After we got married, my wife became my room/mate!!!?

Question

We have kids, so I don't cheat, wouldn't be a good exa for them ya know.. but Daumm, I mean like what's up with women man? b4 we got married with children, we use to watch porn together, she'd even check out the women with me, it was all good! We use to get in a quickie here n there! you know how it is. Now? I have DRY BALLS! Not good fellas! My computer is the only love I get, thank god I'm a Tech! Ha! Funny, but not right now. I'm walking around frustrated as Hell (sexually of course)! See, when yall women out there find a good man that don't cheat on ya or beat the crap outa ya, you wanna hold the ill nana! That ain't gon happen! She's gonna turn me back into the old me (highschool dayz!) ya know! So, I was just looking for some advice b4 I get busy. We've been together 7 almost 8 years now, have 4 kids 13,13, 4,and 1. yeah, I know what the women are thinking, that's the problem! NOT! It's more a mental problem with her. She was in the nuthouse 4, 3days.BEEN 3 WEEKS! WHAT! DRYBALLS!

Answer 1

You need to talk to her about her lack of desire and ask her to discuss it with her doctor. Tell her you are concerned because her depression (guess on the nuthouse reference) and lack of normal sexual contact can be indicative of health problems and you want her around and happy for a long time.

Approaching the problem as concern for her health is the best option to gain her cooperation but it is in fact the issue and SHOULD be treated by a doctor.

If your current doctor doesn't think anything is wrong please get another opinion and go with her. You may need to speak to the doctor about her moods, changes over time etc so he or she understands how much she is changed and how much this is affecting her quality of life. Depression or mental issues that require mental treatment should not be ignored. Hopefully she will get the right help and once the proper medication is working she will be happier and her sexual rythmn will be back.

I wish you both the best of luck in making things work!

Answer 2

You married your wife for better or worse, this sounds like you need to find your wife some counseling so she can work through her problems. A marriage is a partnership, and is based on so much more than just sex. Take the time and work through whatever problems are keeping the two of you from being intimate. I guarantee if your wife is unhappy, you will both suffer from loss of intimacy and you too will be unhappy. Support her through this time, after all you did make a lifetime commitment. You didn't expect your marriage to last a lifetime without any problems did you? Of course not, keep your pants zipped for now, and stand by your wife during her time in need. Your support, love and understanding is the greatest gift you can give to her right now, and I guarantee those gifts will not go unnoticed for long if she is truly in love with you. If she has been hospitalized, there is a significant problem, stick by her and get her help.

Answer 3

First off JIM don't make me kick yo azz! Literacy, it's called slang you Moron! I was a single parent with my 2 kids for 6 years! get a life! Sounds like you have some issues of your own and you shouldn't be on this subject. So, why don't you go take a shower with john, sounds like your just looking for attention, there you got it now please leave! Now, I really appreciate all of the nice answers that were posted, I think I'm going to go with Number 1, taking her to a doctor to make sure that everything is okay first of all. Ps. I cook, clean, watch my kids and run my computer business from home fyi. I really try to make her feel comfortable, but I guess when it's just not there it's not there. We shall see. I hope it is. I really tried everything from barry white to sex on the beach, getting rid of the kids, taking her to a nice hotel, you name it, everything! I put to much into this to just give up or ruin it by going outside of my marriage, so I will give it my best shot! Who knows, maybe it will spice up again, can't say right now. I just normally have a very high sex drive, I mean like twice a week is okay for me, but to let the truth be known I'd like it a least 3x a day. I know, I'm not normal. Then again who is? Okay, for those of you who don't watch David Chappelle "dry balls means that they dont' get wet by your woman anymore" (NO SEX) that's all, nothing bad, well, that depends! Ha! Well, if all else fails, which I'm sure it won't because I will never give up and that's the only way you can fail I will see you call in 2007!!! With wet balls hopefully!!!! Wooo Weee!! Just had to write back!
StephenMathies Saying Good Knight ps. Jim no hard feelings, but first just know at least something on the subject that your speaking on or want to speak on that is. You take care, and don't drop the soap! I'm sure that john doesn't have dry balls! hahaha! Night yall! thanks again!
Stephen Mathies aka BloodMoon7000

www.tagworld.com/stephenmathies

Answer 4

I just had this discussion with my mate. I honestly think some real research needs to be done. I think when a female has kids, her hormones change or something. I don't know but trust me, she feels terrible too. After having children, looking after them, cleaning the house, working, cooking, shopping, etc; a woman is exhausted and at the end of a long day....sex is just more work and honestly is a drag more than it is enjoyment. Try pleasing her without asking for anything in return. Let her know in advance that this is just for her and that she doesn't have to do anything. She will remember what you did and will make up for it.

Answer 5

Let me start by saying sorry, it sucks. Maybe you need to spice things up. The quickie thing isn't doing it for her anymore, she wants more.

Making love is a all day process. In the moring give her a nice kiss to say good moring instead of the usually whats for breakfast. In fact make her breakfast in bed. In the afternoon stop her in what ever she is doing and give her a shoulder rub, a few kisses on the neck. Make dinner for the kids eary, and then have a candle light dinner for the two of you. Buy her something nice.

Then put to heavy moods on her. If nothing then she is cheating.

Answer 6

Thank God I don't know what DRY BALLS is....I imagine it isn't good. Anyhow, I suggest reading a book called the "five love languages". Maybe you can figure out what her or your problem is and get on with a good wholesome life together. Best of luck to ya

Answer 7

First off, your literacy leaves something to be desired. Maybe she's just gotten to know the real you. Your wife is not your sex slave. Just because you don't cheat doesn't make you the greatest man ever. Try being romantic, seductive, I only read one post of yours and i'm almost ready for the nuthouse. (I need a shower!)

Answer 8

hey man! cool down. have u talk to her about ur problems?
otherwise, u got to seek help from docs, ur wife mignt hav her own problem that u r not aware of!!!!