is this normal. my husband is a little disapppointed at me
2006-09-05 12:32:57 · 21 answers · asked by justsexy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've always heard that once a man sees all that ................ whatever during birth........., that he loses his sex drive for a while.
2006-09-05 12:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby 3 months ago, my first baby! I noticed that I am not as interested in sex, but its almost like I am afraid to have sex. I am still horny....but having actual intercourse is kind of a scary thought. I dont know if this is what you are experiencing, but I am sure it will pass. Having a baby is hard work and an experience like no other. Just take it easy and let him know that he needs to be patient with you. Hope it works out for you!
2006-09-05 12:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body has gone through a major traumatic event...
Also your hormones will be all over the place.
You are probably coming to terms with being a mother, which is stressful, and I bet you don't feel very sexy.
Tell hubby to take a chill pill. I am sure you will develop an interest again soon enough
2006-09-05 12:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal for about six weeks until your body is able to return to being your normal. Husbands get anxious for their attention and often feel neglected. Take this time for yourself and after you go for your six week check up your husband can have you back and you will be willing also. Make sure to include him in on your activities with the baby so he won't feel left out.
2006-09-05 12:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its fairly normal
my wife and I have 5 children and sometimes parts of the cycle of pregnancy, birthing, nursing reduced her sex drive
but she knew that I was not caught up in her physical cycle and she tried to be generous when she could
also, the whole tiredness that comes with a baby and related stresses can sap libido
my wife tried to take some time (hard to find around a new baby) to deliberately work up her interest in sex, with playfulness etc
I tried not to push her, she tried to give me a little something even when she didn't feel like it, and we worked our way through
usually it wasn't too many months after a kid was born that she had a little surge of interest in sex (stronger than before) and that was fun while it lasted
finally, the kids got older and we had a little sexual renaissance that was fun
work together, each of you be unselfish, don't give up on it
have fun
good luck
2006-09-05 12:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long has it been?
you should not worry...it could be the hormones...it could be that you don't feel as "sexy" since you were pregnant...
time will heal this...don't give up...and very important..your husband is going to develop a complex if you don't show him some attention. Make sure to still flirt with him...slap him on the ***..wink at him, etc. He must still continue to fell like THE MAN or more problems could develop later for you two.... good luck (and get some !!)
2006-09-05 12:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how long since you had your baby,its completely normal after giving birth to lose interest in sex,for a while,think about it you've gone from being your partners sex partner to being a MUM. Its a completely different phase in your life,believe me,your interest in sex will return
2006-09-05 12:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by tania m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change in sexual activity before, during, or after giving birth is normal. It doesn't have to be that way, there may be hormonal or mental reasons. Check with your doctor about your alternatives.
2006-09-05 12:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by Dan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal, you are probably very tired. I wouldn't worry about it, you'll get the desire back. Tell your husband to help with the baby when he gets home and you might feel more up to it. Good Luck!!
2006-09-05 12:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, this is normal. as long as you dont make your hubby wait more than 2 months. if after 2 months, you still have no interest in sex, you should probably talk to your doctor, or have your hubby try some foreplay. good luck!
2006-09-05 12:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory is that is part of our survival techniques. Our babies don't come out walking and grazing or anything, and in general they come out one at a time. It is our evolutionary duty as moms to care for that infant until they are somewhat less dependent. I think it takes a good six months to a year for our hormones to say, OK time for another...
2006-09-05 12:36:10 · answer #11 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋