i have a friend that was in a 8 year relationship. they broke for two years, and of course someone slipped in. this someone does not want to end the relationship with the man. she has a child, although not legally his-he calls him daddy. the man in this case is stating he wants to end the relationship with the woman of two years and resume the eight year. the 2 yr woman is refusing to leave, and he won't throw her out because of the child-and the later effects shelter life might have on him. He still talks with my friend, goes out, visits and communicates with her children-and yes, the woman of 2 years is aware. My advise to her is to break the relationship totally, he has no right to communicate with the children, even though it has been a eight year stretch or allow him to throw the 2 yr woman out and make the 8 year work. what is your advise.
2006-09-05 12:06:30 · 7 answers · asked by ummmm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks, the bugged out thing is that he and the 2 year woman argue every day, this is no lie. But he maintains that he does not want to put her out. If she leaves on her own, then he will not look like the bad guy. I am wondering if there is another catch to this mess, or is it really the child....
2006-09-05 16:30:46 · update #1
If the man is not married to the 2 yr relationship, what is the problem? Tell him to grow up and do the right thing. Life is too short to play footsie with someone because there child calls him daddy.
2006-09-05 12:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's working both sides of the fence and if it is a problem with either woman, then he needs to make a decision of what does he really want. There are children involved and they have probably become attached to him....either way he is going to hurt children if he totally leaves. This is something people need to consider when becoming involved with someone who has children. They not only break up with that person, they are also breaking up with the children. If the children like the person leaving, it is like another divorce. Not good! If this is truly a friend of yours, you need to not tell her what to do. She needs to make the decision that is right for her and everyone involved. It sounds like he is trying to not hurt the children and that makes him a kind & caring human being and confused on top of it. Just remain a supportive friend and listen, but listen only.
2006-09-05 19:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her to leave him why whould she want someone that don't want her and want the other woman!! There are other fish in the sea!!!Yeah maybe take a bit to get over but it will be worth it in the long run!!
2006-09-05 19:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave.
She's basically sharing the man. No matter how he tries to sugar-coat it. If he wanted to leave the 2 year woman he would.
2006-09-05 19:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by SpittinThaReal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butt Out!!!
Who to be with is the mans decision at this point. If they both want him, he has to choose. No one can do it for him.
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
2006-09-05 19:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both women need to get rid of him.
2006-09-05 19:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we must accept anyone love with heart - not love with mind
2006-09-05 19:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋