they say they want to stay together bcuz of the kids.
2006-09-05 11:51:26 · 17 answers · asked by clair 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I recently got out of a loveless marriage. I was told to stay with him just for the kid's. I did not feel this was right. When I was a kid I remember my parent's never showing each other any affection. Never no hugging, kissing or anything. They divorced when I was 10. And when my marriage started going bad I thought about that. I did not want my boy's to grow up in that environment. Growing up I never wanted to get divorced but I did not want to live with someone I could not stand to be around either. I am so much more happier now that I am away. My oldest son likes me a lot better. I am not so grumpy anymore. I am not saying divorce is the answer it just happened to work for me. I had suggested marriage counseling to my ex but he didn't want to go when I did. So I left and THEN he wanted to go to counseling. We went to one session. That might be an option for you. I hope I helped. Good luck.
2006-09-05 12:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by BLONDIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that parents should stay together if they don't live together! My parents are divorced and when I was younger It really hurt my feelings that they didn't love each other! As I grew up and my mother got another husband, and they had my sister, i began to see what its like when parents stay together just for the kids. It isn't fun and its NOT happy, you can tell when people are faking it. and don't we want them to be happy to? It all come down to knowing that BOTH your parents love you just the same even though they are getting divorced, and that it has NOTHING to do with the you (the kids).
2006-09-05 12:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by heyThere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote no, but my parents are still together when I think they shouldn't be. I don't think there is any way divorce could be worse than living with parents who fight and argue constantly. It doesn't create a nurturing living environment if parents can't get along. If the parents would be happier living apart, it will most likely cultivate a happier relationship with the children. As long as the parents don't put the children in the middle of it and make them take sides, all should come out better in the end.
2006-09-05 12:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by KMetc5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they should not. That is what my parents did when I was younger "stayed for the kids" however it ended up hurting the family more than helping it. Seeing your parents fighting all the time can leave emotional scars even if you do not realize right now. Now that I am grown (33), I can see that my parents were so unhappy then and still are. How can a child be happy when their parent(s) never are?
2006-09-05 12:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their marriage is over, it's over.
Staying together "for the kids" usually just makes things worse. Kids are more perceptive than people give them credit for, they sense the tension and most of the time will wish their parents would get a divorce. An unhappy but "unbroken" household is still unhappy.
2006-09-05 11:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by laura_ghill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, parents that don't love each other should not stay for the sake of the children. Then everyone is miserable all the time. Kids are not stupid. They can sense when there is tension in the house.. No one want that for the rest of their lives.
2006-09-05 12:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a child should never be raised in a household of tension with parents who do not love or respect each other anymore..
Staying together "for the children" places the blame of the bad relationship on the childrens heads not on the parents heads where it belongs....
2006-09-05 11:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they shouldn't stay together. They're probably thinking it would be easier on the kids, but it won't. The kids aren't stupid, they know alot more of what's going on than the parents give them credit for. It's actually healthier for the kids if the unhappy parents do split up.
2006-09-05 12:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents who don't love each other should move on from each other. It can work if you are doing for the sake of the children but it will be a quick breakup when all the children are out of the home. Even parents need to be happy.
2006-09-05 11:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents should not stay together if they don't love each other, people grow apart and everyone deserves to be with someone who truly loves them. It is not healthy for children to be raised in a home where there is no love between parents..no one in the home is truly happy.
2006-09-05 12:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by fetter_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋