Suspicion #2?

Question

I have tried to trust him, he has had affairs in his past. they both are acting a bit nervous of late, and also I have asked him - his reply was no. Just need to ask her. My intuition is saying yes they did have an affair when they both were away last wk in the same place. I cant shake the thought out of my head.

Answer 1

Trust your instincts, especially since u know his past history of cheating. U may never get tangible proof of whether they cheated or not but since u can't trust him anymore (I don't blame you), u need to look out for yourself and make the right decisions for u and your well being.

Answer 2

Women are pretty intuitive and if you suspect he's having another affair, you are probably right.

My question is to you, what do you want? Do you want to stay with him? You've obviously stayed before even though you said he has had affairs in the past. If you let him get away with it, then he will continue to do it.

Do you want to continue to be a doormat or do you want to find someone who cares about you the way you care about them?

Answer 3

Unfortunately theres that old saying that a leopard never changes its spots.
I once took a guy back after he cheated on me and as much as i tried i found it very hard to regain the trust i once had for him.
so every time he was late or changed plans i became suspicious.
if you are able to forgive and forget and you really have to forget there may be hope for your relationship.
but generally your intuition is probably right and you probably need to make some decisions
Everyone deserves loyalty, trust, love and respect in a relationship
Good luck

Answer 4

So, do you think the other woman will come clean on this to you? I find that difficult to believe.

And he has had affairs, plural? And you are now trying to trust him once again? Are you a glutton for misery, sugar?

What exactly has he done of late to make you think you CAN trust him? That is what you should be looking at.

Answer 5

Kick him to the curb. Just go straight to a good divorce attorney without giving any kind of warning. Depending on how much he brings in.... if you ever have worked during the marriage.... property involved.... he could be made to pay you what is your fair share of net worth.

My wife was previously married for a good number of years, and her ex-hubby had numerous affairs. She finally got sick of it and ended it with him (yay me!). Once a cheater, always a cheater. Can't really call him a dog though.... since dogs are faithful.

Answer 6

I think he your husbands past can make you very edgy as youve had this happen before.You know I liked when a couselor he told me if you fall thru the ice you will remember and protect yourself next time by not going on the ice! As humans its a built in system on everything that causes us pain ect.So it really would be best if you cut him loose and get someone you can start over trusting .Good luck!

Answer 7

Believe that the truth will come out. Trust your first intuition. But don't ever leave your home and when ready ask him to leave.

Answer 8

Sorry to report this but I believe that a persons gut feelings or intuition can be not only very strong but very right also. Handle the situation as best you can and good luck to you.

Answer 9

You said they are both acting nervous,,Who? Your sister or friend...And your intuition is usually right but you need proof. Good luck

Answer 10

Hello, you couldn't have heard me the first time. Trust your intuition, especially if he's done it before. He may truly be innocent this time but obviously you still don't trust him.