Marriage & Divorce - 5 September 2006

My wife had an emotional affair this summer with a married guy. She said she ended it because she was afraid it was getting out of hand...she may have been falling for the guy. Married 16 years with 3 kids, she was afraid of losing everything. She said the problem was our relationship (no doubt it wasn't great the last few years)...not the guy.
Six weeks and lots of counseling later, she still thinks about this guy....and she wants a trial separation.
I'm OK with the separation, I'm even OK if she wants to pursue the other guy (even though he's supposedly trying to salvage his own marriage).
We both want to work things out, & the counseling seems to help, but I can't help wondering...Is this guy the main obstacle?
If so, will she be able to get over him and find the love she once had for me?

2006-09-05 13:20:29 · 7 answers · asked by hellsbells 2

I have recently met a woman and we have tremendous chemistry together. However she is married... but she wasted no time telling me about how she is unhappy and unfulfilled in the relationship. We went out for a few drinks last week and it may as well have been a date. They have no children and I suspect it may be because she does not want to start a family with this man. Should I even bother thinking about this? Does this type of relationship work out ever?

2006-09-05 13:19:19 · 52 answers · asked by swahilibob 1

Last month I walked in my own house to find my wife performing (wont use bad words) on another man. To make a long story short it got ugly, and I got my face beat up on resulting in surgery. My wife has since confessed of all what she's done, and promises not to do it again. She had been having sex with this guy while I was at work for over 2 months. I know of`the guy I caught her with and he's what you call a dead beat with no money. Infact he lives with his mom. How could she do this? She said it was all sexual and admitted he was a good lover, and endowed, but said she doesnt love him. She said she got caught up the heat of the moment. She said it was a mistake. Should I take her back? We were married 14 years

2006-09-05 13:18:59 · 25 answers · asked by ernie-h-in-the-place 1

2006-09-05 13:17:50 · 20 answers · asked by J 2

A gunman has you and your significant other ubducted. You are placed in seperate rooms and are told that only one of you will die. You are both given a Red button to push...which ever one of you pushes this button first dies,sparing the others life. What would you do? Would you push the button first as quiclky as possible, in hopes that you end your life? Or do you wait for your significant other to push the button first?

2006-09-05 13:15:23 · 11 answers · asked by stahomedad.com 2

It can be anything.

2006-09-05 13:11:10 · 21 answers · asked by wilowdreams 5

my husband when to work and he went off drinking after work and called me and told me he is sleeping by his bosses house because he had been drinkin and cant drive home.....what do i do?

2006-09-05 13:09:02 · 21 answers · asked by mel_06_01 1

My bf proposed after 6 months. I truly wanted to marry him. I said yes, but I was also scared, and wanted him to meet my family, and formally propose, not roll over in bed and show me a ring. He also mentioned we had to get married then or it would not work. I also thought to date another few months, and then get engaged for 1 year was not unreal, and it takes time to plan a wedding. We had time constraints bc I had to leave for a job 2000 miles away and he can't leave his job. Then he said we'ld get married years in the future bc that is what I wanted.

Now he seems mad at me, and has broken off the relationship with me.

I am rational, no? Or does this act totally destroy a man's pride and ego. I have assured him I want to marry him and love him and would do it tomorrow.

It seems common for people to postpone or ask for some more time, and if the couple is strong and they love each other they wait till the time is right for two people, no?

2006-09-05 13:07:08 · 4 answers · asked by mary h 2

when we become alone we feel dark inner side.
we get out from the house to find some job.and give strength to our inner side.but for girl,its very difficult.what we can do at that time.when no body wants to shake hands.

2006-09-05 12:59:07 · 10 answers · asked by anjali s 1

Well I have been in a relationship for 1 year there is a 2 month old child in volved but he is not mine, she found out she was pregnant when we were dating I really didnt mind her being pregnan but what I found out that she kept in contact with the father of the child and lied to me about it, I am a good looking guy and she is gorgeous but she is to jealous of me I cant go to the gym and cant go out with friends for poker but while I am at work she goes out shopping and hangs around her friends which I dont mind but she can do it and I cant well as time passed by I asked her for her cell phone bill and she said she will call and get it for me time passed by and she never got it for me, she left on a trip with her family for 2 weeks and I told her that if that did not get the phone bill dont bother coming back home she admits to stop talking to guys but she had enough time to prove it to me and not here my attitude but know she is back and I told her its over but she wont let me go.

2006-09-05 12:58:32 · 10 answers · asked by crazy 4 somethin' real 3

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>>Quite extreme at points, fairly extreme 1/2 of the way through....but the insights (often sandwiched between extremism) are things the some of the young ladies in answers.yahoo.com really need to be aware of. Some of you at least need to be aware that most of us think these things.

2006-09-05 12:56:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Being married, if one spouse has a spending problem. Has accumulated a lot of debt, which now their income isn't enough to pay or live decent.

Should the other spouse go back to work to earn money towards the debt or would that new money just empower the spending spouse to keep spending?

What is your view and thoughts?

2006-09-05 12:48:59 · 18 answers · asked by Julie W 2

My wife an I have been married for 18 yrs
We have had our ups and downs
A few months ago I got a anonyms letter stateting that my wife had meet someone at a local Club and they have allso meet near her work at least once, the letter was very detailed, witch makes it seemits someone that knows us!
They also know about a new car that I had bought, and she was upset with that
(She know about that before I bought it)
And it also said the she needed to leave her alcoholic husband
About two weeks later a Birthday card was left at my neboures home addressed to my wife no name was on the card just said “sorry this is sooooo late- SOON”
Yes I drink but not near the level that the letter states (but may be I do)
It has gotten me to think(A Lot)
I did confront her about this and she denied it whole heartily (which the letter said she would do also----like anyone would admit it)
I dont whant to throw it all away on that DAMM letter

2006-09-05 12:44:52 · 4 answers · asked by William 1

I think it's horrible we still have gender inequality these days, shame on all of you!


*goes back to his tv and cheetos while his wife is working*

2006-09-05 12:44:15 · 16 answers · asked by Alabama lib killer 1

Some people say it is for American citizenship. I don't rule out the possibility of this but I don't think this is the case with every woman who marriy someone in that circumstances. Could someone help me understand their reasons and mentality please?

2006-09-05 12:41:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked this question yesterday but the response is poor. I don't mean legally recognized marriage. I just want to know if people get close enough on the Internet to want to have a virtual reality spouse.

2006-09-05 12:37:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dont get me wrong all of you, he did not cheat on me it was with his 2 previous partners (his exes) over a 12 yr period. Plus I know they both would say no being confronted by me. But hey that still does not mean to say that they did or will or still continue to have. And I am sticking with my gut instinct, even though I may give him the benefit of the doubt and yes this woman is married I believe even though I have not seen her husband with her. So what do you do?

2006-09-05 12:35:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

is this normal. my husband is a little disapppointed at me

2006-09-05 12:32:57 · 21 answers · asked by justsexy 3

I have been married for 5 months now. I am 27 (with a 7 year old who lives with her mother) and she is 20 with a 4 year old. I am currently a full time college student (making a little money since I am a veteran) and she works full time. We have huge debts (which is killing our marriage), but she insists on wanting a baby! She is "sooo" ready to have one and I keep on saying I wanna wait. My reasoning is we are NOT financially ready to start our own family! Money is a huge problem and she has been throwing this in my face "You can't give me anything I want. A house or a child!"
Am I wrong for feeling like this? Wanting to wait since our marriage has been very, very rocky since the beginning. My goal is to have a house and start a family by the time I turn 30. And she has known that since the beginning! I keep on asking her to be patient!

2006-09-05 12:30:30 · 11 answers · asked by Mr. Stuart 2

It was because of our sins and salvation that Jesus died on the cross for us. The world now has nothing to offer mankind, but the prophecies that the Bible talked about concerning the end of the world are all coming to pass. Don't go to hell and suffer, turn unto Jesus and let him save you and take you into heaven. Simply, pray and ask him to forgive you of your sins and accept you as his son, and you will see the change that will come into your life. God bless you my friend.

2006-09-05 12:29:26 · 25 answers · asked by Sam M 1

i have moved out 3 months go and took my kids due to a mental abuse marriage. my husband has moved in the same complex that I lived in. we have 2 girls ages 8 and 12 he moved in a one bedroom townshouse. he kept my girls while i work afternoon. child support if about to hit him and i know I will have a problem becuase he is money crazy. he never gave me any money and said i will never hand you any money. he is materialital what i want to know outside the stuipd husband i have is will the court or judge order him to get a two bedroom for the girls he feel he doesn't have to because he has a sofa bed. also why do you think he moved in the same complex as be. I haved to leave because i was tired of his be havior. also he told me i was a wife, this isn't a marriage and I didn't marry you to take care of you. he would leave so I had to because I didn't wasnt to tolerate his action. we i left he had to because to placed was in my name. he said i broke the family up.

2006-09-05 12:28:39 · 10 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1

I have tried to trust him, he has had affairs in his past. they both are acting a bit nervous of late, and also I have asked him - his reply was no. Just need to ask her. My intuition is saying yes they did have an affair when they both were away last wk in the same place. I cant shake the thought out of my head.

2006-09-05 12:24:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has been masterbating alot. The more he masterbates the less sex i get. how do i bring up the subject and talk to him without upseting him. I feel jealous somehow.

2006-09-05 12:20:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have thoughts of my bf having an affair, and whilst he was away last wk for 4 days, so was this lady up the rd, now she dont walk past the house? and beeps the horn when she goes past! do you think they had an affair when they were away?

2006-09-05 12:13:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok ladies I have a question for ya.

would you ever ask a friend or relative to hit on or try to seduce your husband just to see if he would take the bait?

And if you did would you be upset with him if he flat out denied the offer but never mentioned it to you?

Is this a test to see if your faithful or something? If it is then it's not a very good one......only a idiot would mess with their wifes relative or friend

2006-09-05 12:12:30 · 28 answers · asked by RedEye 3

i have a friend that was in a 8 year relationship. they broke for two years, and of course someone slipped in. this someone does not want to end the relationship with the man. she has a child, although not legally his-he calls him daddy. the man in this case is stating he wants to end the relationship with the woman of two years and resume the eight year. the 2 yr woman is refusing to leave, and he won't throw her out because of the child-and the later effects shelter life might have on him. He still talks with my friend, goes out, visits and communicates with her children-and yes, the woman of 2 years is aware. My advise to her is to break the relationship totally, he has no right to communicate with the children, even though it has been a eight year stretch or allow him to throw the 2 yr woman out and make the 8 year work. what is your advise.

2006-09-05 12:06:30 · 7 answers · asked by ummmm 2

they say they want to stay together bcuz of the kids.

2006-09-05 11:51:26 · 17 answers · asked by clair 2

social services come to investigate and found no evidence, no bruises, nice house so no action taken. stepmother keeps threatening to put kids in an orphanage. kids not allowed to see real mum. kids are force-fed food they dont want. told they are not wanted + should never have been born. but dad calls the kid a liar because he dont wanna lose his wife. there is never any evidence of any of this because it is all verbal + there is never any PROOF that is going on. there are no other relatives who want to take these kids on

2006-09-05 11:50:17 · 15 answers · asked by jay Lo 1

for 6 years, We broke up for 6 months about 3 years or more ago, and when we broke up I was dating this really nice cute but older guy for the entire 6 months. I was really in love with him, but I guess my bf's love was more important because I chose him over the other guy. Now it has been more than 3 years and I think about him often I even tried to call him once about 1 and 1/2 years ago, but I forgot the number and dialed someone else in Calif. where he lives, I have been trying to get his email address and I want to apologize to him for the way that I left him, I feel really bad and will until I get to tell him how sorry I am. This is how I left, he had bought me round trip tickets to see him and I never got on the plane instead I was just starting to patch things up with my now bf of 6 yrs and so I never got on and when he realized that I wasn't coming to see him he started to call me like crazy and I didn't answer for 1 day and when I did I lied to him and told him that on my way

2006-09-05 11:50:05 · 21 answers · asked by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3

2006-09-05 11:47:23 · 32 answers · asked by Gary H 2