2006-09-05 01:45:25 · 15 answers · asked by joanne v 72 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It might be for you. Depends what you want. Most people are still looking for something safe, stable, offering long-term friendship and companionship and the possibility to share a life together.
If you are talking about pieces of paper then that's just a convenience and a way of letting other people know that you are seious and have made a commitment. It doesn't have to be a legal or church thing. But for many people taking that step actually changes the relationship even though they don't think it will. The commitment becomes real when you take that public step in a way that it didn't previously.
2006-09-05 01:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by jon2901 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry for sex. Ask 10 married men and 10 married women. 75% of this sampling will tell you. You get less sex after marriage than you got with the same person before the marriage. The other 25% will notice later now that you've asked them.
It is nice if you have fruit and nuts in your cake, but the main ingredient in a cake is flour. It is the flour that makes it a cake.
It is nice if your government has a social services department, but the main ingredient in government is monopoly over violence within its territory.
It is nice if you are in love and happy and skipping all the time, but marriage is a legally binding contract which makes it hard for you to just up and walk away from spouse, debts and children.
When you are old and your health is fading away, it is good to have someone to take care of you. This is another good time to get married.
Everything else (sex, conversation, travel, food) everything else, your sweetheart is equally qualified or better qualified to provide to you even if they are the same person.
Why? People stop putting on their best face and putting their best foot forward because they see each other every every every day and cannot escape.
Your spouse periodically gets tired of you and you periodically get tired of your spouse.
And if your spouse isn't making you happy so what? They know you can't leave, so why bother, right?
Sweetheart has to provide a minimum level of contentment right now, today. Why? You always have the option to just break up.
Marriage helps you keep a spouse dedicated to the children you have together. That is the primary central benefit to you the undersigned.
That is why you should get married.
2006-09-05 01:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by faqsphinx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, alot of people go into marriage with the "happily ever after" in mind, unfortunately most arent mature enough to handle the responsibilites of marriage, and with society excepting divorce the way it does, people tend to haul butt at the slightest problem..instead of working through their problems..
If u marry an immature person that doesnt know what it takes to sustain a healthy marriage, u get what u put into it.. and if u put into it someone with little value in promises that they make, or people that look at their vows as something they just said one day and not something they are actually suppose to live by every day of their life, then u end up with a breached marriage which most of the time ends up in divorce..
So if u pick and choose wisely who u marry, it can work.. and its not out of date, peoples values, morals, and promises, are just next to non-exsistant anymore and thats the problem, not marriage, but the people who are getting married..
2006-09-05 01:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is only as real as what the two people bring to the meaning of it. Unfortunately, especially here in America the consequences of a ruined marriage are no longer significant enough to deter divorce. So it becomes "Until I don't feel like it anymore" instead of "Until death do us part".
The upside to this is that when a marriage is bad a woman (who used to get the bad end of divorce) or man, no longer feels like she has no options but to stay.
I hope that people decide to marry for the sake of union instead of the sake of ceremony.
2006-09-05 01:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your question and somewhat agree. The problem is that our culture is set up for marriage. If you live with someone and for go the legal parameters of a marriage license, if something happens to your love one, then your left out in the cold by the government, no SSI or insurance compensation. It stinks, but we have to live with it.
2006-09-05 01:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the urge to get married.....find the person you hate most in this world and buy them a house and give them half of everything you have. That's what divorce is....
That should get the marriage bug out of your system.
Just my thoughts......
2006-09-05 03:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. marriage is a joke. No longer a serious concept.
2006-09-05 01:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It never HAS & it never WILL be!!! God ordained marriage in the garden of Eden w/Adam & Eve. One man with one woman til death do us part!
The only circumstances where a divorce is necessary is adultery & domestic violence!
2006-09-05 02:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Phil P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's you...that has no concept of what marriage really is.
2006-09-05 02:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by xxx 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
nope. although there are some who believe so. if u take marriage seriously, it may just b the most precious thing to exist in the world
2006-09-05 01:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋