2006-10-04 04:12:47 · 19 answers · asked by greeneyes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I could handle his death better than us just breaking up....and going our seperate ways. I had to choose my child over him....long story....he was my one and only love.....I feel suicidal
2006-10-04 04:14:01 · update #1
You never get over a true love. You put them in that special place in your heart and move forward with your life. You have the capacity to love someone else just as much. Don't waste your life morning over what simply can't be. Close that chapter of your life and start the rest of your life on a clean page. Open your heart again like you've never been hurt. It's the only way you can be happy again.
2006-10-04 04:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart (((((HUGS)))))
I`m so sorry your heart is broken. The issues of the heart are the most complex and often times disturbing as you are now experiencing. Your situation is a complex one dealing with a child. You have apparently stood up for what you felt you had to concerning the child and now your decision has caused another part of you to leave.The Man!
Is there any hope of perhaps this man counceling with someone trained to help sort out this sort of thing? A Pastor would be willing to do this and probably not charge anything. Is the child old enough to take part in counceling as well. There are resources available to help keep this family together. I admire you for taking the courage to make whatever the decision was that concerned the child, you obviously knew it would affect your own happiness and yet you made the stand. There are so many possible quesses I could make to try to figure out what has caused this and I could guess at the childs age ect, but I`ll close here to say I`ll pray for you sweety and I`ll be hoping that you are strong and able to keep on keeping on. I pray that the happiness you deserve will over take you suddenly and these issues will be resolved.
Hugs,
Jim
2006-10-04 11:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a tough question hun. Time is the only thing that heals a broken heart. Not sure of the circumstances but it appear to be a touch situation. Is there any way of woking this situation out ? If you gave up this person you really loved for your child, why would you even consider suicide? It appears that you love your child more and imagine what that would do their life.... your child would have to live with that burden. You will find a way to get over it. If need be,get counseling it helps. Heart break is so hard. My heart goes out to you.. gl hun.
2006-10-04 11:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mia R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor. You may need some antidepresants to help you get through this rough patch in your life. Espeacily if your are talking about suicide. If your child is so important that you had to choose the child over the man-You are a great mother and your child needs you more now than ever. So, go see a Doc so you can be yourself again.
2006-10-04 11:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by ROOTER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Floridarus1234:
My eyes are not dry as I write this. I am not a stranger to that icy wind that blows through the heart and mind, and cuts like a knife.
Kind words will not relieve your pain. The loss of a great love is unimaginably painful, and you must grieve, and grieve mightily. Let the tears flow like rain. Scream, kick, sob; release that bitterness from your heart. Soon, you will notice a certain calm, like a gentle breeze after a storm. You will always carry sorrow,
but your heart is resilient, and it will find new growth as it is watered by your tears.
One day, if you ready your heart, true love will find you. And because of the painful choice you have made, you will be rewarded in a mighty way. Never underestimate the power of love!
2006-10-04 11:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by The Heart Doctor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least u will feel stupid next year when recalling this question. There are a lot of deserving people out there that u can love as equally or even more and wont give u so much hurt. Time to move on and your child needs u.
2006-10-04 11:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by supernova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will ease your pain. There was a time in my life when someone hurt me deeply. I had to work through the emotional aspect of it. Nowadays I seldom think of it and when I do, I feel nothing for that person. I can clearly see where they were messed up and am glad they're out of my life. It just took time was all.
2006-10-04 11:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-04 11:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel suicidal, take care to get help with that issue first--as for the relationship, it may hurt emotionally for a long time-hard to devote self totally and lose it. try to focus on your child and you getting settled and try new positive activities--family and friends can be helpful in this time of adjustment
2006-10-04 11:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TTT - things take time!! You WILL get over him,, it will just take some time. Get on with your life, start a new hobby, go out w/ friends, join a gym, take classes at a college... anything to keep your mind off of him!! I am also 45 and divorced...it took me several months but I am feeling better now. So will you! Just give it time! Concentrate on your kid(s)!!!! They need you now too!!
HANG IN THERE!! IT WILL GET BETTER!! HONESTLY!!
2006-10-04 11:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋