Marriage & Divorce - 5 September 2006

Is it normal to have an erection everytime I am close to my wife? This has been happening in the last 4 weeks. Our sex life is great, better than 10 years ago. Please advise

2006-09-05 03:03:19 · 26 answers · asked by Wondering 1

I'm divorced for 4 years now, and I hate when my kids are away from me at their dad's. I get real depressed. They were gone over the weekend and I didn't have any fun, even though I was out with friends, I miss my kids terribly. Do you ever get over this feeling?

2006-09-05 02:58:55 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3

My husband seemed to change overnight. He is 63 and we have been together for 21 years. Some very tough times raising four boys and going through custody battles, teen years, etc.

Just over 18 months ago, he began to act differently, angry, judgmental, needed his space. No tolerance for anything. He loved me but was not 'in love'. He was ready to flee. We finally talked about seeing a doctor as he realized he was miserable and confused by all of this, too. It took months to finally get results that showed his pituitary gland was not functioning properly. Shut down pretty much. He now takes testosterone, human growth hormone, & cortisone. But, it is such a slow process to try various doses to see what will really work.

In the mean time, he has a 'friend' that he met early on when he first began to feel these changes. They talk maybe three times a day for about 2 minutes each time, see each other maybe an hour a week or less to visit.

I have a very hard time with this as we are having sex now, though not as often as before but we went 11 months with no intimacy so am happy to have this, at least. He swears he and his 'friend' are not having sex and with his lack of stamina, I tend to believe this. She is his 'comfort zone'. He says he can't explain it but right now it is important to him to have this relationship.

I just need to hear some success stories. Is there any hope we can get through this intact. How can I better understand and cope with his need for this woman.

I have read so much on all of this, talked with Jed Diamond early on, etc. I know hormones have so much to do with how we feel, behave, love, etc. But, it is so hard to share him. And so hard when others tell me he is using me and that he can control this but chooses not to.

He sleeps in his office trailer otherwise he is as much a part of this household as ever. We laugh, watch movies, eat together, hug goodnight and he goes out, calls her and goes to bed.

I need encouragement and help understanding......

2006-09-05 02:58:21 · 9 answers · asked by Cynthia 1

I have been waiting for almost a year and a half to recieve any kind of payments from my sons father through Child Suport Enforcement. He was suppose to start paying in May but decided to appeal the case because he thought it was too much money. He makes over thirty dollars an hour. Too much money my ***! He's just another sorry excuse for a human.

So anyways, when I called the Child Support Office they told me it could take up to three months longer. It's been almost four. I'm tired of this **** they keep dicking me around. Does anyone know of anyting else I could try? I was told once that I could go to the courthouse without a lawyer and just have the judge settle it there does anyone know if that is true?

2006-09-05 02:49:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-05 02:45:41 · 23 answers · asked by Mary O 1

2006-09-05 02:44:52 · 1 answers · asked by Lothario 1

I have noticed he is extremely sexual can he be the unfaithful type?
Thank you:-)

2006-09-05 02:43:27 · 46 answers · asked by cookielove1430 1

2006-09-05 02:38:09 · 41 answers · asked by Steve 1

ok i have been married now for five years. and the other day i think i saw my ex. i still have very deep feelings for him. what should i do i have been trying to find him just to see how he is doing. what should i do? any ideas would be nice. NO JOKES PLS.

2006-09-05 02:37:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok my hubby and i are having major problems sexually.I cant get aroused or orgasam at all.He asked me the other night if i wanted to have a threesome with another girl.He knows i was with a girl in the past before him.I told him no because i thought it would ruin our relationship.This all happened after another failed attempt at sex and his words exactly were"maybe i should go find another girl to bring home to please you"My thought is hes looking for any excuse to have sex with someone else and trying to trick me into saying yes so i cant say anything about it.And latley he has been more worried about looking at and watching porn then maybe working on our problem in the bedroom.Your thoughts on this.Or has anyone else went through this?

2006-09-05 02:27:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dear Friends,

I've never written to you like this before, but I really need your advice on what could be a crucial decision. I've suspected for some time now that my wife has been cheating on me.

The usual signs... phone rings but if I answer, the caller hangs up. My wife has been going out with the girls a lot recently although when I ask their names she always says, "Just some friends from work, you don't know them."

I always stay awake to look out for her taxi coming home, but she always walks down the drive. However , I can hear a car driving off, as if she has gotten out of the car round the corner. Why? Maybe she wasn't in a taxi?

I once picked her cell phone up just to see what time it was and she went berserk and screamed that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her.

Anyway, I have never approached the subject with her. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth, but last night she went out again and I decided that I really ought to check on her.

I decided I was going to park my Harley Davidson motorcycle next to the garage and then hide behind it so I could get a good view of the whole street when she came home. It was at that moment, crouching behind my Harley, that I noticed that the rocker boxes on my engine seemed to be leaking a little oil.

Is this something I can fix myself or should I take it back to the dealer?

2006-09-05 02:14:38 · 10 answers · asked by gblau 1

2006-09-05 02:01:27 · 8 answers · asked by Clarita 1

The problem- when we first got together our sex life was incredible. NOW , it seems like he just does it to shut me up and seems to only care about watching porn on cable every chance he gets . I am in great shape , 5ft 2 blond ,decent boobs and rear, very sensual . I guess I just dont understand. Ive watched porn with him, but it is getting to the point that it is a turnoff to me and ive even made the comment , "are you doing it with me or the tv" . Any good advice? Im getting really tired of this whole situation.

2006-09-05 01:57:13 · 13 answers · asked by cinlu45 1

2006-09-05 01:53:20 · 9 answers · asked by lynn 2

2006-09-05 01:45:25 · 15 answers · asked by joanne v 72 2

why do women have to be so grumpy, it seems that the more you do for them the more they expect.. are the words thank you and do you need any help not in their vocabulary.???

2006-09-05 01:39:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do men have to be so grumpy, it seems that the more you do for them the more they expect.. are the words thank you and do you need any help not in their vocabulary.???

2006-09-05 01:37:14 · 41 answers · asked by gimma 1

he llies about money and things he calls little. i love him but my health keeps getting worse ...he adds stress to my life........should it be that simple?

2006-09-05 01:16:38 · 27 answers · asked by sissy 2

Hi.
My wife had a brief affair with a married man she had long had a desire for a while back. It ended - as far as I know - about a year ago. Just to be sure - and I hate doing this - I checked her cellphone for any sign that they were still in contact. I havn't seen any messages or record of calls made from or to this man by my wife.

Recently, my wife has asked me for a separation because - as she says - she wants her freedom and the fact that she does not have the same feelings for me as before. (We have been married for 6 1/ 2 years - we have a 5 1/2 year old son )

About 2 weeks ago I checked her cellphone and found that she has been in contact with a man I have never heard of before. She sends and receives message and calls from/to him. She has even ended one message to him with "your darling" .

My question is should I confront her ? Or don't even bother since she evidently wants a separation from me. Just for the record I have never cheated on her .

2006-09-05 01:15:17 · 32 answers · asked by Cardinal64 2

my adult stepdaughter says my husband made advances towards her, which he is her father....she went thru both sides of our families and told it...I am very humiliated and he says it is not true...what should I do? I need some good advice

2006-09-05 01:04:33 · 14 answers · asked by ondrea b 1

2006-09-05 01:02:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in a situation where my wife of 7 years has realized she no longer has the fire for me. She loves me but is not in love with me anymore. We have been together a total of 10 years and I want to know if there is anyway to help her get the fire back? I have always given everything I could to her. The reason we grew apart was because we work opposite shifts so our daughter never had to be in day care. The time apart must have brought some kind of void into her heart. We are working on getting the flame back but she refuses to speak with a professional to see if they could help us? Can someone please help me?

2006-09-05 00:57:16 · 7 answers · asked by modega3131 1

thanks for letting me see how horrid i am. you have no idea what my life was like, what my husband was like. now i have a use for that razor in my bathtub other than shaving my legs. thanks for helping me make up my mind.

2006-09-05 00:44:50 · 29 answers · asked by woman 2

2006-09-05 00:43:36 · 14 answers · asked by HeartsBreaker 2

a week ago he confessed about having or@l s3x and s#x with a prositute 2 days prior to his confession. he said he was guilty, promised he won't do it again and told me he realized i was the only woman for him. now he's worried that he might have gotten HIV and keeps wanting my affirmation that everything would be fine. i think its unsesitive of him to ask that question. it hurts me everytime he asks me because i keep remebering what he had done. im hurting so much and i thought as days passed it will slowly go away, but i guess i was wrong.
now i dont know why did he confessed to me? what was his motives? was it because he's just really sorry or something else.

2006-09-05 00:39:46 · 21 answers · asked by addiee 3

a week ago he confessed about having or@l s3x and s#x with a prositute 2 days prior to his confession. he said he was guilty, promised he won't do it again and told me he realized i was the only woman for him. now he's worried that he might have gotten HIV and keeps wanting my affirmation that everything would be fine. i think its unsesitive of him to ask that question. it hurts me everytime he asks me because i keep remebering what he had done. im hurting so much and i thought as days passed it will slowly go away, but i guess i was wrong. its eating me up. im confused, i love him but im just afraid he will do it again to me. do you think he will do it again, even with a woman who is not a hooker?or should i leave him now?

2006-09-05 00:34:21 · 24 answers · asked by addiee 3

My dad cheated on my mom more times than I can remember. Now that I am an adult, I am afraid of meeting guys because I just don't wanna end up like my mom. Are all men the same? Do they all cheat? How can I get over this problem?

2006-09-05 00:34:05 · 17 answers · asked by Firefly 2

2006-09-05 00:27:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to get a divorce rather quick and cheap but i dont really have alot of money and weve been apart for a year now

2006-09-05 00:23:24 · 7 answers · asked by sprfrkgenee 1

2006-09-05 00:20:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous