i lie about other guys asking me out.... i lie about things that happend to me during the day....i know i sometimes lie to my husband... but it is never anything big... the reason i do it is... actually i dont really know..... it is wierd i dont ant to lie... but i end up doing it sometimes... what can i do?????
2006-10-04 03:52:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually, people do this to make their life seem more dramatic. Which would you rather see, a two hour movie about people just walking down a dark and lonely street, or a movie about people walking down a dark and lonely street with Vampires trying to suck their blood? OOOOOOOOOOOoooooooOOOOOOOOHHHHhhh!!!!!
2006-10-04 03:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do b/c you want to, if you wouldn't you would have more self discipline and just wouldn't do it anymore unless you have a certain mental condition in which you need meds. and counseling for. It is just as easy speaking the truth then coming up with a lie, actually you use more energy comin up with lies then you do telling the truth. If you keep it up it isn't going to matter anyway you'll end up divorced. As soon as you lie and realize it correct it by telling the person you lied to the truth keep doing this till' you no longer lie, doesn't it embarass you!?
It is also possible that when you were younger no one said anything to you about your lies and therefor it was not corrected. Now living this way it is just habit and like they say old habits die hard, you know nothing else, no other way or any better, so try harder. All three of my step children lie but it is obvious none of them can do it well and it is written on their faces and there's no sence in arguing with someone like that b/c you'll only get more lies and a huge argument if you confort them anyway so I just walk away. It is to the point we believe nothing anymore so when they ask for money we don't give it to them b/c it's a lie of why their asking to begin with...!!!! I feel bad for the grandchildren b/c this is what they know how to do best now and your children will be the same way... It is really messed up when they lie and 6 mos. to a year later tell the truth but their dad &/or I have not forgotten the lie... I just as well not be around them for these reasons right here for the same way you are being, I never bring up a conversation b/c all I'll get is lies anyway so why try I don't want to talk to someone that is continually lieing what is the sence? It doesn't mean I don't love them but it is hard finding out what I do love about them b/xc everything is based on a lie and it is very difficult trying to get to know someone of this nature.
Honestly lieing is not your problem, your problem is that you are used to getting your way and saying what you want, when you want, no matter who it hurts. You always have been this way and you are the only one that can change this about you. It's time to grow up and be the mature adult that you are stop "acting", being damatic and your lies, just stop, it's that easy.
You can chance it if you want and if it means getting help to change it then get the help! It really is that easy!
2006-10-04 04:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go see a counselor, it sounds like compulsive lying. Just like some people that shoplift just because they have a compulsion to do. Usually they do not need the things the steal and really do not want to, it is compulsive. It could be the thrill of seeing if you can get away with the lie, or you could feel that by controlling what he really knows you are keeping part of your life a secret from him. A good counselor can help you find the problem and work with you to find a solution...
2006-10-04 04:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like this to my husband too. YOu are on the right track because you are recognizing the fact you are lying to him. Just tell him the truth, even about little stuff. If a guy try to hollar at you...tell him, so what about his reaction. Look at it this way. If you like wasting time then keep lying. Lies get the conversation no where because its untrue information, a waste of breath. 2nd, be true to yourself, know that you love you no matter what. You are who you are and no one can change that. Trust me, your hubby knows when you are lying, and it only make the relationship sink like a ship. You are opening the doors for heartbreak. If he wanted to do anything behind your back, it would matter because your marriage is built on lies, your lies. Just take a deep breath and speak from your heart, not your mind. You tell him what you think he wants to hear or what you think will make him happy, STOP IT. Tell him the truth on every asspect. Good luck
2006-10-04 04:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and get counseling to find out why you keep lying. If you don't you're going to put yourself in a situation where suddenly the lies have gotten bigger and you've gotten yourself in a corner. You're already under the pressure of there being so many lies already. You are constantly betraying your husband's trust for no reason.
Once you figure out why you keep lying, you can focus on more important things like being happy and happily married.
2006-10-04 03:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also doen this so dont let people be mean to you about this
the reason i did it is i didnt trust my husband enough to tell him things that i didnt think he needed to know
we have noe moved past this and trust in each other more
we had to sit down and talk to each other and explain what each of us wanted in our relationship
it was a hard first few years but they are getting better
2006-10-04 04:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by jenettpurvis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it continually money that he lies approximately? if so, it may be that he hasn't rather gotten a cope with in this entire family individuals ingredient... he remains questioning like a baby who's being egocentric (he needs what HE needs), and not an grownup who has to proportion financial duty with a spouse and little ones. There may be a sprint resentment there -- this isn't any longer continually hassle-free, even for adults, to suppress our desires and sacrifice for others. Is he a sprint envious of being tied down? a sprint unhappy with the 2nd infant? Is the laptop his "exciting" ingredient? it may be his way of indulging himself to relieve the stress he's below? (Like while women people flow shoe procuring or in spite of.) it may help to communicate approximately his little lies while he isn't mendacity. do no longer inevitably attack the mendacity ... communicate approximately his stress, or the funds frequently. attempt to discover a thank you to allow him an occasional indulgence (somewhat than reducing them out completely) yet nonetheless pay the expenses. wish this facilitates. good success.
2016-10-18 11:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by briscoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP.....That's SO WRONG!! Everything your telling him is a lie. You may as well be living in a lying relationship. You just need to stop. I have caught myself from time to time lying and i hated it. So i just stopped. If something was to piss him off....i would just tell him anyways rather than lie. Shoot.....I always MAKE SURE to tell my husband when someone else asks me out. He just laughs.
good luck and STOP LYING
2006-10-04 03:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by CMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what to do, you have to want to stop on your own. You need to ask yourself do i really love my husband or im i in love with my husband. there is a difference. Once you got that squared away then you will know what to do. goodluck try to do thing with hubby rather doing something that will get you in trouble.
2006-10-04 03:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you lie to him because you don't trust him with the truth.
Lying without reason is pathological and requires professional help.
2006-10-04 03:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋