he llies about money and things he calls little. i love him but my health keeps getting worse ...he adds stress to my life........should it be that simple?
2006-09-05 01:16:38 · 27 answers · asked by sissy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok so he has problems with money.. if the roles were reversed would u think that he should dismiss u to easily as to get a divorce.. u say u have health problems.. should he dismiss u so easily and get a divorce because of them??? No, marriage is about working through things, is it wrong that he's being stupid with the money, yes, he's causing alot of unwanted problems so how do u fix it? Do u stand up and say im not going to deal with this crap anymore, and figure away around it.. or do u just give up cause well he's not perfect nor is anyone else in this world, and see if u can work through this... My husband has a hard time with money as well, alot stems from his childhood of not having money so at times money burns a hole in his pocket when he sees something he wants cause when he was younger he never had an opportunity to "have" things.. Has it caused problems.. yeah here and there nothing major, but he understands that he'd much rather have his bills paid then all this other stuff.. and he knows if it ever gets out of control that i will put a stop to it.. since i control the money as i am the one that pays the bills as far as writing the checks and mailing them off, that i have control and if i ever feel the need to i'll open another account, and i will only give him an allowance out of that account and if he spends through it.. tuff the rest is for bills.. but id never leave him over it..
Sweetie sorry but life is stressful, but like they say God doesnt give u anything that he feels u cant handle and dont think that theres other people out there that have it a hell of alot worse then u.. cause there are.... Your life could be a hell of alot worse .. so be thankful for what u have, and work on the things that u feel need work on.. but dont think that life is going to get any less stressful if your divorce cause then instead of two people working towards life, its only u, and everything depends on u at that point..
2006-09-05 01:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nothing is that simple. Have you invested in the services of a marriage counselor? A well-trained one can cut through the emotion and accusations and help the two of you see if the marriage is worth saving and if the both of you really want to save it, and then help you do what's necessary to get there. Don't give up on what you've built together if the problems are something that can be fixed. Nobody knows the two of you like you two do, but sometimes it takes an unobjective outsider to help stitch things back together.
Good luck.
2006-09-05 01:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First have you tried Marriage counceling. if he isnt that bad then you will throw something good away but if he is that bad.. Then you should get a divorce. theres always someone that will outdo him. and care about you.. and Make little things become a big deal. in exspense everything is well thought out and exspects the worst. And someone that wont stress you out but will bring you happiness and will have his promices and Words based on Honesty.
2006-09-05 02:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason anyone should get a divorce is one cheating on the other. confront him and tell him you are tired of his lying. tell him you know he is lying and call him down each time you catch him in a lie. and he is the abusive type then take the abuse at the time then catch him asleep tie down the corners of the sheet to the bed over him then wake him have a bar of soap in a pillow case and wear him out this will solve many problems and things will settle down.
2006-09-05 01:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life in general is never simple. sounds to me like you're just looking for a way to give yourself an excuse to divorce your husband.
Stress is your excuse to...and you're the only one that can control how much of it you want to control you.
You need to make up your mind what you want out of life including your marriage and either make it or break it!
2006-09-05 01:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is the quote on quote bad boy which many women love it's like what super chicken say you knew the job was dangerous when you took it. Or as Ice man king parsons say it's be's that way all the time how mercy.
2006-09-05 01:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by southernbound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, may I ask you a question..? Did you take your vow to God and answered I do unconditionally, I would contemplate twice on divorce give it more time and talk to him 'til you get it to his head-my wife she hang onto me and didn't give up with the same problem that you have, and I think I making little progress.
2006-09-05 01:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jetty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lies about little things, he will lie about anything. If it is affecting your health, I would get out of the situation. You have to think about yourself once in a while.
2006-09-05 01:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lying husband does indeed add stress to ur life. if he says sum "small things" are little theyre really big. so hes a ***** and find som1 who loves u
2006-09-05 01:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by dagermon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would first get help if that doesnt work then divorce him because you dont need that much stress in your life and a marriage is based on trusted ok. good luck
2006-09-05 01:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋