should i pursue a relationship with a married woman?

Question

I have recently met a woman and we have tremendous chemistry together. However she is married... but she wasted no time telling me about how she is unhappy and unfulfilled in the relationship. We went out for a few drinks last week and it may as well have been a date. They have no children and I suspect it may be because she does not want to start a family with this man. Should I even bother thinking about this? Does this type of relationship work out ever?

Answer 1

Speaking from personal expierience (see my previous questions) You'd be a WHOLE lots better off getting out of the situation before anything comes from it -

You're setting yourself up for heartache, I know right now it probably really doesn't feel like it will have a negative impact on you - because she's the married one, But trust me, It'll screw with your head just as much as everyone else involved.

When you're in a long-term relationship and times are tough sometimes it's easy to turn to having an affair probably just to hurt your partner, Be respectful to yourself and don't become her outlet guy, Besides, If you do begin a relationship with this women it's very likely you'll lose all respect for her very quickly, I mean would you want a full on relationship with a women that's capable of cheating on her husband? and even if it's just sex in the long run, Who wants to have sex with someone with no self respect?...

I've cheated, Worse thing i've ever done - But people like us rarely change - And i can admit that.

Answer 2

I think you should wait until she leaves a husband before you even think about having a relationship with this woman,what make you think you so special that you not gone get the same treatment after the chemistry is gone cause I'm sure she loved that man at a point in time if not she wouldn't have marry him.if yr looking for a real relationship you need to keep on looking,but if yr looking for a good f#^& you should go for it,your a man any way but remember this what goes around,comes around:that's the truth.

Answer 3

Question 1- Have you ever even met this woman in person? Question 2- How do you know that she is telling the truth about anything? (People have a tendency to say stuff that isn't true when they are bored and there is someone who is paying attention.) I would say that maybe you should let this one go. I have a really hard time believing that people can truly fall in love over the Internet while just chatting! Find someone who lives where you live and love them. You sound like a really nice person. I'm sorry that this is hurting you, and I hope that you can find peace and move on with your life. Best of Luck & God Bless!!!!!!

Answer 4

These type of relationship do not work. If she is so unhappy why don't she get out of the marriage. If she leaves her husband for you whats to say that if she get unhappy with you she will do the same thing to you. Don't go out on any dates with her drinking or not. How come she didn't tell her husband that she didn't want any kids before they were marry? That would have solve that problem right then and there.The chemistry that you speak of was it lust or like or the effect of the alcohol.Be stronger then her and let her know that you don't want to be a prawn in her game or a homewrecker.

Answer 5

Absolutely not! She can be very unhappy and unfulfilled and if you pursue a relationship with her you will only find unhappiness also. You will never be able to trust her because she cheated with him, what is to stop her from cheating with you. Wait until she is completely free from her first marriage and then if you still want her then begin a relationship. But under no circumstances start one with her now.

Answer 6

If she truly want out all she has to do is leave something is holding her to him ..so if I were you I would not put my heart into this until she is committed to you ..I did that once I dated a married man he even stayed at my house overnight his wife didn't care as time went on say 2yrs he left his wife and stayed with me BIG mistake he used to throw his wife in my face saying I was not as good as her and she would not do this and so on I was fed up and I sent him back to his wife cause he could not make up his mind and you know he still has not got a divorce See that like to have their cake and eat it too and don't care about the feelings involved which will be you if you let it go on !! I say until she is divorced and living on her own don't get serious with her and that's my opinion...but good luck only time will tell if you made the right decision!!

Answer 7

if she can not be faithful to this marriage how can you be so sure that she will be faithful with you. After all no matter how great a relationship starts there always is a time when any relationship has problems and cheating is never the answer. Think about what is really important to you and how many other people has she cheated on her husband with

Answer 8

If you can question whether or not to pursue a relationship like this then you have already answered your own question. She is married and sooner or later the reason she is going to end her marriage is b/c of you, don't be in the middle of someone else's mess...if she is having problems with the marriage then end it and have a relationship...if she is capable of cheating emotionally and/or physically with another person while married...who is to say she won't do it to you when things get serious?

Just some food for thought.....

Answer 9

I would not trust her or respect her. I don't care how miserable she is with her current husband. Never never start a relationship with someone until you know that they are legally done with the first. So it will go nowhere until she is free or you will be miserable in the middle of the sandwich. She has lied to her husband as she surely didn't tell him about you and how she spent her time.

Answer 10

Don't even entertain it. Most likely she is looking for a quick fix to her marriage problems and sadly people that do this always thinks the solution is outside their marriages.

If she is unhappy with her marriage, that is HER issue with her husband. Don't become part of the problem. And until she gets a divorce from him, it's in your best interest to leave her alone.

Answer 11

I would say not to get too far involved unless she makes more effort to end her marriage. If she has not filed for divorce, it likely means there are emotional issues she has yet to deal with, be it a lingering attraction to her husband, or an unwillingness to end the relationship. Either way, getting deeply involved with her is likely to lead to problems and heartache for both of you.