Marriage & Divorce - 4 October 2006

i just found out that 2 1/2 years ago when me and my husband seperated due to his meth use he slept one time with this girl who i really don't like. he left me with our 1 year old to go do whatever he wanted. we made up we started new and i told him that i was with someone whe we were apart for 6 months and he had ample opportunity to tell me the truth but he lied this entire time. things have been great between us since we got back together but i had asked him before if he used with her or screwed her and he said no everytime and would hold it over my head that i "cheated" while we were apart. i can't stop thinking of him being with her, how can i get over this? i feel totaly betrayed and hurt.

2006-10-04 04:53:17 · 9 answers · asked by jcleary555 2

I mean if she refuses to have sex and you just can't hold back

2006-10-04 04:47:50 · 40 answers · asked by Mr Business 3

I've recently been talking on the phone with my ex-wife, we sometimes talk for two or more hours. She's thirty eight,I'm forty one. When we were married we had the the best of times together, Everything was great until she came to the realization that her need to have a child was greater than the Love that we Shared. She knew before we were married that I wasn't able to have children but it wasn't a problem then. She was completely honest with me about her reason for wanting to separate, I was crushed and I feel that it hurt her deeply too. She broke my heart. It's been seven years since we've been apart. She's single now and has a five year old daughter and has come back into my Life. It feels like we are falling in Love again or like we have never been apart. I almost don't know how to feel. I'm Torn.Could you please give me some of your thoughts on this?

2006-10-04 04:44:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I take this personal especially seeing the amount of women up in this yahoo answers that complain about their lazy couch bum boyfriends and husbands, and how they do everything for them. It seems like women tend to baby and spoil these type of men but when they meet men who work hard, are ambitious, help around the house etc, they tend to be hard on these men and take alot of frustrations of the couch bum men on the hardworking ones. I speak out of experience from some women I've dated also. I think its annoying.

2006-10-04 04:34:46 · 18 answers · asked by Blk Angel 2

my brother wants to propose to his wife but wants a unique way to do it any suggestions?

2006-10-04 04:23:49 · 9 answers · asked by Jasmine M 1

I work all day and nothing gets done around the house. He just sits on the computer all day and does nothing. He does, however, take care of our child while I am at work. Lately, he has started drinking alot of beer just about every night. It's getting really expensive and leaving me short on rent, not to mention sometimes he will get too drunk to be able to watch our daughter properly. Also, he gets really angry somtimes if I don't take care of him after he isn't feeling good. He stays up all night every night and we never go to bed together anymore. Sometimes I can't sleep because he is blasting his stereo too loud in the middle of the night while he is drinking. He has never laid a hand on me or our daughter but I am afraid he might. He says that if I leave he will have me put in jail for parental kidnapping. What should I do? I cannot afford daycare and I can't take another day off to watch my daughter because he is too drunk to do so some days.

2006-10-04 04:23:07 · 49 answers · asked by Torturedsoul 2

2006-10-04 04:19:23 · 9 answers · asked by amit p 1

2006-10-04 04:12:47 · 19 answers · asked by greeneyes 3

I have recently endured a severe heartbreak as a result of my, then girlfriend, splitting up with me. After 1 month she ran off with another fellow from her work. I consider myself somewhat fortunate in that it has happened to me when I have no kids, no joint property, no marriage etc.
However, it still deeply hurts and ever since this traumatic event, I really haven't been myself.
I have tried to approach new girls and chat them up, but I feel I am very low in self-esteem and confidence; I feel as if I have lost my energy to go out on the prowl.
What really scares me now is that I really did trust that girl, and the ironic thing was that she was more into me than I was into her if that makes sense. She was so petrified that she was going to lose me one day and did everything to keep a hold on me.
With all that security I was given, and then the whole thing turning boomerang on me, how can I now look at the next girl, when she speaks such words of emotion, and genuinely believe her

2006-10-04 04:07:54 · 38 answers · asked by Christian_80 1

2006-10-04 04:06:18 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was in an awesome relationship, I had a hard breakup and also it was hard to recover. She left me, then she gave me a sign she did care like I should have done something, I didn't. I think I am starting to feel better after the hard breakup, finally!. I am having goals, do sports, don't have lots of friends, I don't want to date anyone in what I think ever in my life if I can be happy with being single. Has anyone being on this situation?. I am 1/2 happy now, what did you do to be really happy?

2006-10-04 04:01:36 · 15 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3

i love my hubby so much

2006-10-04 03:55:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-04 03:54:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

i lie about other guys asking me out.... i lie about things that happend to me during the day....i know i sometimes lie to my husband... but it is never anything big... the reason i do it is... actually i dont really know..... it is wierd i dont ant to lie... but i end up doing it sometimes... what can i do?????

2006-10-04 03:52:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-04 03:50:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for 12 years and married for 6. I feel like we aren't on the same page and are moving so far away from each other emotionally. We hardly talk and hardly spend any time together. I mentioned counseling he said NO. The only way I can really talk to him without being emotional is to send him an e-mail. Help me I dont want the e-mail to be mean. I wanted to go away for a few days he complained about the money. Please help me.

2006-10-04 03:48:14 · 20 answers · asked by fungirl 3

In India the law is higly in favour of wives. Husbands need to tolerate even the most wayward and selfish women as wife as the law does not allow a man to be separated without being penalised...

2006-10-04 03:45:29 · 9 answers · asked by Dustu 1

i have been married for just over a year we have a 5 month old i am perfectly happy with my daughter and my husband ... so why am i so sad all the time... i feel like crying all the time!!!!

2006-10-04 03:43:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

can a parent [father] chose a woman for his son to marry, and im asking whether is good or bad?

2006-10-04 03:43:18 · 5 answers · asked by gwalar 1

My grandad has recently been contacted & contacting this number for the past 9 months behind my gradma's back. We looked at the cell phone bill and there were over 200 calls (from one way or another) in a single month. All I know right now is that her name is Bradi, and she lives in Dade City, FL, in her early 30's and has 2 kids. If anyone could help out, it would help not just me, but my entire family.
Thank You,
Grandbaby

2006-10-04 03:40:11 · 11 answers · asked by tawtaw 1

I've been with my wife for over 2 yrs now. (3rd marriage, which started as an affair). In the beginning of our relationship, I had lied to her, I was a pig, and said some stupid and immature things to her and around her that has now made her feel terrible about herself and I feel terrible for doing it. I was a mess. Since then I have grown and want her to know what a beautiful person she is and know how much she means to me. What would be a good approach? Everything that I have tried for almost 2 yrs. now has failed. Please help

2006-10-04 03:32:06 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a close friend that is committing adultry with a married woman. He is 36 and lonely and she is married but her husband lives in another state. This affair has been going on for about a month. He says the chemistry between them is unbelievable and they click on so many levels and now the relationship has turned physical and they are having sex. He wants to break it off and keeps referring to the 10 commandments and sinning. I told him thats great that they click so well but she is still marrield albiet unhappily. What should I tell him? I mean, I have never ever seen him so happy and she is in love with him. He wants to break it off but he is so tempted to keep it going at the same time because he loves spending time with her. He keeps calling for advice but I dont know quite what to say. Please help with any advice you may have.

2006-10-04 03:30:09 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband has just went to iraq. we are looking for a marriage counseling book, especially a course type book, one we can work in. ok, thanx for any helpful ideas or advice.

2006-10-04 03:29:38 · 10 answers · asked by sue man 2

they are married from 25 years
and every one think the other is crazy (they don't want to see a psychotherapist)
I tried to talk with them but my mom dosen't want to talk
Please help there might be some time, I can help them and keep them together what should I do

2006-10-04 03:29:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I HAVE NENER HAS SEX WITH MY WIVE. NONE, NO BJ, NO HAND JOB NOTHING. I FEEL THAT I AM AT MY WITHS END. I LOVE MY WIFE AND OUT TWO TEST TUBE CHILDREN, NUY SEEM TO REALLY NEED MORE IMYTIMATE CONTACT. i BELEIVE IN MY VOWES BUY FIND MYSELD LOOKIMG AT OTHER WOMEN AND IMMAGININ...IT'S BEEN 8 YERS FO ME WITH MOPROSPECTSFOR THE FIUTURE. i KNOW LL ABOUT MASTRURBATIONS, NUR AFTER SO MANY YEARS EVER THAT LOOSES IYT THRILL. pLEADE HELP AND DONT' DELETE ME.

2006-10-04 03:23:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been seperated 18 months, absolute already thru, just house stuff to sort, so why everytime i get a solicitors letter do i allow it to hurt me? I know i am better off without him, i am retraining and getting on with my life, my daughter is settled and happy so why does it hurt so much? and make me feel so miserable. i know tommorow i be back to normal but today i want to cry

2006-10-04 03:23:38 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

18 years ago the guy I was dating commited suicide, he was also my neighbor (a bit older then me but when I was of age we started seeing eachother) but now the name on his grave stone is wearing off, if I paint in his name with a fine brush and make it look new again will his family members be offended? Is this wrong and can I get into trouble by doing this? Would they find out it were me that did it, if I do?

2006-10-04 03:22:52 · 16 answers · asked by sophia_of_light 5

My wife had this "friend" at work, he stopped her in the hall one day and gave her a passionate kiss. We were having trouble at the time and since have gone to counseling. But during the counseling she never brought up this kiss. I should have but didn't. The guy has move to another town miles away but she still stays in contact with him. Am I being over suspecioous or do you think there is something going on?

2006-10-04 03:22:16 · 22 answers · asked by Joesmoe 2

after he did this he lied to me for 6 yrs and the babysitter finally told me not him and just for sake i did kick his a** i have a 16 yr old son a 15 yr old daughter and a 12 yr old son and i told the older two and we do not live in a happy environment. again thank you all for shedding light on this situation

2006-10-04 03:12:19 · 12 answers · asked by penelope 2

We have 4 children and he is abusive mostly to me but has started lashing out at the kids as well. I want him to go but that means we would have to sell our investment property which means my brother who rents it would be homeless. He also has to be the one to leave as the home we are living in belongs to my mum and she lives in a granny flat out the back. The problem is that he wont go and i dont want to involve the police because i would feel terrible. I know my childrens safety should come first and i do protect them but i still have alot of sympathy for him even though he doesnt deserve it. How do i get him out of my house without involving the police or making him angry and what do i do about my poor brother? I am just a big screw up and now everyone else is suffering because of me..please help

2006-10-04 03:10:49 · 22 answers · asked by z1280374 2