a week ago he confessed about having or@l s3x and s#x with a prositute 2 days prior to his confession. he said he was guilty, promised he won't do it again and told me he realized i was the only woman for him. now he's worried that he might have gotten HIV and keeps wanting my affirmation that everything would be fine. i think its unsesitive of him to ask that question. it hurts me everytime he asks me because i keep remebering what he had done. im hurting so much and i thought as days passed it will slowly go away, but i guess i was wrong. its eating me up. im confused, i love him but im just afraid he will do it again to me. do you think he will do it again, even with a woman who is not a hooker?or should i leave him now?
2006-09-05 00:34:21 · 24 answers · asked by addiee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i just keep asking the same question because i want to know different anwers.. i dont know anyone to talk to, what he did is too shamful that i cant talk it with anyone i know.
2006-09-05 00:43:10 · update #1
sorry you have to go though that i would leave him because once a cheater alway cheater. you dont even know what he could or can pick up. you dont want him to give it to you. you are to young for this ****. you will meet someone else and i hope this help. if you want to talk you can email me ok. good luck
2006-09-05 01:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave his sorry @ss. Some things you just shouldn't get a second chance about. But, when you're invested emotionally, I know it's hard. Of course, he should be worried about HIV, and about the possibility of giving it to you!! I think the chances are pretty good that if you forgive him, he'll eventually do it again. This is not something that someone can give you an answer to, and you know you have to find the answer yourself - so I would suggest you talk to a counselor to assist you in coming to a decision you can live with.
2006-09-05 07:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by BG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him is your decision. Tell him(don't ask) to get tested now and for the next several yrs, HIV can stay hidden for many yrs but can be passed on to you. If he's going to a ho then he feels that there is something missing in your relationship. Open and honest intercourse(talking) is the only answer. Ask him what he feels is missing. There's no guarantee he won't do it again, but keeping the lines of communication open will help to air his and your feelings. Honesty is the only way to work a relationship.
Good luck!
2006-09-05 07:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Redeft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I want to say I know how you feel my husband after 10 years cheated with a younger woman ,and I loved him so much to .he told me the same stuff and this chick thought she was pregnant and me and him cant have kids together im fixed ,he is a stepdad .I was all hurt just like a death had taken place in my heart .I choose to forgive him and my friend if only I could turn back time and do it over that would of been my door to get out it has been hell since drugs and who knows what else .take my advise ,find you a really good man that is more mature and find happiness ,you will hurt for awhile but its better sometimes to hurt alone than to set home wandering all the time .so I can only tell yah my story and hope it helps you .but like I said if only I could go back to the day he cheated and was busted I would run like crazy away from him .me staying has hurt more and caused more problems than I can deal with .good luck I truely wish the best for you .and I do know your pain.
2006-09-05 07:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an answer in your other question. Here I want to stress that feeling sorry for him is not the answer. Also, the idea that a prostitute can do something for a man that his wife can't do is usually hog wash.
The only thing a prostitute does is flaunt her body and her demons and stroke a misguided ego. Don't get pulled into worthless discussion or guilt over what it is "you don't got."
Your options are total change or divorce with no sloppy reasons and no arguments.
2006-09-06 10:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by Tommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him more about the HIV. You can get that i would be a little worried. If you still love him you can make it work but both of you are going to have to forget about the past. I know it will be hard. You will have to trust him so you need to decide what you can handle.
2006-09-05 13:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm YEAH!!!! most def if he thinks he has HIV. thats his dumb @$$ if he went out and got a prostitue. Do you not think he would do it again? i mean he had to actually go out and look for it. what if an opportunity comes to him, you dont think he would pass it away?! Leave him now! hes trying to turn it around and making it like he is the victim becuase now he wants support. he should of thought about that before he went and been a HOE! Good luck!
2006-09-05 07:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by SamsMomma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I so sympathize with you. It is painful when the person u love betrays you. BUt you have to consider that it was premeditated. It did not just happen o the spur of the moment. He went out, rented a woman and had sex with her. Everyone makes mistakes but... Plus it seems like he is wanting pity for a mistake that HE made. In my opinion...he made his bed now let him lie in it.
2006-09-05 07:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep asking the same question? You've asked this several times now in this topic and many people have answered you.
Sorry I know it hurts but try to read some of the Answers people have already posted on your other threads.
2006-09-05 07:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you need to leave him. Once a cheater always a cheater.
Please stop re-asking this question over an over, my answer will always be the same
2006-09-05 07:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋