I was in an awesome relationship, I had a hard breakup and also it was hard to recover. She left me, then she gave me a sign she did care like I should have done something, I didn't. I think I am starting to feel better after the hard breakup, finally!. I am having goals, do sports, don't have lots of friends, I don't want to date anyone in what I think ever in my life if I can be happy with being single. Has anyone being on this situation?. I am 1/2 happy now, what did you do to be really happy?
2006-10-04 04:01:36 · 15 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, me personally, I moved on into a new relationship really quick, lol. NOT RECOMMENDED.
After all this it is probably good to get to know yourself again, continue with your goals and sports that make you happy. Right now, I think it would be good too, to take a look at what emotional support you have around you. You say you don't have a lot of friends... what about family? It is important for us to have relationships with other people to nurture and support our creative and emotional sides. You aren't going to suddenly just feel ok, that takes time, and it is good to have someone around that can help you process your emotions and think clearly.
Aside from that, I say, keep busy. A busy mind is one that doesn't have time to focus on the past or the hurt. A busy mind allows time to do it's job and heal. In time, who knows, you may be ready for another relationship... but for now, I think you are doing the best you can by not looking, and really focusing on being happy by yourself.
:) Good luck with it all. It's not easy, but it's doable!
2006-10-05 09:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a good grip on things: realize that you have to be a happy person in order to make someone else happy. So work on being happy with yourself and continue on your goals. Maybe you feel right now that you'll never date again, but focusing on yourself will help you to get over the hard breakup better and in time you will be ready to date again---good luck
2006-10-04 11:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah been there. I am with someone again now however I am still totally happy. You have to be happy before you get in a relationship to be happy in one. You can't expect another person to fill that void or else you will depend on each other and it will fail. I am not sure what would make you 100% happy however I think you are on the right track... keep doing what you are doing... perhaps more time is all you need.
2006-10-04 11:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do exactly what I want, come and go as I please and live my own life. With your goals and sports, you have good things to put all your energy into. I have no desire to date or be with anyone right now, it's not on my list of things to do. There are other things I want to accomplish and only I can do that. Life is good!
2006-10-04 11:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay involved with activities and you will improve. Remember only you can make yourself happy. And life is not always easy, that is why it is called life. Things will get better! I wish you the best!
2006-10-04 11:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you really love and care for someone... Breaking up with them is never easy.... You are doing the right thing in keeping yourself busy, but I feel like you need to be around people... You don't have many friends, then go out there and make some....
You can have friends just to go out with... If you are not ready for dating, then don't, but don't sell yourself short in meeting people...
Sometimes in life we have to go through hurts and many trials and tribulations, but that just makes us to be stronger people in the future... Just make all the negatives into positives, learn from them and move on......
When you least expect it, someone special is going to pop up in your life.....
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
2006-10-04 11:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am terrified to go into another relationship. My marriage has me scarred and paranoid and I'm not sure if I want to be vulnurable to anyone ever again or if I even want to have to consider another person (besides my son).
Keep your head up. Do what is best for you because whats best for you is best for everyone.
2006-10-04 12:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep busy and surround urself with family and friends. Its hard being single bcos ur used to sharing every moment with someone else. So share everything with ur family and mates n ull b fine.....and get a dog so u dont have to sleep alone!
2006-10-04 11:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. It's life....start a fresh life with definite goals. And remember one thing even she left u ,it does n't mean there is a problem with u..u can have a nice girlfriend again.Just believe in ur self and move on in ur life....saying with experience.
2006-10-04 11:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by James B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ENJOY THE ADVANTAGES OF BEING SINGLE. Of course it hurts and takes time, but you will heal. As with most things in life, think about the advantages of where and how you find yourself in life.
2006-10-04 13:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋