they are married from 25 years
and every one think the other is crazy (they don't want to see a psychotherapist)
I tried to talk with them but my mom dosen't want to talk
Please help there might be some time, I can help them and keep them together what should I do
2006-10-04 03:29:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well sometimes with older peopel especially if their from a more tradition background they won't be willing to go to a therapist because they think that they are for crazy people.
When I was a kid my parents would have major arguments and I was always so afraid that they would separate. i spent a lot of my childhood living with this fear. They never separated. My mom's dead now but I realise she would have been a lot happier if they would have separated. Her last years were difficult with my dad.
Remeber it's not your fault they don't get along.
Sometimes the best things is for two people to go their separate ways. If they do you might have a little more peace in your mind and in your soul.
Best of luck to you,
Elio
2006-10-04 03:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie,
As much as it may hurt to see your parents separate.. You need to realize that it is part of life.... Being married for 25 years is a long time. And sometimes people fall out of love, with no fault of their own....
I would suggest to just be there for both of them and give them both support.... Because they will separate, they will still be your parents and who knows, they probably will remain to be friends...
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-10-04 03:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, coming from a woman who is going through a divorce, with children:
Let them part ways. I know it hurts to have your parents at odds with one another, but it really is for the best. I'm still trying to deal with this myself, but in the end, you can't be with someone who you aren't in love with anymore. It just causes more pain than what it's worth.
2006-10-04 03:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should understand that this isnt your fault and if they have been together for 25 years and still feel like there is nothing left, you need to let them deal with it,I'm sure it isnt easy to see this, but they are your parents and if they have made their minds up, you need to respect this.
2006-10-04 03:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep them together if that is not what they want. Don't keep them together just to make YOU happy. Why do they have to be miserable for the rest of their lives?
2006-10-04 03:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, your parent's marriage or lack of one has nothing to do with you. You didn't cause the rift and you can't repair it. Pray over it.
2006-10-04 03:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them make there own decisions as they are adults and can work this out if they want not if someone elese wants.
2006-10-04 03:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ben M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, some people just stop loving eachother and they go in different directions, it may be hurtful, but you need to allow them to sort it out, and figure out whats best for them.
2006-10-04 03:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, I know, it sucks, but that's life, just grin and bear it, that's what we all have to do. And attend church more, they have great support groups there.
2006-10-04 03:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it and give them both your LOVE and SUPPORT.
2006-10-04 04:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋