2006-09-05 02:38:09 · 41 answers · asked by Steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The past is the past. If your spouse is doing it now then confront them. If not it may just be stories.
2006-09-05 02:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rudebox77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that if it is really a concern to you, you should talk to your spouse about it. Besides, hopefully the communication between you and your spouse is so strong that you can feel comfortable doing that. And don't phrase it in an accusatory tone - just say, "My sister said the most random thing yesterday..." or something like that, rather than "My sister said... how could you do that?!"
2006-09-05 02:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by katylineberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your open with your husband just ask him about the rumors. Why should it be an issue to talk to your husband. He can tell you weather they are or are not true. If he asked who told you tell him. There really should be nothing to hide. Why is your sister telling you the rumors in the first place? If its true the past is the past unless its something you are totally against. Then you deal with that when or if its true. Good Luck and be open with your husband.
2006-09-05 03:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past but if you must, go ahead and ask but what will it change? How will anyone benefit from it? Rumors? What are rumors? Do you want to ask to find out if it is truth or not? What makes the difference? Do you want to ask for just conversation? Do you want to ask to hold it aginst him?
I just don't see any point unless you can not get past it and must know b/c it eats at your thoughts!
2006-09-05 03:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the stories from the past have nothing to do with you or were from before you were together leave it alone. It is the past. Nothing you can say or do will change that. Accept you are with him now (and him with you) and surely that is what matters.
2006-09-05 02:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by E=MC2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not.
You don't need to tell your partner who told you the rumours.
However, it's not worth causing problems unless the rumours directly affect you or your current relationship.
Often the past is better left in the past.
2006-09-05 02:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the rumour. And I'd be telling the sister to mind her own business.
2006-09-05 02:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you might start an unnecesary fight wich could result into your relationship going down the drain. Let the past be the past and concentrate on your future together.
2006-09-05 02:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means discuss him with it - but don't confront him with it.
It also depends on what sort of past and when. If it's relevant to the relationship - fine, talk it through, otherwise move on.
2006-09-05 02:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. Rumors are not facts and sounds like you have a sister that wants to start trouble. You're not with your spouse because of their past and the rumors, you're with them because of who they are today.
2006-09-05 02:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋