The problem- when we first got together our sex life was incredible. NOW , it seems like he just does it to shut me up and seems to only care about watching porn on cable every chance he gets . I am in great shape , 5ft 2 blond ,decent boobs and rear, very sensual . I guess I just dont understand. Ive watched porn with him, but it is getting to the point that it is a turnoff to me and ive even made the comment , "are you doing it with me or the tv" . Any good advice? Im getting really tired of this whole situation.
2006-09-05 01:57:13 · 13 answers · asked by cinlu45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You ever think about trying some of the things he is watching. Maybe that will spice up your sex life.
2006-09-05 02:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hummm makes u wonder why he got a divorce the first time around doesnt it.. ????? He is a little boy trapped in a mans body unfortunately at this late age in the game he still hasnt grown up enough to know what being a "real man" is.. unfortunately he is substituting u for Porn.. hence the reason why Porn in a marriage is not good.. and only eventually causes insecurities and a poor sex life along with a lack of intimacy..
Good advice.. hummmmmm get rid of all the porn, or means of it..and stop doing all wifely duties, cooking cleaning sex, ect.. act happy and confident, but alittle cold, but civilized do only for yourself.. when he wonders what the hell is up.. tell him u'll start actting like a wife when he starts treating u like one...
2006-09-05 09:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is becoming addicted to porn.
Most guys love porn, but when they start passing up on the real thing in order to watch porn ... then there is a problem.
You should discuss this with a minister or therapist. It's only going to get worse, so the sooner he gets help the better.
2006-09-05 09:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your man has a problem. The porn is no longer helping him be a good lover. You can do the following:
--Allow yourself to become more like the "porn stars" so that he doesn't have to get off watching them.
--Tell him either must either choose the porn or you. Make the necessary adjustments according to his answers (love him OR leave him).
In black and white terms, those seem to be your two options.
You have to decide which is best.
Good luck!
2006-09-05 09:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing u can do is not to watch porn with him. Let it be his hobby only.
Let him do the beggin when it comes to sex.
He is older and yet more foolish in his ways.
Find u a hobby like reading or writing, or gardenin and let him
come to u for attention. The porn stuff will grow old and dull
once he sees u have hobbies of your own.
2006-09-05 09:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to reconnect with each other (gosh I sound like DR. Phil). Talk to him why he's more intrested in porn than having the real deal.
I think, that he's just saturated with your current sexlife situation. Maybe you can try out new things, like; gadgets, lingerie or just watch porn with him to get inspiration to improve the saturated sexlife situation.
2006-09-05 09:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ankhesenamun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he needs some little blue pills and that might help.
If he likes porn so much make a home movie of you masturbating if this does not work make a movie of you getting f**k by his best friend. Then leave his limp ####
2006-09-05 09:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by dg_154u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems that the age gap is starting to rear its ugly head; suggest to him that you get a lover to "fill in when he's not in the mood - no pun" and see if he'll get the hint. If not, start looking for one anyways.
2006-09-05 09:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has a problem
I 'll bet that he will refuse to talk about it
for you to find out if he have a problem is to no thave sex with him after he watchs porn
2006-09-05 09:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know unless he wants to try something new and he donsn't know how to ask you. Ask him if he wants to try something he see's or get some toys and have him watch you and see if that gets him going some men like to watch
2006-09-05 09:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋