considering this will be your second divorce, you may really need to consider the fact that you're not the marrying type. It's not a bad thing, nothing to be ashamed of ...
2016-03-18 05:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to truth in a deep conversation just you two at home. Don't go saying "Honey, I want a divorce". You have to slowly ease in. Start out by saying how good she is and after awhile you feel like you two drift apart and then go on about why you don't like her anymore. Then pop in the question of...maybe considering a divorce.
But if your reason of divorce is because you found someone else, theres no way of not hurting her. You must have a good reason why you don't want her anymore. Maybe tell her you're gay.
Good luck! (even though I don't believe in divorces)
2006-10-06 18:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you could get into an argument with her and blurt it out or, you could sit down with her, maybe a nice dinner or go to a quiet park where you could talk...... why do you want one? Are you in love with someone else? Or just fall out of love with her and want to move on. It could be you two just grew apart. But hopefully she'll understand and want to move on in her life too. Its hard to break up and not hurt someone. Just make sure you tell her you care about her enough that you don't want to hurt her. Good luck
2006-10-06 18:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Casper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do it without hurting her.
Don't you know that the two of you became one, when you consumated the marriage? A divorce is a tearing apart. It is most painful, more so than the death of the spouse to many people.
2006-10-08 14:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just sit her down and tell her the truth. You are only hurting her more by not telling her. Especially if there is someone else in your life, let her go find happiness, because she needs a real relationship.
2006-10-06 18:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by zahzah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What dream world do you live in? My God, you make a promise for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, and you want to end this life long promise without you having to feel bad about it. You want to make her not hurt, try to be that guy she married. I know it sounds like I'm dumping on you but why would you want to do this? You don't love her anymore? Love is a verb! It's something that you do. It's not always that warm and fuzzy place you dreamed about. However if you stick it out and work at it you will eventually get there.
2006-10-06 18:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There are no words that can remove the hurt of that painful word no matter what you say. Sorry. You will hurt her with that no matter how much you don't want to.
2006-10-06 18:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Living the Alaskan life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's impossible!! That's like trying to separate the white from rice. The pain she will feel is inevitable. The best thing for you to do is to be honest, and straight forward. Yeah I know...easier said than done, but the longer this goes on, the more unfair it is to her and you.
2006-10-06 18:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Retarded Genius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you want a divorce with your wife??? you know a divorced bring many problem, you got think carefully??? how to be your child??? any any incloud painful and hurt, you think if wan day your wife like you wan a divorced with you, and you very loved she, how your feeling???think it carefully, don't make wrong choice.
2006-10-06 18:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by ying 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋