My husband has been masterbating alot. The more he masterbates the less sex i get. how do i bring up the subject and talk to him without upseting him. I feel jealous somehow.
2006-09-05 12:20:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One way would be to talk about his and your sexual fantasies. That could get you off trying new things and sparkle his interest in you again. Probably even sparkle your own sexual appetite.
But you should also be able to address the problem directly with him. It's not a bad thing that he should masturbate, that is quite normal, but it is counterproductive to the marriage if because of it he ignores you, and you feel left out and unloved. Maybe he isn't aware of how his behaviour affects you. Or maybe there are unresolved issues between you that he can't bring onto the table, so he childishly 'punishes' you (yes, we men do that also, witholding sex). Communication is everything and there should be nothing a couple can't talk about.
2006-09-05 12:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if his hand better than your "Bush," then why didn't he marry his hand? Tell him that you are jealous of him "Jacking off" and leaving you with nothing! He is wasting sperm that belongs to you!! I can't guarantee he won't get upset, but since you are already upset, get it out in the open. Men do that because it is quick and easy, and you don't have to beg someone else, or get them in the mood. You don't have to prepare with foreplay, you don't even have to be at home. Nevertheless, I would personally prefer my wife to my hand. Some men don't care about intimacy, or they feel it is work. His problems may be deeper than you can see. If you don't come to an understanding with him about the matter, you may start drifting away from each other, if it has not already started!
2006-09-05 19:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can join in.
What is going on that he doesn't want to have sex with you? Are you arguing a lot? Are you doing something? I am not blaming you, just asking to help get to the root of the problem.
He is your husband, bite the bullet and talk to him about it. It will be uncomfortable, but it needs to be done.
2006-09-05 19:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a real man.
Tell him this as you walk out the door to meet with me: "I hope you and your fists have a wonderful evening together. I'm going to meet a real man that worships my body like a temple. I left you a microwave meal and a jar of vaseline on the stove. Bye!"
You deserve better than captain fist-a-lot and the hands of goo
2006-09-05 19:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would .ask him is it something u can do to be more romantic .the time he takes to do that is time he is taking away from you and him.ask him is there a problem no matter how u ask him it's going to embarrass him .tell him u love him and u feel left out .be honest and up front .communication..
2006-09-05 19:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Climb abored.
Jerkin your gerkin is easier than sex, but sex with a female feels way better.
2006-09-05 19:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by hellsbells 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG I know this feeling ..im 23 hubby 25 and I donno that he mast.alot..but he dl's porm daily on my computer...and the less sex I get..I too am jealous..of a hand lol...
I have tried talking to mine and it doesnt seem to work...maybe you should tell him to put out or you will find it elsewhere!!!!!!
2006-09-05 20:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by kiwidew69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's tied to pornography you'd better hurry and get it check before he doesn't need you anymore. It's a serious problem, believe me!
2006-09-05 19:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by karen W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beat him to the punch. Sexually wear him out so that he is too tired to masturbate.
2006-09-05 19:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just have to spice up your realtionship change the whole fore play dress sexy just get him on his tippy toes
2006-09-05 19:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by crazy 4 somethin' real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋